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Name: marija | Date: Nov 28th, 2006 2:20 AM |
CEEXCEE First of all KICK your husband...really really hard!!!!... then the teachers, principal and police... i know i have just posted a therapy and medication post in SAHM about how easy people tend to lean on drugs and meds...butttttt you fall into the other catergory..this has been ongoing for years it looks like... has nobody referred him to a specialist? He looks as though he has a personality disorder or ADHD. My husband used to have a foster boy every second weekend and when i first lived with him my son was the same age..and like you thought he was a evil little kid..hubby said it was because of his upbringing and thought letting the kid have his way was going to make it better, my son (both were 5 at the time)was not allowed to win any game they played because the other kid would get too upset and throw things, i told him not to play with him and then the kid would run to hubby crying and telling him that my son was mean and threw things at him..(lies) my dh would then force my son to play with him and lose, every time he let him win this kid would jump around him in his face and called him a stupid loser and im the greatest cause im the winner...how much of this can a "normal" 5yo take before he becomes angry. I stomped on it after a month of it..my husband had to pick the child up and only have him during day hours. on those days we went out. 2 years later they found out that he had Aspergus?? and was put on meds and now if you see him you wouldnt recognise him..very well behaved..has his moments like any other kid. I cant believe that noone has thought to look in this direction 1st clue...mother cant put up with it anymore..( In your eyes is she a good mother) 2nd clue...No body likes him..(classic personality disorder symptom) 3rd clue...Hard time focusing on tasks (school) and Everything is about him...ADHD kids can be self-absorbed and have short attention spans what is sad about your situation is that these people (school staff and police) are trained to look out for these clues and should of discussed these with the parents long long ago. good luck ↑ |
Name: girli_bird | Date: Jan 16th, 2007 6:06 AM |
he is 8 and you think he is an evil little kid, that is really sad and I am sure that he can read that about you. It is hard to deal with a life change and its even harder when the child acts like this. Now I am by no way saying he should get away with this behavior nor get rewarded for it. But ther could be bigger problems here then everyone thinks and maybe he needs some type of help.Maybe you should talk to his dad about things that can improve his behavior and deflect the bad behavior. Putting parents agisnt each other is pretty commen. They are going to have to talk and agree that they while the child can exspress their fealing, the parents wont be evolved in talking bad about the other parent or you. I do think that it is importamt that your children play with him or i don't think his issues will go away. You might want to spend alone time with him just you and him. It might be strange at first but I think it will be good for you and him. ↑ |