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hi im risa.i hve 3children,3,2,1and expecting my 4th anyday soon.my son of 3 has autisum and im having trouble with at the moment with hitting other children and his younger sisters he uses pecs very well for asking and undrestanding but i cant get through this he is such a sweet boy and i dont think he doing it to be nasty but other kids includeing his sister dont want to play with him because of this which brecks my heart because he really tries to join in wit others.he has started to assert himself which i no is good but im findin him hard to cope with he refuses to walk anywhere to.i feel as though all i do is moan about him but he is so good but naughty.if that makes sense.i would love to chat to anyone with advice and in similar feelings and situaion to me.my email is [email protected] ↓
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| Name: brittany salzar | Date: Oct 25th, 2005 4:02 PM |
| my nephew's name is jose he has autism he is 5 years old he has a older sister who is 6 years old she loves him very much. ↑ |
| Name: deb | Date: Dec 10th, 2005 9:19 PM |
| hello i have a five year old boy on the spectrum and four other children ↑ |
| Name: tammy | Date: Dec 13th, 2005 11:17 PM |
hi,
my son his 4yrs old, what we do if he hits us or his little sister is pretend to try this seems to works as he understands that crying means you are upset by his actions, although it take time and he initially got upset it is working. ↑ |
| Name: kam | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 12:51 PM |
| hi my son is going to be 3 on chirstmas day . he was dainosied when he was about 2.5 because at first he was talking and then stopped and would just say ma and point when he wanted anything . i worry about him so much i wonder if he will every talk correctly or beable to go out with him normally like my other 2 kids. ↑ |
| Name: salem | Date: Dec 25th, 2005 9:24 AM |
| i have a child called salem he is autiscic he spits at the childrena dn he is only 6 years old ↑ |
| Name: Elaine | Date: Jan 15th, 2006 5:02 PM |
| Hello Risa I have read your e-mail. I am a mother of 3 girl-17, brother-10 & my autist son 7. It is different raising a child with autisim and at times you feel alone but your not, through the years i have met people with children who are going through something simular. Have you tried to enroll your child as a nonattending student in your school area. It will help out, your son seem sweet and at times yes they can be naughty yet it will be hard on the other children at times they don't understand. My son at times will shelter himself from other children & people. He and from what i know other children w/autisim do that, with my oldest son they fight and at times i blame the oldest boy. I have tried to let them live seperate lives yet help them understand that they are brothers and i love them both but it is harder for my youngest son and if my older son feels he dosen't want to play with him thats ok too. If you can some how find out what both child like try doing it together if your autisic child becomes naughty put him off to the side explain to him, he may not understand at first but sit with him. For example my thing was drawing and my son would be doing great for awhile and the fighting would start I would still sit with my older son & hold my youngest son for awhile like timeout and still be there for my other son so he would't be hurt or left out or not loved or wanted. After doing this for awhile my autisic son knew if he acted up this would happen over and over until he knew and believe me autisic children can be taught there is know different in raising your children the same way we just have to go a different way at times. It is hard for me but all in all I love my son through the good and bad and yes I moan at times to its natural and I take it one day at a time he keeps me going but when i see my children sleep i thank god i can start again tomarrow. Things do get better and moaning well if we are not moaning about one thing than were moaning about something else. Take care your not alone. ↑ |
| Name: Jamie Gollwitzer | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 3:47 PM |
Hello Risa, I am the mother of 10 yr old Austistic twin boys. What you need to do is make social stories explaining that making good choices, no hitting, screaming, etc, use your pecs cards, will lead to rewards, Ie activiies he enjoys, your school program should be able to make these for you, they are quite simple to make and work wonders. Here is an example of one that Adam's teacher made for him, since he had tantrums before school in the morning: first page: MAKING GOOD CHOICES IN THE MORNING.(READ TO HIM)PAGE2:WHEN I WAKE UP, I GET READY FOR SCHOOL.(BELOW ARE PICTOGRAMS FOR MORNING, i GET READY, FOR SCHOOL)
