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Name: capricornbaby
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I am 26 years old and 7 weeks pregnant by my married boyfriend of 2 years. When he found out he completely freaked and told me to get rid of this baby. He also said that i am selfish and only think about myself and i would be mad to want to have this baby. He said that if his wife found out she would take everything from him and he would probably hate this child. I told him that he could walk away because i wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant and i would do this on my own but he keeps saying no. Why should i have to give up something this important to me because he can't or won't walk away. He has already proven that he doesn't care
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Name: mich | Date: Dec 18th, 2007 8:36 PM

Please do not get rid of this baby. If you can't keep the baby please give me an email at [email protected] My husband and I are trying to adopt a baby. If you are interested we would be honored to get to know you. Best of luck to you and your little one.


Name: cjsims | Date: Jan 14th, 2008 8:55 PM
NO baby is a mistake. Don't abort, please. Don't listen to him. He knew he was married when he slept with you, now it is time for him to deal with the consequences. "Your sin will find you out." As my DH always says. If he doesn't want to be apart of the kids life, then tell him that is fine, cause he can't force you to go to the abortion clinic. Otherwise, if you decide you don't want to have to go through parenthood alone, then there are plenty of awesome couples on this forum, and all around the US and abroad that would LOVE to take on the responsibililty of the baby. Keep your head up, Jesus loves you. 

Name: lindalu | Date: Jan 14th, 2008 9:59 PM
Capricornbaby I hope his reaction was not a surprise to you, most men who are cheaters will always go back to their wifes when this kind of thing happens. Can I ask why you was fraternizing with a married man? you must have known that it wasn't going to go any where.

Unfortunately now you will have to decide how to deal with this pregnancy alone, it seems he has made a decision. Sorry hopefully all turns out well for you! 

Name: samesit | Date: Feb 1st, 2008 4:28 PM
I am going through the same stuff and need the very same advise you need. What do I do? 

Name: rachelmayes | Date: Feb 2nd, 2008 11:15 PM
samesit! I am interested in talking to u about your situation!Also if you do decide adoption is an option for you i would love it if you would consider are family for that! I had a daughter who died of a brain tumor a few years ago, and im scared to have another biological child! It would be a dream come true for us to add a child to our family! Thankyou for your time! [email protected] or u can call 618-447-1038! 

Name: capricornbaby | Date: Feb 3rd, 2008 3:51 AM
I have been so devastated that I didn't remember to update this. I had a miscarriage on dec. 17th 2007 due to high blood pressure. I felt like I just wanted to die. I feel like such a wreck now. What do i do from here? Where do i go? 

Name: Capricornbaby | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 9:56 PM
Hi Samesit all I can tell you to do is to be strong and do what is best for you and your baby. Don't expect him to leave his wife because they never do. Please don't fool yourself. Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage. It devastated me but there was nothing I could do to stop it from happening. If you need to talk to me please feel free to email me at [email protected] 

Name: caucajun32 | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 12:19 AM
Your both selfish self centered people and there isn't one of you that is a better human being than the other. It takes two too cheat !

Yet you can pass him up in that catergory if you abort, that would be even more selfish.

May all the people that are going to be hurt when this gets out , and ......... it wil, his wife will find out, all the inlaws, his co-workers, his parents brothers and sister, nieces and nephews, the list goes on and on of the hurt you both are responsible for.

Your baby will have to deal with what ever comes, I would hope you will become more responsible. 

Name: og217 | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 8:11 PM
Just what the world needs - your illegitimate child. Please. 

Name: caldwell36854 | Date: Mar 15th, 2008 1:49 AM
my husband had an affair with an 18 year old and she got pregnant from this affair.i found out when she was 4 months pregnant with her child,just think about this :her child is two years old now and has never met his father she refused to go to court when the baby was born and so did he,him because he wanted to act like it never happened,her because she didn't want a step-mother for her child she wasnted him or nothing at all and she just new one day he would come running..i still keep track of her to this day,only because she needs to take him to court she's trying to raise this little boy on her own and it ain't that easy being a single mom wanting love and being young and wanting to go out.i myself have been pregnant 4 times,3 miscarriages and one set of 24.5 week twins.losing,is losing and it still hurts no matter who the father was,but look at it like this you have a chance to find a guy who loves youand only you and is happy as hell when you tell him your pregnant.leave the married men alone they are their no matter what they say for onething.......nomatter how bad their wifes are and they scream it.we (the wifes) are no better than the "other women" and the "the other women"are no better than us....the same game that got us to marry them is the same game they tell ya'll.....ya'll see what we did in them and it is so fake,if it was for real would that nice good guy be out cheating on his wife? 

Name: caldwell36854 | Date: Mar 15th, 2008 2:25 AM
dear samesit,just let him go be happy for now and have your baby when the baby's born go sue for child support,don't tell his wife just let her find out when the papers come in the mail,let him explain to his wife,he knew when he left you at night that he went home to another women,now i'm not saying you wasn't wrong for not sending his puck azz packing when you found out he was married in the first place,just don't be foolish to tell the wife yourself that will be alot of anger she should give her husband.If he knows your cell number and house number change it leave him be,don't let him come over for no reason at all do what you should have at the start send him packing back to his wife. 

Name: caldwell36854 | Date: Mar 15th, 2008 3:01 AM
oh,yes to add a mistake is a one night stand that you feel so bad about that you tell on yourself,months,years cheating is not a mistake it is a want or a need. 

