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Name: Rhonda ([email protected])
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I have been blessed with a Five year old son, who is autistic. Eli recieved his diagnoses when he was almost 3. Yes, I knew before then something wasn't quite right, due to, having 2 other "typical" children (due to lack of a better word). Eli is a challenge, he is extremely stubborn. He does attend school, a public school. If it were not for his Teacher I probably wouldn't know how to handle some of his actions, hitting, biting, kicking, screaming, tantrums and other actions.
I use "Instant Time Out" this a contrversal method of discipline. When Eli has done something that is not acceptable, like biting, hitting, screming, kicking, throwing things, he gets the " Instant Time Out".
This is were I "egg" him. He sits on the floor Indian style I put his hand in front of him and lean over him so he can not move. I count to 10. When I have finished I tell him "NO BITING" after each action he has done that requires a time out I make sure he knows why he is getting a time out.
When it had gotten use to the "Time Out" and knew he was going to get one. He would cry thinking this was all. I would tell him if he fought me or cryed I could not count with him fighting, or whining, when he stopped I would continue to count.
This does work for Eli. But not for every autistic child. For instance their is a little girl in his room, lets say her name is "Sarah" Time out does not work for her. "Sarah" is obsessed with her mom, she would cry for her alot. The teacher took pictures of her mom for her to wear around her neck to keep her from crying.
When she misbehaves they ask her to stop. That if she doesn't they will take the photos. If the condition consists, they will take the pictures away until her behaves. When the behavier subsides, she gets the pictures back.
Discipline does work. It just has to be consistant. I have a soft spot with my child. I let him get away with more than I should. Before I started the discipline I thought I would pull my hair out trying to figure out how to get him to stop some of the actions. Know I say "Do you want a time out? He says "No time out" and tries to stop the action. Sometimes the tantrum is to far gone, and I can not control it with time out.

At first this is a big challange. I promise it will get better. Expect head butting, yelling, biting, anything to try to get up. Be patent, I promise it will get easier. Our children are special, not unable to understand to a degree. They may not know at first, what you are doing to them, but they will learn. This works because they no not like to be held down. This is why is a contriversal issue. Some expert think this is cruel. But, I feel if it works, if anything works, I will give it a try.

Now, the tanturms still come, but you as a parent will know when they need discipline or not.
I know we all have about went crazy trying to get our children to understand they can't do a certain action, this is not acceptable. I hope this gives someone else some incite on how to deal with the problem of discipline.
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Name: cctv79 | Date: Mar 24th, 2006 5:00 AM
good 

Name: jesox | Date: Apr 11th, 2006 7:05 AM
if it worls i say go for it. they need to learn somehow 

Name: kathy | Date: May 1st, 2006 5:05 AM
My daughter has melt downs when things are to noisy because she is scared. She is not trying to be naughty. I bought her a pair of ear muffs like a hunter would where and she puts them on when we go places that overstimulate her or are noisy and scare her, like public restrooms. I also do brushing with her as suggested by her OT and this helps to calm her too. You want your child to learn how to self-regulate, they just need extra tools and patience. 

Name: Marian | Date: May 2nd, 2006 2:11 AM
Discipline and structure is important but as Kathy states finding the reasons behind the behaviors, ie sensory overload, tactile defensiveness(another child brushing up against them, a fan blowing on them etc) can help set up a daily routine or sensory diet to help prevent meltdowns. Your therapist can help a lot with this . 

Name: Melinda | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 7:30 AM
I am facing the exact situation you have just described. Anyone who differs from your "instant time out" has never had a child suffering from autism. I really apreciate your information and other parents should listen to your advice.

Out there, if you are a parent or so called expert, please explain why holding your child from hurting himself or others is cruel? Is it cruel to put other "mentally ill" persons "away" because they have hurt themselves or others? Are straight jackets acceptable? When are they acceptable? Have you dealt with the rages of an autistic or bipolar child? If so, you would agree with this mother. How in the h*ll else to stop the rages? Medications? What? If you have advice, help. Only childrean are at stake. 

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