PAGE 3) I DONT HIT OR KICK OR YELL AT HOME, BELOW WORDS ARE PICTOGRAMS FOR I, DONT HIT, DONT KICK, DONT YELL. PAGE4) IF I MAKE GOOD CHOICES, I CAN CHOOSE A COMPUTER GAME, WHEN I GET TO SCHOOL.. bELOW WORDS PICTOGRAMS FOR I'M, GOOD, COMPUTER. These are called social stories, and trust me they really do work, we have tried evertyhing. The last page of the social story his teacher ran a copy of two computer games that he really likes. We started this social story two-weeks ago, and he is a completely different child in the morning, any question my email is [email protected] your friend Jamie ↑ |
| Name: susan | Date: Feb 14th, 2006 5:51 AM |
| Legislation alert!!! Please search your state legislature site to see if they have enacted a bill to force insurance companies to provide coverage for treatment of autism. Most states allow insurance companies to exclude autism from their policies. Several states have proposed bills, but they have not gone to vote. My state, Michigan, has been sitting on this bill for 3 yrs and it doesn't look like it will be voted on any time soon. Write to your senators and let's get this done !!! :) ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 9:44 PM |
| How would I know if my child has autisim? ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 9:49 PM |
| My son went to the doctors yesterday and after 10 minutes with this doctor they told me he has Autisim. I was shocked I have been to several doctors over the past few months and none of them said anything about autisim. I would like to know what the signs are adn what are things that he might do or not do to confirm the doctors diagnosis? I need answers please if there is anyone out there that can talk to me please write me at [email protected] Please I am just so upset over this hole thing. ↑ |
| Name: jennifer | Date: Mar 10th, 2006 9:07 PM |
| i have 4 children there ages are 5 4 3 2 so i know what you mean my 2 year old has never talked he yells cries throws himself down on the floor. i worry will he fit in as he gets older i worry that he will only become even more angry that he will hit more he is very sweet but has a lot of mood swings he is my baby and i am trying to give him all i can to some how fix him make him better i worry that he is hurting and this is causing frustration wich makes him hit. email me if you like [email protected] it is always nice to have some one to talk to ↑ |
| Name: sharron hogan | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 9:24 PM |
| Hi Im Sharron I have three girls and one son I recently found out that my five years old son has a mild case of autism and im really confuse about this he is a happy child we thought he has adhd like my youngest daughter but he has trouble speaking and some times its hard to understand him and I worry that other children will pick on him as he gets older what can I do? ↑ |
| Name: lisa | Date: Mar 27th, 2006 1:30 PM |
| Risa, my daughter is 4 yrs old and she too has issues with aggressive behavor. I myself think its not so much that she learned the bad behavior or saw it and has been imitating it, its for my child anyway b/c of the level and ability to be more expresssive w/her sppech. Her not being able to communicate effectively is when the aggressive behavior occurs. Also there are other factors that you have to account for, is she tired, hungry, running off no sleep/short nap.. ↑ |
| Name: Jay Wilson | Date: Mar 28th, 2006 12:29 AM |
I am registering for my fiancée whose eldest son, my stepchild, diagnosed two weeks ago as an autistic child. I care for them very much and love her son as my own. We have a two-year old together because of our relationship, which doubly grabs my interests about the subject. Talking with a few intellectuals (i.e. mother and godmother), who had suggestions that prompted me to initiate a search on more thorough information as a result lead me to your website via the Jersey Shore University Medical Centers updates on families caring for children of autistic nature. The central concern of mine is that proper treatment and counseling is asserted for our family so we do not do anything wrong that may be fatal.
Another reason for this contact/response is my fiancée is trying to emotionally cope with the sudden news which has sent her into an early state of depression that may have dire implications if support is not indeed implemented. She has already had spells of crying and grief and anger not knowing how to deal. I exert psychological solace but can only express so much considering I comprehend so little about the issue. I am in Norcross, Georgia working in order to move the family down here with me because I sense that the environment she currently resides in is very unstable, as they receive no financial assistance because she works part time as a livery person in the evenings. While she is at work, the children are with a local babysitter who is wonderful with the children but certainly knows nothing about autism or I would not be sending you this letter. Being that Genaya is away from home at least nine hours a day that leaves the children sometimes vulnerable.