Name: annie7224 | Date: Mar 15th, 2008 9:46 PM
HOW ARE YOU DOING? [email protected] Feel free to contact me directly instead if you prefer 

Name: hurt | Date: Mar 31st, 2008 2:42 PM
Fell in love with a military officer, smitten and had a 6months relationship, got pregant and i was 4 months pregnant when he had to go to the states, when i found out he was married and have a 16yrs old daughter. He didnt tell me and didnt confessed till when i provoked him to confess. When he did, he said hes jst waiting for his retirement and will soon divorce his wife to be with me and with my son, Im confused now i busted him of taking his leave and seeing his family on a trip. Need advice and confused. 

Name: ross4545 | Date: Apr 12th, 2008 2:05 AM
I am so sorry and can't imagine how hard that must be for you. There are many families including mine who are looking to open adopt. I am looking for someone who would like to put their child up for adoption but still be in their life.
Please email me if you need help or support or if you are interested in this type of situation.
[email protected]...
You are already in my prayers. 

Name: Carol | Date: Aug 15th, 2008 8:16 PM
You are odviously a very selfish person 

Name: lala | Date: Nov 10th, 2010 4:30 PM
I am 26 yrs old and I have a 10 month old by a married military guy of 3yrs on and off again. The first time I got pregnant he was fine and I ended up losing that one then now with this one its a problem. I didn't find out that he was married until after I had the baby. He got mad after the first time I got out the hospital after been there for 3 months talking about he not ready for no kids but since then we haven't spoke he change his number. 

Name: Ariesbaby | Date: Nov 22nd, 2010 12:56 PM
I just wish i culd reply to this 1 bt i cnt coz am on the exact same situation as she is. Nw cn i get an advise. Am a 21yr old gal,who had fallen preg to a married guy,and now he doez'nt want to support the baby bt he keeps claiming that the baby is his. He wants to control me he puts my life onhold,he wants me to feel like 1 day i wl b his 2nd wife. I lv hm very much bt at the moment i dnt knw wat to do. 

Name: BurnedbyHim | Date: Feb 2nd, 2011 6:48 PM
People who have never been in the same situation should never be judgmental or condemn others. I was recently dumped by my married lover and it hurt like hell. We've only been in a relationship for a few months and I bawled for weeks. I never thought that I too would have a relationship with a married man but I did. I'm currently separated but my husband and I still live in the same house. I have a wonderful 3 yr old son who is probably the only one keeping me sane these days. The married man broke it off with me because he claims there is so much drama going on in his life. Of course, we're at the bottom of the barrel when it comes to their priorities. Well, now I think I'm pregnant and I don't know if I should tell him. I was on the pill and I don't easily get pregnant; but I guess nothing's impossible. I don't even know how to contact him since he won't pick up his phone, won't answer my texts. He has completely ignored me and it hurts. 

Name: He Divorced His Wife for Me | Date: May 9th, 2011 1:52 AM
You judgmental catty women need to calm down first of all stop with the "he will never leave his wife" bit you don't know that a lot of wives try to convince themselves that their husband will never leave them for a mistress lol I think you're being cocky and living in a fairytale I don't give a damn what the statistic says in the exact same situation in a relationship with a married man for three years I knew he was married right off the bat but he pursued me and I fell for him two yrs into the relationship I fell pregnant with his child the day I told him he was happy when I showed him the hpt he kissed and petted my belly that whole day he loves kids has three with his wife or shall I say soon to be ex wife anyways when I was 4months pregnant he told his wife all about me and my being pregnant with his child and that he wanted a divorce I mentioned quite a few times that he should leave her because I know he fell out of love with her long ago and was only staying with her for the kids I never pressured him with a its me or her ultimatum but I am glad he chose me he moved out of his marital home and we are living together at the moment he still sees his kids and spend quality time with them his daughter hates me though but its understandable my fiancée and I are waiting for the final divorce decree so we can get married had to edit out a lot of my life story because its so long and had so much drama my point is never ever underestimate your opponent ie the mistress 

Name: Lotti | Date: Jun 28th, 2011 10:56 PM
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Name: stressed out | Date: Mar 7th, 2013 5:14 AM
I'm going through this same situation, my story which is still bad isn't totally my fault. I had sex with a married man after finding out that his wife had slept with my husband while we were still married, we got divorced because he wouldn't stop cheating. So I decided revenge would make me feel better but I ended up getting pregnant and now that I'm 6 months along I am worried about everything that's going to happen but at the same time I couldn't get pregnant before this, and now my mother has stage 4 lung cancer so we need this baby to keep her fighting. The situation sucks but I'm still hoping on a decent outcome. But could still use advice of my own. 

Name: Swatts | Date: May 28th, 2013 4:11 PM

I am 21 weeks pregnant and my lover has stop takingmy calls. When I first found out that I was pregnant I told him and he wnted us to go right away and have an abortion. I am pro life so that was not an option for me although I did consider it because of all the people in our lives that would be hurt. I feel as if I have to deal with the consciquences. The embarrasment and the shame is all apart of it. I want to tell his wife now because I do not want her to find out when I take him to court for child support. I have my baby around the holidays and I don't think that would be fair to her. He told me that his wife knows aboutme but I dont think that is the truth. For the last 5 years he has been saying that he and his wife are separated. She lives in a different state and he is single dad raising their girls. Should I tell her or not? I am not the enemy here nor will I ever be. I did not want anymore children. My youngest is 13. I have even thought about adoption.... Should I tell her or not? 

Name: Lucy | Date: Aug 12th, 2013 6:49 AM
Carol she is not selfish. I'm so sorry CapricornBaby I hope you feel alot better soon. If I were you I would move out of the city you are living in only because thats where this all happened, and once you move out of that city you will feel a whole lot better 

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