| Name: Lory | Date: Dec 24th, 2007 1:45 AM |
Nope...don't do it!!! Humiliating yourself in front of anyone..anywhere is not going to help any situation....if your dh is truly into forgiving...and, loving...he will not make you humiliate yourself anywhere...anytime!! If that is what he or she expects....it's time you thought of moving along...IMHO!! That's not what someone who says/claims they are willing to forgive, forget & love....is all about!! If this is the case....I'm sorry again...I think you need to think about moving along.....IMHO!! Best Wishes!!
p.s. And...for Christ's sake...MIL needs to stay the he!! out of it...it's not about you, her and him...it's about you & him!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Dec 24th, 2007 4:55 PM |
| Thanks Lory I know what you say is right but I have that feeling inside that I need to learn my lesson I know its mad.I have blurted out the idea about the haircut to her and I think she will go along with it but she will set the rules.I have found a last min hol on the net and I have booked this for my husband and me maybe we can sort it out on our own.If not then I will have go ahead and face the humiliation it cant be all that bad I have been seen topless before its just a bit more.Thank you for your advice we will sort it out without her.She is very sure that I will leave but I'm not going to give in I do want us to be together dont you think its worth the embarrasment?? Is it to high a price to pay ?? ↑ |
| Name: Joan | Date: Dec 26th, 2007 5:41 PM |
| Dont even think about agreeing to any idea with that bitch you are bound to get more than a haircut remember even if it does happen in another town stories like that travel fast.Just have a good time with your husband and talk it through.Try to impress on him that his mother is out to really punish you in public get him to put a stop to it.Best of luck let me know how you get on. ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Dec 26th, 2007 10:43 PM |
| Please do what Joan and Lory are saying they are right dont let your self be humiliated any more you would be very silly of you to think that a haircut is all your MIL has planned.Think if you are naked you will have to do anything she says she could leave you like that!!! What other humiliating things she could do to you in front of all those men its madness.You have to remember that news like that WILL travel your friends or people at work could find out think of that.Give it a lot of thought before you act.Stop feeeling guilty you have had a punishment haircut dont have a worse one SAY NO. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Dec 27th, 2007 4:37 PM |
| We had a great break I let him have all his daft wish's even down to a hollywood we really enjoyed ourselfs he agreed that no more punishments and all the past was forgiven. When we got home we told his mother she walked out.I thought wells thats that but she was back later on with this other woman who told my husband I had tried to have sex with her husband at the office xmas party A LIE.I argued that it was all made up but in the heat of it all I admitted I had kissed him.That was it my husband said you have not learned your lesson and its back to his mother to sort me out.I'm to get another haircut I expected I would I'm just so sad that it all looked sorted out and now she is back in charge.I feel as though I have let you all down as well as my self god I'm such a fool sorry. ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Dec 28th, 2007 5:12 PM |
O dear Jenny you are such a fool godness only knows were it will all end for you.My best advice is to walk away if you stay then you will face more public humiliation from your MIL your husband seems hell bent on letting her have her way.All you will end us as is a public laughing stock dont do anything with her please, I know you feel guilty but when she is finished humiliating you all you will feel is far worse and all those people will have watched get out just walk away do it for yourself.
Dont give in Dont let her do it to you ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Dec 28th, 2007 6:20 PM |
All I can say is....you are too young to be going through all of this! Tho...that's sometimes how we learn from our choices & mistakes. It seems there are too many involved in your marriage...that won't work..as you already know!
I know you feel guilty for your choice....but, the only way to move on from that is...to start feeling good about yourself....forgive yourself! It seems to me you've already paid the price for your choice...no more humiliation is needed IMHO!! I would not keep myself in this situation with all of these people....you need to surround yourself with people who are giving you the respect & kindness you deserve.....if your dh is not doing that...no matter how much you love him....move on! It will be hard...but, not as hard as the roller coaster they seem to have you on! Try not to look at it as she has won....b/c you are the one who is winning from escaping her torment!!
