I am currently 10 weeks pregnant and am a new step-mom to a 5 year old boy. We have a good relationship and I adore him, I get along fine with his biological Mom. We know a lot of the same people though so my husband and I are trying to figure out when we should tell her about the new baby because we don't want her to find out before we tell her ourselves. She found out we were engaged through the grapevine right after it happened....so, anyone have suggestions about the best time to tell her? We are waiting till the 12 week mark to tell work/others besides close friends and family. Plus, we are waiting to tell my stepson until the 12 week check-up. I am nervous how he will react, but also excited for him to have a new little brother or sister.
I am also worried about how bio Mom will feel about us having a baby....anyone out there in her shoes? I know she was sad when she heard we got engaged, not because she still loves my husband (her ex) but because it makes her assess her aloneness, life, etc. and that her son will be partially raised by another woman. We have my stepson 5 out of 14 days/month so a decent amount. Wondering if she will have feelings of jealousy because we will be a family? Her son will have new siblings? She is a single Mom now, not married etc. She and my husband separated when their child was two, and I have known the child since he was 3, so he won't know much of life without me in it...
Just trying to figure out how to handle the situation and sort of gauge how ex might feel. Any feedback is appreciated! Thank you! ↓