Hi all ,am new to this site was just at my 10 year old sons soccer game and once again he had a fit and drew attention to himself and once again I felt embarrassed and then guilt for feeling embarassed. He started a new division in soccer and there more serious with the rules sooo my son had his shin pads on the outside of his pants and near the end of the game the ref noticed and told him he had to get off the field well my son got really mad and through his shin pads and basically made an a** of himself and later when I was talking with him he was saying he doesnt know why sometimes he cant control his anger and he feels violent. It scares me because most of the time he is a quiet shy kid but then these outbursts happen and I guess I just really needed to vent to someone , anyone who could just understand my frustration and guilt and sadness.....such terrible sadness I dont know what to do somedays and somedays I think I am handling things well. Gosh, I am just rambling ok well my point was...yes lol I really did have point...was that I was wondering if anyone out there had any good tips for helping our ADHD children manage their anger when it overwhelmes them.
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| Name: tigertracks33 | Date: May 25th, 2007 9:02 PM |
| Lori Lite has some really good relaxation materials for children. My daughter is enjoying them, and she is learning some stress/coping skills. Also, I constantly remind her to express her feelings with her words. Granted, my daughter being 5 is younger, but my little hints remind her of the things she has learned, and we both deal with it better. Also, only because I have been there and understand your guilt, frustration and saddness, I would encourage you to get some counseling to take good care of yourself. Counseling really helped me, and in turn helped my daughter. Our children need us to be strong, and healthy. Blessings ↑ |
| Name: wendyjean | Date: May 28th, 2007 1:27 AM |
| i know the frustration you felt at the game i feel it to with my son he flys off the wall at any public place and it is very difficult to live a normal life considering we cant go anywhere, like to the stores i never know when he will flip out..like today we went to the dollar sore and it was a mission, i was going to take him to the show but he ran off on me three times in the store , i will ask him nicely to stay near me or ride in the cart, he knockes things off the rack or climbs out and runs off , i dread going to the store just to get toothpaste and soap...i was so upset i just decided to come home and stay home like we have done several times this is what the therapists recommend, leaving the store and come home but it is so isolating,,, im glad i found the website, i felt so alone just reading these posts is comforting to know other parents are going through what i am... ↑ |
| Name: tigertracks33 | Date: May 29th, 2007 8:13 PM |
wendy....
my daughter does the same thing. She will throw fits like that at the stores, and being a single mom I don't have any other choice but to bring her. I dread the trips the majority of the time as well. Sometimes the things that I listed below will work, but other times, they don't work at all. Yesterday for instance, we went to the goodwill to find her some summer clothes. She threw a fit because she wanted to be in the dressing room herself. She threw the clothes down, kicked the wall, yelled at me, and wouldn't stop. Finally she calmed down, but it was terrible. My daughter is taking Strattera, and it seems that the fits have got better since she started that, but still....I have asked her doc about them, and he says that it is all behavioral stuff. The worst part is, unless I start to cry, she laughs and thinks she is so dang funny. Sassy as can be, and I cannot seem to control her outbursts. Do you notice a spiraling effect? It seems like she just starts in with a little problem, and if/when that happens, you just know that all hell is going to break loose?
Kymn, have you found anything that is helping your son to break out of these situations?
My daughter doesn't seem to get to violent, its like a roller coaster emotional effect with spurts of anger.....
I don't know, it is tiring, and obnoxious. I feel terrible when these things happen because I don't know what to do.
I guess Im just wondering if anyone else is having this experience, and what is working to help. thanks ↑ |
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