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Name: Jasmine M.

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Hello and thank you in advance for taking time to read my message I hope you can help me.
Ok here’s the thing I’m 15 years old about to be 16. My boyfriend Ryan is 20 he’ll be 21 in a few months. We have a nine month old daughter Briana. Anyways I also have three week old twins the only thing is Ryan isn’t the father my brother is. I was raped. My brother is in jail now and all his rights to the twins have been cut off. I was talking to Ryan and he wants to adopt the twins. He said he wants them to see him as there dad not my brother. And I feel the same way, like if when they are older and want to know who there real dad is well then of course I would tell them but if not I want them to know Ryan as there father. The only thing is I’m not so sure if I want to keep the twins. I’m only 15 and taking care of my daughter is already hard. And Ryan works a lot he a firefighter and he drives ambulances for the department on his days off. His schedule is really weird and I don’t know if we could handle taking care of three kids. I’m still in school right now (I do independent study) and I really want to finish school. I know that may sound a bit selfish but finishing school is really important to me.
I don’t know how much time Ryan and I have to think about what we are going to do because the twins might be able to come home near the end of next month. Another thing is I have a lot of health problems myself and I end up in the hospital a lot and when I do Ryan’s parents watch Briana (my mom doesn’t want anything to do with us) but with three kids I know it would be really hard. I don’t know what to do I’m so confused. I want to do what is best for Makayla and Mackenzie but I don’t know what to do. Can someone help me? Please!!! ↓

Name: Sara | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 2:38 PM

Jasmine how the heck can any of us help you. You have been on here for months on the due date forum and no one has been able to help you and besides when some one gives you advice you always have an excuse why you cant do whatever it is they suggest. May I suggest a good shrink. Screw your mom, shes a loser if she cant except you and you baby, thats the bottom line. It doesnt sound like she is ever gonna be there for you so just forget her and move on. ↑

Name: ShelleyK | Date: Mar 29th, 2006 3:13 PM

Jasmine,
You know where I am if you need to talk!

Shelley ↑

Name: Jasmine M. | Date: Apr 1st, 2006 11:16 PM

Wow I'm sorry I havent been on but I've been so busy. Ryan and I went to disneyland last night; and can you believe it he asked me to marry him!!! :P Like we have been tottally talking about it but I was competely shocked. We were watching the fireworks show when he asked me it was beautiful. Of course I said yes. On the way home we talked about the adoption and I told him everything I was conserned about and he still wants to adopt the twins. At this point I dont know what to do or to say to him about it!!! ↑

Name: annie | Date: Apr 23rd, 2006 8:59 PM

it sounds to me as if you need to talk to someone who is not connected to your family doctor or your health visitor. Get all the help set up with the twins and your daughter before they come home. I'm sure that if you let your doctor know, you want to finish your education, he/she will b there for you. Remember the doctor has a duty to you to keep things confidential that you tell he/she. Good Luck! ↑

Name: heather | Date: Apr 30th, 2006 11:20 PM

Wow, thats a tough one. I feel for you. I dont know what to say. I think because of your age, and the drama behind how the babies were created, maybe adoption would be a good option. Im sorry. WOW. Good luck, i will keep you in my prayers. Adoption would be the best option, if that is trully what your looking for. No option will be easy, keep that in mind. Im a single mom of two, it doesnt get easier, harder. YOu have this man Ryan now, but men come and go. Be areful where you put your faith. ↑

Name: mg | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 9:16 PM

adoption!!!! you have too much on your plate and t here are many loving amazing families ready to adopt!!! ↑

Name: bribella | Date: Jul 29th, 2006 11:22 PM

Hi Jasmine. Heather brought up adoption as a means in helping your situation. I haven't seen you on in a while. How are things going? ↑

Name: JENISH | Date: Sep 25th, 2006 9:18 AM

I WANT CHAT ↑

Name: littlemom | Date: Sep 26th, 2006 4:50 AM

Jasmine, if you are serious and need help please email me, we may be able to help you~ [email protected] ↑