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Im a mum of 3 my eldest daughter of 10 has been trialing ritalin for 6 months now.its been like a miracle, to see her behaviour change from that of a demon to the child i thought id raised, since she was diagnoised my middle daughter has been showing more and more familiar patterns and when i look back over her school life so far many patterns have been the same from day 1.I know home behaviours may well be learnt but for school to be the same bothers me as they attend different schools and always have.her teachers are also noticing things that are different. My youngest is also constantly on the go she is two we are always up at 7am and the youngest goes to sleep at 11 she doesnt have any day time naps is this normal? my other concern is the genetical link how likley is it that all 3 could have adhd and if it is the case it has to be my fault as really ive only pushed for help because they remind me so much of me as a child where could i go to get all my questions answered i live in wiltshire in england if anyone can help me get to the bottom of all this please or know of someone who may be able to help please reply. i feel like im going crazy. thanks. ↓
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| Name: highspiritedx5 | Date: Mar 3rd, 2007 3:16 AM |
Dear Dizzy,
Hang in there I am a single mom raising twin girls almost 12, a 10 yr old son and a 9 yr old daughter in which ALL have ADHD! It has been shown to be passed down by parents, yes, as I have adult ADD also. I suggest you seek the top Child psyciatrist in your area to do a full work up on your children, Administering the proper medications will help them in school with focus and hyperactivity and self control. With out medication and proper diet, no sugar, or very little also, anyway without meds, it's like having 100 things running in your mind at all times and you do not know which one to focus on, starting one project,then another and another, then you are at the end of the day, exhausted from doing all the running in circles and have completed nothing! your daughter shoul be set to a strict schedule of rest time after lunch even though she will not like it stay with it after a while she will get used to it and 8-9 pm at the latest for her to be in bed, to stay, again it wont be easy but you can do it. Until you get your children seen by a professional. My son was diagnosed at age 4 and I have been thru hell and back when all were diagnosed and myself 2 yrs ago. They need routine to be the same so they know what to expecy daily, some things they cannot help doing its the irritation of this disorder. I wish you The best and Gods blessings to your family, Remember to take a few minutes lock yourself in the bathroom if need be and regroup, breathe and tell yourself it will be ok! ↑ |
| Name: Charms | Date: Mar 15th, 2007 9:20 AM |
Hi dizzy. Unfortuately, they say ADHD is hereditary and It's scary when you find out that another one of your children has a problem. I have two girls. My oldest is ADHD and now the teachers of my youngest are suspecting she has ADD! I just don't think I should have another child! We have got to try to remember that it is not our fault, it's nobody's fault. It could have come from your great grandfather for all you know. It's so hard to deal with, I know and we have to look after ourselves before we can do the best for our kids. We have to take one day at a time.
Charms ↑ |
| Name: mumtazo | Date: Mar 16th, 2007 10:23 AM |
| I have a daughte with ADHD, dx at 6 years, she is now 10, I still feel like I am going crazy but it it always about total managment, take here to an therapist and they will be best be able to you, constant management of your 10 yr meds are importatnt ince when she gets older she will require perhaps another dose if the past problems starts up again, Goodluck ↑ |
| Name: aktopsnax | Date: Apr 10th, 2007 9:28 PM |
| hi dizzy this is the first time ive ever been in a chat room im a 45 yr old mom of a 7 yr old girl i felt like when i went about my daughter i had to disguise the way i was to make them realise it wasnt me making her the way she is because i thought that was what it was was the way she is is because she is the same as me i hope u understand what i am on about it is genetic. all the best. mandy ↑ |
| Name: momgonecrazy | Date: May 7th, 2007 8:12 PM |
| My oldest is 9 she first started takein meds for ADHD and ODD when she was 4. My middle child is almost 6 and he has been taken meds for about 2 years now. The doctors say that if there is any family members with ADHD or even some types of depression there is a greater chance that the children are going to have it espeacially the children that are born with both mother and fathers families or themselves haveing it. Here the doctors will not do anything as far as meds intill they are at least 4. They say it is because they might not have it they might just be learning some of the behavior from the other children or that they are normal with alittle extra energy. I hate the fact of 2 of my children being on meds but if it helps them for their future and to keep everyone around them from going crazy then I guess that is the way it has to be. I also have a 1 year old and she no longer takes naps either the doctors hear say it is normal. Maybe they just don't need it. children will let you know if they need a rest or not. Just go with the follow when it comes to nap. As far as more information on ADHD and related topics I would say if you have a doctor that is a specailist with children with mental helth issues you could start there and always research as much information on the net you can. If your daughters meds get changed make sure you fully research everything you can about it before you give it to her. Hope some of this could help you..Best wishes.... ↑ |
| Name: ADDGIRL | Date: May 28th, 2007 3:00 AM |
Dizzy,
I had ADHD, it's different for girls than it is for boys. I agree that having a strict schedule is helpful, knowing boundaries and what needs to be done is great for us with ADHD, but so is having the freedom to get things done when we're having a "good brain day"....exercise and play can help the ADD brain reset, so it's important that when your child is feeling outta control - you'll know by their behavior- that you engage them in some sort of rigorous exercise.... Answers to Distraction is a great book for parents that can give you some guidance in dealing with ADD. ↑ |
| Name: LuckyBre | Date: Jun 4th, 2007 3:23 AM |
It's normal to feel like you're going crazy. However, I would recommend that you read as much as you can about ADHD - there is some great information on the CHADD website, as well as several books.
ADHD definitely has a genetic link - so it is not at all impossible that all of your kids are dealing with their own versions of the same condition.
Be sure and talk to your doctor.
Good luck and God Bless ↑ |
| Name: none of your bissuness | Date: Jun 11th, 2007 9:05 PM |
| Name: mad cow | Date: Oct 11th, 2007 8:25 PM |
| I am also a mum of 3 and my eldest is 14 and my middle one is 11 and my youngest is 9, my middle one has ADHD and yes its extremely difficult. She has been on Ritalin since she was 7 and it was a god send because she never slept till then and she is more settled in school. She is also incontinent but in this summer holidays we cracked it in the day its just first thing in the morning when she cant be bothered to get up. She is at the moment going through puberty so she is realy difficult she is so slow at getting ready and shouts all the time and her organisational skills are something to be desired. She is always losing stuff and forgets to write her homework in and she is a pain at doing her home work. I live in North Devon so if you want to chat let me know i will do my best. ↑ |
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