Nature is three or four-years old now so it is critical that we stabilize some sufficient control and duly seek the guidance to perpetuate a normal home existence for all of us. If anyone when they read this email would contact Genaya or me personally by telephone, we will be grateful for your time and patience as we go through. Thank you!
With Gratitude,
Jay Wilson
Contact info: Genaya Johnson - 404-975-8363 and Jay Wilson - 404-975-8364 ↑ |
| Name: tatiana | Date: Apr 19th, 2006 9:56 PM |
| hi my son is 5 and facing autisim .i feel not a lot of people undrstand what we go through as parents.and i would love to have someone to speack to who is going through the same things as me. ↑ |
| Name: Tina | Date: Apr 21st, 2006 9:12 PM |
| I have spent one year trying to set up a one to one centre for childern with autism and developmental delay i have only managed to become a host carer can you help ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 22nd, 2006 5:43 PM |
I am looking for a nanny or manny who has cared for autistic teens. We have a 13year old son with autism. Can anyone give me ideas,direction, etc.
Thank you. my email is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: nikie | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 1:33 PM |
| i think you should sit down and talk as a famly and tell what i a good thing to do and bad things to do. Also when they do a good thing give them praise and tell them how proud you are of them maby give him a snake that way he will look forward to doing good i did this with my son and it worked great ↑ |
| Name: janna | Date: Apr 25th, 2006 1:37 PM |
| my teen ager gets kicked out of class everyday we try to talk and we take things away but nothing seems to help. PLEASE HELP! ↑ |
| Name: lucy | Date: May 14th, 2006 9:38 PM |
| Name: donna | Date: May 31st, 2006 1:28 PM |
| my son has autisum. he medicne they have him on am not so sure about it anymore. ↑ |
| Name: Cierra | Date: May 31st, 2006 2:59 PM |
| Name: fiona | Date: Jun 12th, 2006 7:04 AM |
| hi[ i have autistic son, zach now 9yrs. risa, It is hard to control the hitting that you are going through, i avoided taken zach shopping for a long while because of reactions i received from others, I soon over come it and did my best to divert attention so that it would become less often that he did it. It can feel very dishearting, as you never seem to understand exactly why, they do what they do. You will have ups and downs, beleive me you will cry with all the obbsessive behavehouir but also your angel child will make you laugh, with tears of joy, its very rewarding watching them learn.and begin to understand a little more as they grow. x x x ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Jun 16th, 2006 12:23 PM |
Hi, Risa,
I also have a 3 year old son. I do not know if he has autism but he is going through a lot of tests at the moment as he is still not speaking and he also walks on his tip toes constantly. Like your son, he also has a lot of tantrums and hits his brothers but he doesn't realise that he is hurting them. He is just frustrated that he can't tell us what he wants. I wish someone could just tell me what the problem is! I am so worried. I sympathise with you, I no what it is like. I also have 2 other boys aged 5 and 7. Please email, I would like to chat to someone who is in a similar situation.
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: Kristy Morrison | Date: Jun 16th, 2006 2:27 PM |
| I am the mother of three boys, my middle child Jax is 4 and also PDD/NOS. I definitely know that if he were not so social he would have the autistic diagnosis. I understand the fears and frustrations that everyone with an autistic child has. Things that make my life easier are having Jax in a special school for autistic kids all year round. Which our school district pays for since there were no "appropriate" services for him in our area. Although getting this accomplished was not easy, it was well worth it. We also have a aupair, which is much more affordable than a nanny and this helps so that I do not have to drag my other two children to and from school and endless therapies. And I think the biggest thing I have is hope. Hope that someday he will be able to talk and go through life happy and productive. Some might say its false hope, but none the less, I believe that there is a chance. And that alone helps me to get through each day and difficult moments. There are many more resources for parents of autistic children now, than there were ten years ago. We just have to stick together and support each other as best as possible. ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 10:38 PM |
Hi Kristy,
I have 3 boys also Alex is the youngest (he's the one thats having the problems) We have to go back next week to see the doctors to see what they have to say, I'm nervous I don't know why, I mean I'm glad that he's finally going to get help but at the same time it's like admitting there's a problem. It is so worrying. I would love to chat with you as it seems as though you know exactly what I'm going through. I share the same hopes as you that one day he will talk properly. I hope that so much! My email is [email protected] if you want to chat about things.
