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Name: steamingandtired
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Is it me or does it seem that no one has matched with a birthmom from any of these posts? Im in a same-sex female relationship trying to adopt for over a year and Im just getting sick of the games.
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Name: kimmi | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 10:48 AM
hi, i am in the same boat as you and have recently found a pretty cool adoption agency who have no problem with same sex couples. check it out:
good luck. 

Name: to steamingandtired | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 9:37 PM
Overcome. Hope is out there.


Name: to the bible thumpers | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 1:33 AM
not everyone believes in what you believe. overcome that. 

Name: educated realist | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 1:05 PM
First of all, all schools of thought based in empirical evidence supports that homosexuality is genetic and cannot be changed. Second, doctor run organizations including the APA recognize same-sex families and have testified to that. Not everyone believes what you believe.. Not many people believe that polygamy is "God's way". Quite honestly, I can't think of one doctor sanctioned organization that agrees with it yet people continue to practice it. Homosexuality was practiced and celebrated before Christ's birth. (If you read history). As an educated person who has read the bible there is not much supporting the anti-gay movement. To call homosexuality an "abomination" can be interpreted many ways and most educated biblical scholars DO NOT interpret it as a sin considering eating food with a cloven hoof is considered an abomination too. Where would all the cattle ranchers be if that were the case? I refer you to the book "Is homosexuality really a sin?" written by an Episcopal pastor. Regardless, it is people's right to rely solely on faith even in the face of evidence. However, I would like to think that people have evolved beyond that. Otherwise, we would all still be thinking that thunder means the god's are displeased rather than and natural occuring weather event. 

Name: err.. | Date: Feb 24th, 2006 9:44 PM
C'mon Natalie, you can do better than that..or is your fourth grade education getting the better of you? Why don't you pick up a book (not See Spot Run, Goosebumps, or Are you there God?It's Me, Margaret) be it the Bible or an actual medical reference on the subject and learn. Support your feelings with facts or faith. But as for "disgusting"...I think the way my neighbor who is STRAIGHT treats his wife and kids is disgusting and he can't hold a candle to the way I respect others and my family. Yet, you find it funny and just to come in here and point a finger and say gays are disgusting? You must not have a mirror or any basis of self introspection because, my dear..your judgementalism is disgusting. 

Name: to the 2 comment | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 8:31 AM
My little brother is adopted and he has no problem with our mother being lesbian because he gets all the love he could ever want and if I was to ever consider adoption which I dont think I would cause I love kids but I would definatley look into same sex couples since I have gotten more love and support from my mothers same sex couple friends then her straight ones. I think its rude when people that dont believe in same sex couple come in here and post negative comments when they can state there opinion with out being so rude. 

Name: Believe it possible | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 4:13 PM
Thanks for this link:



Name: bigdaddy | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 4:26 AM
I don't go on fundy sites and pass judgement on them--why do they insist on coming on the "Alternative Family" fourm and pass judgement on us? Once again I have to say that it appears that these judgemental 'christians' might want to try another chruch--one that is not so intolerant, thank god 

Name: Notice.. | Date: Feb 27th, 2006 5:09 PM
notice..not one arguement based in fact against same-sex adoption..just posts of "overcome" . Well, didn't Martin Luther King, Jr., THE GREAT CIVIL RIGHTS LEADER state, "we shall overcome"? However, he didn't mean overcome by OPPRESSING the freedom to be who you are. Give me a break people. 

Name: Kimberly | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 1:00 AM
I tell you the nerve of these straight homophobiacs coming in here and passing judgement. There is nothing wrong with 2 Moms or Dads! I can definetly say that whenever you find that special person out there that will give you a child, she or he will be so lucky, because you will love them very much. My partner and I have 2 children and they are just fine! In fact the kids at school say they are so lucky because they know how much we love and support them. We are very involved with there school activities and the school staff are very good they know that we are 2 moms that love our kids and they support us. Homophobiacs stay out and try to get a life! 

Name: overcome? | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 5:36 PM
LDS...hmmm....Umm..Utah, polygamy, "Under the Banner of Heaven", a judge just go removed from the bench for being a LDS polygamist in Utah...why dont you overcome that too...or is that mysogny guised as religious freedom? 

Name: ??? | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 2:08 PM
When did you become the authority on "normal" vs. "abnormal"? Again, another comment based on opinion..not in fact. Other cultures have different ways of living that people think are abnormal..why arent you posting on other international sites about their "flaws"? Do you go to a Spanish, Canadian, or Dutch websites that grants same-sex marriages legally and petition to them? Isn't it sad that the US, the leader of the free world has less Civil Rights for the GLBT community than other countries? 

Name: Amy | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 2:19 PM
you know I think you have more rights now than straight people. You dont have to be married to get your parteners insurance here where I live, all you need to be is a signifigant other. But I cant get on my boyfriends insurance because we are not gay even though I am pregnant with his baby. Yah thats real fair huh? So who' s being discriminated against now? So all your whinging and bitching has paid off but has hurt straight people in the long run. So maybe thats where the bitterensss comes in. I have a right to my opinion also, I dont agree with same sex couples. And by the way this forum isnt only for the gay people, its for alternative families, and that isnt just made up of the homosexuals. 

