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Ok.... where do i start on this one...
Amanda and i have been best friends since we where in elementry school. she never made the best decisions, i always looked out for her. she got into a bad realationship with an individual that is bi-polar, and is now pregnant with his child. They had broken up before she was aware of the pregnancy and is not returning to him. Instead, my boyfriend/ commonlaw husband are openning up our home to her until she has had her child then it is up to her what to do with the child and her life she is a gereactric nurse and was just sarting to get her life on track when this happened. She is hoping to put the baby up for adoption and move on with her life (but she may change her mind). Currently my hubby and i are the only ones who know that she is pregnant and she doesn't want to tell the father of the child her family or his family. i am not sure what to do i want to help her and let her know that she is not alone, but i am terrified that she is going to leave the child here and move on with her life. i do not want to adopt her child. i want to help my friend....
can you help me?
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Name: Jess | Date: Jan 17th, 2006 4:29 PM
Hi There,
My husband and I are trying to adopt, if Amanda is interested in pursuing adoption. Have you let her know your feelings? You should not feel pressured to raise her child because she is your best friend. I know it is hard when you want to help someone you are close too, but if you are not ready either Amanda should realize that too and do what is right for her baby. There are also maternity homes where she may be able to go, if you want to try to remain as objective as possible. May I ask how far along is she and where you guys are located ( I think in another post you said Canada, but I am not sure)


Name: [email protected] | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 9:57 PM
she is about 6 weeks along right now.....
We have talked about it and we have decided that i am not going to adopt her child and she now realizes that....
i have been talking to a lovely family in mississippi for the last week and hopefully when amanda gets here on monday they will begin talking....
thank you for your support and if you want to talk my email addy is posted above.

Name: kim | Date: Jan 23rd, 2006 4:50 AM
don't stress! there are so many people out there who want a newborn... i know my partner and i do, we would be willing to talk to you all further. are you in canada? we are in the states but i am canadian. someone will take and love that baby. let me know if you need to talk more...... 

Name: Nadine | Date: Apr 1st, 2006 3:45 AM
Ok ! I really think that the father should know about that child. Does she realize that he has rights also? How would you feel if 10 years down the road a women calls your house saying that she had your common-law husbands child and she never told him because he was bi-polar? people do live with that and she did lay with him to make that child. Unless your not explaining the whole situation out. I dont know but i would for sure tell her to tel the family because that is their blood and that is not her right. If she is worried about the childs well being tell her to goto court get child support grow up and be a mom! I am not being mean i am serious we all have to take responsibility for our actions and she is not a child so......... 

Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 3rd, 2006 10:02 PM
Well,even if she does leave the child with you have her give up her rights to the child legally first to you and then you will have the power legally to put the child up for adoption yourself. Or instead of waiting for that,there are plenty of people ,probably advertising in your local paper,that are dying to adopt an infant NOW!! And are more than ready to accept all responsibilities of the child,that is if you dont end up wanting to keep the baby yourself!!?? I think I would look in the paper and find someone that way instead of going through an adoption agency.This way you can meet and choose a proper couple for the baby that you like.At least that way you would feel like you had a big part in giving that baby a happy,safe ,secure ,loving home to grow up in. And at the same time you would be making some very lucky couple extremely happy!!! Good luck to you!! 

Name: bobbi | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 12:50 AM
Even if this did happen, and you WANTED to adopt the child, there would be so much red tape and costs involved, because there are currently over 2 million couples already waiting to adopt babies that simply are not being born.

The only way that it could happen that you would be even allowed to adopt the child is if Amanda specifically requested you for adoptive parents and you jumped thru a bunch of hoops.

You will not be forced to keep this child if abandoned, in fact, if abandoned, you'd be lucky to be able to keep it if you even WANTED to. 

Name: jenny | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 10:45 AM
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Name: jade | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 8:58 AM
you need to talk to amanda just tell her that you do not want to have to look after her child, i know you dont want to hurt her feeling but you have to tell her how you and you husband are feeling its really not fair if you ever need spme advice again you can email me on [email protected]
just tell her
good luck
jade x 

Name: chictvproducer | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 2:16 AM
I am working on a new show called "The Greg Behrendt Show" and we are doing a best friends show on Wed. 8/9/06 in Los Angeles. Any chance you would like to come and take part. I find your best friends story fascinating. If so, please email me directly at [email protected] and if not, I wish you all the best of luck with everything.

Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 5:47 PM
Let it be for know if you try and tell her how you feel right know she may be offended considering she just probably found out she was pregnant so she is not that far along , pregnancy is hard enough emotionally let her get settled in your house first and give her some time to seek out adoption agency's or begin looking in this direction know if she is like well into her pregnancy and hasn't seemed to make a clear cut descion then maybe ask her what is up in a calm freindly way and tell her you are there to help her no matter what she decides. Resure her she can look into adoption but that doesn't mean she has to decide overnight if it is the right thing to do for her, and tell her you will go meet with agencies for moral support or whatever if that is what she needs. 

Name: mark | Date: Sep 3rd, 2006 10:22 PM
hello friend 

Name: kelly | Date: Sep 27th, 2006 11:45 PM

Name: lynn | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 4:28 PM
I will adopt the baby 

Name: linda | Date: Oct 4th, 2007 6:12 PM
how are doing 

Name: linda | Date: Oct 4th, 2007 6:14 PM
my name linda i like to be nice to kid and poeple want to be are friend and best friend send me back thank youi for be my friend thank you 

Name: linda | Date: Oct 4th, 2007 6:15 PM
want are name 

Name: Austin Clem | Date: Dec 15th, 2007 4:52 AM
I nkow what u r talking about, my best friend whois 14 found out she was preginate today. I am the father what can i do. 

Name: mich | Date: Dec 18th, 2007 8:44 PM
Hi Austin,

My husband and I have been trying to adopt for a year now. If you are interested in adoption I would love to have the oppurtunity to get to know the two of you. My email address is [email protected] The first thing you need to do is tell your parents though. Good luck.


Name: Sam | Date: Mar 1st, 2008 11:04 PM
Well, its your fault you invited her to live with you. whats wrong with you??? 

Name: Michelle | Date: May 21st, 2008 9:52 PM
You should be priviliged. I would give anything to adopt a baby because I can't have any more. 

Name: Mimi | Date: May 21st, 2008 9:56 PM
I would love to adopt a baby if anyone knows anyone who is pregnant and wants to put their baby up for adoption 

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