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Name: Liz Roti
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my 21/2 yr old son Cole has austim & I have 2 other boys Jacob 4 & Cody 5 months. we Cole gets fits he starts head butting anything & anyone, then moves on to hitting and hurting others & if Jacob (a string bean) is near Cole(pure musle) he attacks jacob, the only thing I can do (that I can think of) is notice when it's going to happen & then just yell for Jacob to "Run!" but sometimes I don't catch it in time & jacob will get hurt.
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Name: Colleen | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 5:03 PM
I have an Autistic 3 yr old son who head butts, hits his head on floors and walls and screams anytime you tell him no. Do ou know what the odds are for two boys (siblings) to have Autism??

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Name: Onlinedizzy | Date: Jul 16th, 2006 2:55 AM
Hi I have 2 kids with autism. If they are are hurting other people they have to go to their room for " quiet time" to calm down. Then they can come out. If your son is harming himself you need to put him on something soft where he can't hurt him self. You never make eyecontact or acknowledge that he is hurting himself. The behavior has to be ignored unless it is really dangerous and then you move him from harm. Don't try and hold him down as for a lot ofkids don't like this and will struggle more. It does improve once your son has a way of communicating, words, pictures, sign language and he is not so frustrated, it just takes time so hang in there 

Name: Onlinedizzy | Date: Jul 16th, 2006 3:04 AM
Oh and Colleen the "no" thing hapened to me a lot over xmas holidays. You find your self telling them "no" a lot and all I could do was try and not do that as often or distract them with something else if I had to take something away or if they cant have a particular food. My son used to completely lose the plot at 3 if I asked him to "wait" If you want something and mum says "wait" it means she is not giving it to you as a minute or two is a long time and so it must mean "no", cos I ask and I don't get it. He is 6 now and understands wait. I can't rember the odds of siblings having autism but its not that uncommon(sorry). 

Name: leah | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 12:28 PM
Im 11 and my 6 year old sister is so strong she can pick me up the other day she was hitting me so hard with her doll she broke the leg of it.she has a new thing aswell in my room i have a metal bunkbed and ill be sitting on my bed and she'll swing off the barrs and kick me in the head.IM STARTING SECONDRY SCHOOL SOON AND SHE CAN BEET ME UP AND IM SCARED CAUSE SHE'S NEARLY AS BIG AS ME AND THEN SHE IS IM SCARED SHE COULD KILL ME 

Name: lynda | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 5:50 PM
i have a 10 year old daughter who has autism.and my 5 year old son is always getting hit by her she has had knife at him and stab him with pens . so i no what its like i cant put her in her bedroom coz she will harm herself .she has scares all over her .so i have a time out chair were i can see her .i alway tell my son 2 stay away from her if he dont want 2 get hurt but u no kids they never what u say lol 

Name: caroline e jones | Date: May 5th, 2007 4:22 AM
dear Leah - It must be very hard for you, she probably hurts you. What you need to know is that she doesn't really know this. When you are both together and she's in a good mood, like if you play a game or try playing with her and her favourite toys, tell her in very easy words that you do not want her to hit you or hurt you again because it hurts and it is not a good thing because you are her brother. Say this firmly but nicely - maybe you will have to say this more than once to her, but keep repeating it over and over if you have to. But don't be angry with her - but alway be firm and quite serious, so that she gets to know you are not joking. And don't start arguments with her (although that's what brothers and sisters do, cause they can) but your sister is special (and so are you) and you'll have to help her a little by being firm, kind and talk to her in a way you know she'll understand. Best of luck. 

Name: jojojohnson | Date: Jun 6th, 2007 3:55 AM
when my autistic son was 4 years old he used to hit his sister, who was 10 and his brother who was 12. and he really used to hurt them! he is a strong guy! we finally had to put him on medication to control him. (risperidone). after a year and a half, of no hitting and no aggressive behaviour, we took him off of it. and he is fine, no hitting, no aggressive behaviour,
but the best part is, during the medication, my older children were able to play with him, and build a relationship. they can play games with him, watch tv and cuddle, things i never thougt would be possible.
i was always very against medication, that is until my older kids were being hurt! not only is it not fair to the other kids, its not fair that my autistic child had nobody that wanted to be near him.
in the end, it all worked out for us.
hope this is helpful to you, and good luck! 

Name: mtene5 | Date: Jun 23rd, 2007 4:47 PM
I think because he is only 2 and a half that maybe you could try a holding session and see if that works. When he is about to attack his brother bear hug him and don't let him go until he calms down. I know it soulds aweful but sometimes they need that deep pressure to realize where they are and to regain control. This is how I used to have to put me autistic son to sleep because he would lose control of himself when he was tired at night. Now I have an area where I put him because he is too strong for me to hold him anymore and he gets a time out. He usually destroys this area and throws things at the wall so make sure it is not an area of the house that you are in love with. But he will have his fit and when he is calm he is happy to come out and rejoin us. This is how I keep him from hurting the other children when he is angry. 

Name: caroline e jones | Date: Jul 4th, 2008 2:11 AM
Hi Liz - three young sons- great!
I had three sons also but it was my eldest who had an ASD, aspergers. Still, it's hard at times, v. hard. This is a suggestion - do you have any idea why your son Cole gets fits? what triggers it -watch him to see if there might be SOMETHING that sets him off. If there is you cant always solve it but u might be able to lessen his frustration or anger that's causing him to behave the way he does. They usually behave this way because they cant or dont know how to express their feelings over something they think or feel is not right, (or sometimes it's caused by a food intolerance or inbalance), remember though, their idea of what is good or bad isn't always the same as the way we think. They are much, much more sensitive - Cole,is trying to make sense of the world, without some of the tools his brothers have. Be proud of his efforts Liz, even if it comes out as aggression, it shows there's hope! 

Name: shanti_1988 | Date: Jul 9th, 2008 4:59 AM
I have a 13 yr old brother he is high functioning and im starting to learn and cope with him being autistic and the only thing i dont get about my mom is that she wants me and my brother to be close but she doesnt want me to play fight or just play or watch tv or sit in his room while he is playing and especially when im tickling him she wants me to stop cause im bothering him and i know im not and i firmly believe that shes gonna push me away from to the point i dont want to be around and i cant talk to her cause she will get mad,
Any advice??
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Name: There IS Hope | Date: Jul 14th, 2009 4:39 AM
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Name: haidensmum | Date: Jul 27th, 2009 9:45 PM
hiya , i can totally understand this post ! and i feel for you ! i have 10 yr old twins then theres haiden (suspected autisum) and the youngest is keeg 18 months haiden head butts floors walls radiators he bites keegan and at 1 point it was so bad we rang social services haiden is not yet diagnosed but starts assesments soon haiden has little speech he seems to understand but cant comunicate im having the same problem with haiden and hitting biting punching scratching his siblings and me ! he spits also he throws his bed around bites chunks out of his mattress sometimes he is like a wild animal i do control him just and it makes me worry whats in store for me in the future , its taken me months of fighting to get the the nessasary assesments its hard when there undiagnosed cos sometimes he gets really upset over snall things so its trial and error ! good luck just wanted to let you know your not alone x 

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