Ok, this is my first post here and it gives me some hope someone will have an answer! So here is the story- my husbands twin bro(my brother-in-law) had a baby with...a casual ``hook up``. Well even though the father couldnt stand the mother, he stayed with her for 2 yrs but couldnt make it work. She lied and stole, it was crazy. so the ''mother'' met someone online and signed the papers giving the father full custody and leaving herself ''reasonable visitation''. So, the dad to provide works long hrs as a deputy (as well as my husband) well when i saw my niece going to anyone he could keep her, he'd even get people to watch ger while he slept after a night of video games. So, I suggested she live with us so she'd have a stable home. well the father gave me porvisional custody since im the main caregiver.At first her dad would come over for hrs and play with her but his visits are becomming less and less. The little girl is very smart, however she can talk but not really communicate. Shes almost 3 and cant tell me shes hungry or hurt and im almost possitive its because her parents didnt really talk to her. I realized the issue and learned some ways to help her catch up. she amazes me with how fast she picks up.So my original question is, since mom is gone and she barely sees dad, she calls everyone she meets ''mom'' & ''dad'', She calls me mom or mommy, do i let her and encourage it? i know ill never take the place of her bio mom but maybe until shes old enough, ill be her mommy`. or do u think it would confuse her? she doesnt see her mom at all. its so touchy because i want the best for her and i want to provide comfort and security. So yay or nah on her calling me mommy? by theway, her dad doesnt mind one bit. please give me any thoughts and advise, i realli appreciate it!
confused mom of 1.....or 2? ↓