| Leave the imbecile who allows this brat to treat his wife like that. You're not loved, cherished or respected by your husband. Why bother? You didn't marry him and his baggage for this. ↑ |
| I think being a step mother myself I can understand what you're going through. One thing that I know there is NOTHING you will ever do right in front of that child. According to her you are the reason why the parents broke us and you will remain that for as long as you both live. I would say make peace with the fact that she does not like you and stop attempting to make things right. When she is ready if ever that will ever happen she will come to you. ↑ |
| hi i am a step mother my husband and his kids mother are both black, I'm white, the 3 oldest kids and i get along just fine, but the youngest one, she is 16 and she is so rude and disrespectful, but her mother will be in the back ground yelling at her father and calling me everything but a women the entire time he tries to speak to his kids, at times she will get on the phone and yell at him, i have kept my mouth shut and let him handle it, i have supported those kids i love them like my own, i so fed up, i don't know what to do???? ↑ |
I too am a step Mom and I agree with Charlie to an extent. When I met my husband 17 years ago he was newly divorced and I became the parent of a 5 year old boy and 4 year old girl. We lived abroad most of our years together and never had concrete relationships with the children. 8 years ago we received papers for the courts and behold two older illegitimate children entered the picture Again a boy and girl. That makes four. We never had relationships with the older children but when we returned to the united states after the first horrible visit experience with the younger ones we knew we had to establish that we were a team and to disrespect me was to disrespect their father although there are somethings that could have been different (i.e. more time shared with them) they seem to be okay with me now that they are older. Unfortunately
Last year the oldest girl then 20 came to spend time in our home and with her father to "find" herself. It turned into a nightmare of manipulation. Within weeks our marriage was deteriorating. Our rule of team went out the window as her mom dictated from another state the rules of my home. I cooked, leaned grocery shopped as she spent evenings out and days sleeping. We got her a job within my husbands company and she constantly used her fathers position to get over. He favorite phrase was "Do you know who my Daddy is". This was unacceptable because we have reared our own minor children to respect others and stand on their own. I know that my husband feels guilty that he wasn't in her life but I could not allow one child to destroy a family. I had to make the difficult choice of sending her home. A child is difficult but a 20 year old adult well you understand. Now just as before the separation in our family is there. I would like for us all to be a family but as long as mothers are in the background not standing for what is right it is not possible. I say all this to say that in order for you to repair your relationship or at the least demand respect with this young lady your husband has to take a stand. In your home there should be rules and consequences no matter what the ex says. It is your home if she wont respect you she should not be able to come there. He can maintain a relationship outside. I know it seems harsh but I guarantee that it works. ↑ |