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: Kim Mori | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 10:57 PM |
Wow, don't you have a TV?? LOL. You'll get through it Risa your a mum, that's what mum's do! Get hubby involved a bit more, maybe your son needs a firm strong voice to help him every now & than! My son is 12yrs old & has just been diagnosed with ASD but in saying that I've still dealt with his behaviors for that long, he also has multiable disabilities as well! Hope all goes well with baby No 4 and just think a few days off from No 1!! Enjoy your babies!!
Cheers! ↑ |
| Name: Crystal | Date: Jun 29th, 2006 3:04 AM |
| Help if you can... I am married with my first child, 5 month year old son. Our Best friend and their son, 2 years old, has just been dianosed with autisim, their first and only child too. I do not want to come across insenative to you with my choce of words. Can you advise me on how we can support my friends with the new news? ↑ |
| Name: jacksmom | Date: Jan 28th, 2007 5:12 AM |
Jack's story....
After the 12 mos. vaccines my son gradually slipped into autism. He was head-banging, hand-flapping, twirling, lost speech, lost eye contact and he just withdrew.
Now two years later.... no head-banging, no twirling, no flapping, has eye contact and is starting to verbalize again. And... he has Down Syndrome to boot. :) Yes... even kids with DS get autism. Actually they get it at a higher rate.
What helped him? First I give God praise.... our son wouldn't be here without Him and we prayed and I believe He guided us. Second... supplements. Especially cod liver oil. I recommend Green Pastures CLO with the X factor. Check out Dr. Mary Megson's work on the web. http://www.diet-studies.com/megson.html Our Jack healed gradually... but he is healing. I actually had to make myself GET USED TO him not twirling everything any more!
Also check out Dr. Amy Yasko's work. www.holistichealth.com
We give Jack alot of supps - cod liver oil, probiotic, magnesium citrate, tart cherry and recently we added cilantro. He takes some other things too but each child is unique. It helps to find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor. Don't use supps until you research things for yourself. Cilantro for example...should possibly not be used until some other detox has been done.
Don't give up. There is hope! And... I will be frank here.... many mainstream doctors know squat about how to heal autism. Don't let that throw you. There are people who do know how to help. God bless you! Love, Jack's Mom :) [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: jamieszy | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 11:30 AM |
hi,my name is jamie,i worked as an art teacher in a school for children with autisum, and also as an S.n.a and in residential care.i have worked with children like your son.its seem hard to over come these things, but i have found with a bit of brain storming you can actually overcome these problems,,faster then you would think.personally i have just stopped a child from compulsive spitting.he had been doing it non stop for years.no one could help him, and from one idea it stopped within days.its so good that your son uses pecs well.What other positive things is he strong at.Does he really like food ? or car rides...or have a favouite dvd?Thiings like this can really help.Im a graphic design artist and im working on a new pecs method.Well its new to me and we dont use it in school or were not told about it by the pecs lecturer who came to our school.Its hard foir anyone to give advice when you dont know the child ,as all children are different and do these things for different reason.So ideas that help one child wont work at all for others,but we can always try.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: mariyam | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 2:20 AM |
hi risa, i also have a 4yr old child and its been extremely difficult for me to deal wth everythng can u pls contact me on [email protected] 'm having trouble emailing u.
kind regards
mary
mary ↑ |
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