And...hello...gotta be honest here! Keep your hands & lips to yourself...kissing someone is cheating in my book!! What is going on?? There seems to be "other" issues going on here! ↑ |
| Name: LULU | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 9:53 PM |
| Tell ur husband the truth. That is horrible. And asking his mother to keep it a secret. ↑ |
| Name: LULU | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 10:19 PM |
| If u love ur husband why do u keep doing these things? ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 11:14 AM |
| O god I've made such a bad bad mistake she said there and then make a choice "trim" in front of the wifes or out of town naked haircut what a choice I picked out of town.I thought that it woud not be as humiliating boy did I make a bad bad choice the amount of spectators its bound to come out I will never live it down THE HAIRCUT WAS ONLY PART OF IT did they laugh and laugh god all those men god was I stupid stupid stupid.I cant even write it down stupid stupid boy what a fool why o why did I not walk away like you all said.I need to sit and think sorry. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 11:19 AM |
| Well thanks Lory for that I have paid a very high price for that kiss when I look in the mirror boy o boy what a price for what you call cheating. ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 8:10 PM |
| I had to be honest with you & yes...you did pay a ridiculous high price. Sorry! Something that most of us would not have done....if you cannot sit down and have a talk or discussion with your dh and attempt to work through things....how can you expect to sit down with him when there are issues in the future? Marriage isn't easy...there are always gonna be ups & downs. What price will you have to pay for him then? Just something to think about! ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Dec 31st, 2007 11:54 AM |
| Well Jenny we did tell you not to let that bitch have her way.What happened? I understand that you got more than a haircut what else did she do? It might help to talk about it we are here to help if we can.Have you talked to your husband about what happened? is he understanding does he now think you have been punished beyond your crime? It sounds like you have I do hope it all works out now. Let us know if you are ok I am sorry but we all did warn you. ↑ |
| Name: Joan | Date: Jan 3rd, 2008 5:51 PM |
| What happened Jenny are you ok I know its sounds like you were really humiliated I just cant believe you went and let her get you a naked haircut and more by the sound of it.It helps to talk we are all here for you come on love it will be ok once you get started.Dont let the bitch win talk it through. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Jan 4th, 2008 10:58 PM |
| I cant talk about it yet I feel so humiliated and so ashamed I need to come to terms with it all first.But thanks for all your thoughts I will need some time I still cry a lot sorry. ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Jan 5th, 2008 12:11 PM |
| Thats ok Jenny you take your time we are all feeling for you it sounds like you had a real bad time.When you are ready let it all out it will make it better LOL Ann ↑ |
| Name: lindalu | Date: Jan 5th, 2008 9:52 PM |
| Jenny, first ....you should not have to humiliate yourself to please your MIL. Second...if your hubby really cared for you he would not expect you to do what his mum asks. I'm sorry, I could be wrong, but I think your hubby and his mother are both sickos to even suggest such a thing. As for you ...you should tell them.... NO!!! Don't allow them to control you in such a demeaning manner. You may be young, but you can still tell them no, refuse! You have already paid for your wrongs. ↑ |
| Name: youngman | Date: Jan 5th, 2008 11:47 PM |
| Jenny, don't take this the wrong way, but what the HECK is wrong with you. Would you allow your daughter to be treated this way for a mistake. HECK NO, but you are willing to take this. Yeah your dumb but made a mistake. You also made a mistake by doing what youe MIL told you to do . Grow some balls women WAIT never mind. You are better than that no matter what your past is. If you husaband loves you, make him treat you like he loves you and you respond to that love. If he continues to treat you like this, tell him I said you should leave. Ask that fool, has he ever made a mistake and if so did he have to show that mistake to everyone. Remember, everyone has something in thier closet. Also ask youself, why you cheated. Was it for pleasure or mental. Either way you have a long road to go with your husband. You did cheat and the trust was abandon. You have to respectfully rebuild it. Also the love and communication will need some work. I think people get into marriages with this thought everthing will be perfect. You have two non perfect people coming together to form a perfect union. That seems unlikely. It requires alot of work . Also if the affair was because of sex, remember men have to be train about the female body. Practice and communication make a great lover. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Jan 6th, 2008 11:07 PM |
Thanks for all your thoughts you may as well know how bad it all went and why I am so ashamed and humiliated.My M IL and her friend came for me I had to dress in big flowered pants a dress and a waist high jacket we went on a bus to the next town.My MIL found a barbers shop down a side street we went in there was 7 old men waiting and one in the chair.But the barber was a big woman with a crewcut I said NO WAY not here not in front of this lot.MIL pushed me in and started to tell them all that I needed to be punished and she told all these lies and made me out to be real bad.They all agreed I should get what I deserved.The woman said strip slut so I just did I tried to cover myself but she said stand in front of everone with your hands on your head.I made a big big mistake and said f... off you fat old cow she was on me like a flash she just picked me up pulled out a chair and put me over her knee.Boy o boy did they all laugh and cheer when she had finished "teaching me a lesson" I did stand in front of them with my hands on my head crying.Then I had to sit on a stool legs apart hands behind my back and she clipped off all my hair and shaved my head with a razor the men just loved that my MIL was clapping and laughing all the time.Then my MIL said put your pants and jacket on NO DRESS and she said get out I said NO WAY so the fat cow said I think you need "another lesson" I ran out the door .I had to walk to the bus stop like that all the way home people wanted to know if I had lost a bet or my skirt people just laughed and laughed.I have not left the house since I am terriffied that some one spots me How can I ever live this down.