Name: amy dear | Date: Mar 1st, 2006 5:00 PM
My same-sex partner cant be on my benefits. Where do you live? I think that's only possible in VT and MA. That boils down to 1/25th of the ENTIRE USA. You can get married in ALL 50 states where your boyfriend and you can share all of the benefits that you want. So here are your options...get married or become a domestic partner. You have more options, my friend than we do. Oh, and regardless of all our "whining and bitching" and the few rights we have asserted...you still wouldnt have been able to put your boyfriend on your benefits. 

Name: Kimberly | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 9:32 PM
I agree with you last poster! Amy, I wish here where I live my partner can be on my insurance! We can't even claim each other on our tax refunds but a boyfriend and girlfriend can but not 2 girls because as they say it's not legal. Here we can't legally get married, but at least there is committment ceremonies! " Straight people being discriminated now as you say" I really don't think that is true, you don't have to fight for what you believe in, but we do just because straight people say it's not normal. And if you don't agree with same sex couples stay out of those post that have same sex couples in it and go with your crowd. 

Name: oh please! | Date: Mar 9th, 2006 5:11 PM
God also made Cain and Abel but do we talk about that? 

Name: defend? | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 4:20 PM
who is defending your ignorance? a bunch of other ignorant people. Wow...what back up. The ignorant leading the ignorant. Put me on that team right away. 

Name: pc | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 5:57 PM
It's not so much that there isn't anything wrong with 2 moms or 2 dads....it's the lack of a mom or a dad that makes it not right.

We underestimate the roles that Mother Nature has deemed important.

If this continues, we will suffer the consequences in 20+ years.

Prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Use logic.
Whenever humankind thinks it knows better then Mother Nature, it backfires with terrible results.

Children need at botha Mom and a Dad. Keeping one or the other from a child intentionally harms the child. 

Name: I'm straight, who cares!!!!! | Date: May 12th, 2006 4:46 AM
Gay is not a choice, it's not like voting, being gay isn't a mood, it's actually natural. Why are people so ignorant? And just imagine how difficult is is for gay people in this cruel world. Are you able to make the decision of what color\race you are? And as for same sex couples being parents, it isn't a bad thing at all. Only ignorant people say it is wrong. Get a life people, stop being so rude and miserable. 

Name: so sad..... | Date: May 12th, 2006 4:52 AM
it's so sad that this world has made people believe that a person has no choice in their sexuality. all you are doing is blaspheming a Holy God. God made a woman for a man. that's it. Cain and Abel were brothers. not lovers.
i guess you will see when you stand before God on judgement day. good luck explaining to Him that "i was born this way." 

Name: and to err.... | Date: May 12th, 2006 5:01 AM
if you are going to try and use "big words," make sure they are found in Websters first. "judgementalism" is not a word. 

Name: p.c. | Date: May 13th, 2006 4:02 PM
On another thread, someone posted this website link:


thank them for it, for I found it interesting, although a bit disturbing.

Those who believe that homosexual behavior is 'natural' or that objections (to the legal alterations people choosing to behave in such a manner are trying to make) are a matter of 'judgement' and 'intolerance' should read it. For I know darn well that if I posted here that you believe that such behavior is natural because of brainwashing, you would deny it.

But read it.
You will see that all of us have been subject to it. And even I almost fell for it, until someone was trying to tell me that we did not allow homosexuals to marry and I said "What??! Ofcourse they are allowed to marry. They just choose not to marry." And looked further into what was going on.

(And don't tell me that people with same sex attraction are not allowed to marry, for they are! I have known some who have been, and some who are. It's just the term "marriage" they want to alter to allow them to marry members of the same sex instead, which changes marriage.)

This link addressed the very matter of what is going on. I thank the person who posted it, for I have shared it with others. 

Name: Sara Jo | Date: May 30th, 2006 9:33 PM
Why dont you talk to your partner and see if one of yall 2 would like to get preggie and have a kid in both of yalls names, maybe finding a guy to help will be easer then adopting 

Name: Nadine | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 3:38 AM
I am really shocked that people still have a problem with same sex partners!!! I am from a small town and i have never been in a same sex relationship but i know the difference between born gay and choosing to be gay and it sounds like to me that Steamingandtired and her partner are actully born gay or they would just go out and get pregnant!!! I dont know but women can actually do that but if they are born gay then the thought of a man touching them would not be thought of !!! Stop judging people !!! 

Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 6:43 PM
I'm not homesexual but I absolutely disgusted when no one has anything better to do then come into an alternative family forum just so they can pass judgement on those who have a differently lifestyle then they.

For those of you who when asked why you feel the way you do and your answer is, " Because the bible says." Stop preaching the bible and actually start reading it because apparently you either skipped over, didn't understand it or the pages are missing from your bible because the bible also state not to judge. To love thy neighbor like thy self. If you would like I could send you direction to you nearest library to get more educated.

I saw a bumper sticker that I am actually thinking of buying because it reminds me of situation like this all the time...The bumper sticker say, "You say your a christian because you go to church. Does that make me a car if I stand in the garage."

Children are not better of if they are raised by a mother and a father. The are better off when they are in a family where they have people who love them, protect them and give them things to help the grow in life. Whether this be a family that contains a mother or father, a single mother, a single father, two mother or even yes ever two dad.

The fear of the unknown gets us all the time doesn't it..... 

Name: screen | Date: Aug 7th, 2006 6:01 AM

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