My husband has gone mad about my shaved head and banned the MIL from coming round so thats real good news but he does not know it was a naked haircut or what that woman did to my in front of everyone I just dare not tell him god I'm so scared.Why did I ever think that my MIL would not humiliate me so so badly and I think you ARE right Lindalu I had alredy paid for my wrongs WHAT HAVE GONE AND DONE we will have to move.I'm so so sorry my life is falling apart I feel so ashamed. ↑ |
| Name: Joan | Date: Jan 6th, 2008 11:42 PM |
| You silly silly girl we all told you not to go with that bich now she has humliiated you big time.You must tell your husband everything NOW.do not delay if he finds out from somone other than you it will be all over a story like that will soon be the talking piont in all the bars and pubs TELL HIM GIRL NOW.I just cant grasp why you were so stupid as to strip in front of all those men no wonder they all laughed its the best show they will see this year at your expenss. My god spanked at your age in front of all those men and you MIL I bet she laughed the loudest you silly girl STOP punishing yourself. ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Jan 7th, 2008 1:21 AM |
| I thought you already told your dh?? You claimed in a prior response you did....did you??? ↑ |
| Name: Luis | Date: Jan 7th, 2008 2:57 AM |
| Own up to your husband or you will regret it for the rest of your life. It is better to be honest. If he truly loves you, he will understand. But only after some time. You have to give it time. He will be mad and confused. Do not crowd him. Tell him, apologize and then leave him be. If he loves you, he will come around. If you don't tell him, your mother in law will own you. Moreover, it will haunt you. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Jan 7th, 2008 10:20 PM |
| Good God Lory I would never never have told him I was going to get a haircut in the nude I only agreed to that with his mother so she would not humiliate me in front of all the wifes.That has now proved to be a big big mistake.My god how that fat cow humiliated me I just begged and begged her to stop I dont think I will ever live it down Thanks for all your help you are real kind I should have listerned to you sorry ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Jan 7th, 2008 11:24 PM |
| Well Jenny your MIL has really made you look a fool now a very public punishment your MIL can really say you have been given a lessonyou will always remember and so will all those men. I am so sorry I just cant understand how you fell for it.We all told you again and again to say NO but you new best and now you will have to live with it.I expect some photos were taken on mobiles I expect they will appear on the net in time yes I have to agree with you I dont think you will live this down.That MIL is real sick what a price to pay for what you said was a bit if fun.I dont know what to say im so sad for you. You are to young to have all this happening to you I'm so sad and sorry for you. ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Jan 8th, 2008 6:54 PM |
| Sorry Jenny...I for some reason or another thought you already told him. I"m with with Ann...I feel sad for you...sorry..(((HUGS))) But...your going to have to fess up to dh....hopefully he'll be understanding..and, y'all can work through it...over time. That is the only obvious answer I can see for you to "move on" and get past this. You have already paid a price that you thought you deserved...you can overcome this & move on...forgive yourself...even if you think no one else will. Be strong!! I pray you find peace & all of the answers you need to move forward. Best Wishes!! ↑ |
| Name: Debbie | Date: Jan 9th, 2008 8:16 PM |
| I normally dont agree with spanking but in your case you deserved it you are without a question the most foolish girl I have ever read about.What ever did you think you were doing stripping off and allowing your MIL to have your head shaved are you MAD!!! then walking home in just your knickers MAD!!!You say you deserved to be punished well I do hope you are now satisfied I bet your MIL and all those men are. If you do tell your husband I hope he is very very understanding but you must face the facts that as well as making yourself look a fool he also looks a fool. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 1:32 AM |
| Your mother in law won't keep her trap shut for long. Something will happen in the future, and she will open her fat mouth. Tell DH what happened, and take the risk. You shouldn't be sleeping around anyway. You made this choice, so live with the consequences. MIL will spill the beans eventually, short hair, or long. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 1:43 AM |
| Yeah, you are pretty stupid. Now you're screwed FOREVER. You have to be INCREDIBLY IDIOTIC. What the hell. You need to 'fess up, let the chips fall where they may, and quit giving your MIL that much power. Have you no self esteem? It sure sounds like you don't. Your hubby can't be that special that you'd allow someone to do that to you to keep him. Nobody is worth all that. Especially since the MIL will probably make you tell him anyway, or tell him yourself. She's just gonna humiliate you before he finds out, and the MIL knows this, and you do to. FOOLISH WOMAN, YOU. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: Feb 17th, 2008 10:04 AM |
| Yess you are right cjsims and I agree with you Debbie but I thought I was right to agree to MIL demands I now know that I was a stupid fool. I have told my husband everything boy was he mad he says he forgives me but he is a bit cool towards me so I dont know how it will all end.The worst is that people round were I live have found out I expect MIL told them and they make comments when i pass by like can you sit down ok and things like that I hope it wont last to long god what a fool I was. ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Feb 17th, 2008 1:15 PM |
| Tell your husband. Only way to beat blackmail. Don't cut your hair! ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: Feb 17th, 2008 1:18 PM |
| Oh so you actually got your hair cut. Now not only do you have no hair, but your MIL has a hold on you forever. Silly silly girl ↑ |
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