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Name: LORI
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I am a stay at home mother of 3. My youngest just turned 6, she has autism. I know that many of you know what my life is like, but it seems like no one does at times....most of the time. I am just really looking for a friend. Someone who I can swap ideas with about our children or whatever. I really do not have many friends and the very few I have live in another state. My husband works very long hours and I just think it would be great to find another mom who feels lonley at times also.
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Name: haidensmum | Date: Oct 9th, 2009 9:56 AM
hiya im in a similar situation to you however your girl is a lil older than haiden hes 3 hes going threw the test process but we all no he has autisum i feel like noone understands sometimes and like you i can feel alone ppl just dont understand our kids do they feel free to email me [email protected] 

Name: haidensmum | Date: Oct 9th, 2009 9:57 AM
sorry email address other way round its [email protected] 

Name: hsteer | Date: Oct 12th, 2009 3:01 PM
Hi there,
I have never been a a forum/chat site so apologies if i make any blunders.
I am also a stay at home mother. I have 2 beautiful (but demaning, lol) sons. My eldest son Charles (aged 2) is currently being assessed as to where abouts he is on the autistic spectrum. My youngest son , George (1) is not on the spectrum (so far).
It is such a long process and i sympathise with your message. It does seem very lonely sometimes when your child is confused and you just cant seem to get through to them. I do not know about your daughter but Charlie is a terrible sleeper and this seems to make things a lot worse. Anyway my name is H, and i am from Lincolnshire in England. I am gathering you are from America with your reference to 'the states'. Prehaps we can swap ideas from different countries? Best wishes. 

Name: VirginiaS | Date: Oct 13th, 2009 3:11 AM
Hi Lori, My name is Virginia and I am also a stay at home mom. I have 4 children, one of which has Autism. He is 6 years old and in his second year of KG. I feel the way at times.
I love making new mommy friends that are in the same boat as myself. You can email me at [email protected] maybe we can chat sometime!! Hope you feel better soon! Just know that there are tons of other mommies out there that would love to be a friend, just have to find the right ones. :)
God Bless
Virginia 

Name: heuly | Date: Oct 29th, 2009 11:16 PM
Hi Lori i have a 6 year old daughter who has autism.I am widowed so i take care of her myself.My 18 year old daughter helps me at times but she has her own social life and school etc.So i do understand what you mean that sometimes it would be nice to share your day with someone and swap ideas.My daughter is beautiful and ive had some upsetting things happen lately like when i walked in her room and she had managed to open the window and was sitting on the ledge.if i hadnt walked in that moment i dont know what would have happened.She has no sense of danger at all and it scares me.I have to take her with me everywhere i go i cant leave her alone for a second,If i need the bathroom she comes with me a bath she comes with me.She is like another me i have to take care of.And it gets tiring at times.Nothing in me would change her now because this is who she is and i love her for it.But yes i get lonely and unsure of myself at times.So i do understand where you are comming from. 

Name: m6688k | Date: Dec 3rd, 2009 9:21 PM
Hi Lori I am a SAHM of a nonverbal autistic 6 yr old boy and a typically developing 3 yr old girl. I am looking to develop a support team of dedicated moms to help motivate each other and bounce idea off of. My husband also works long hours and I know the isolation can get to ya sometimes... please contact me [email protected] 


Name: jojo1 | Date: Jan 12th, 2010 12:02 PM
Hi Lori

I have just joined, as yes, I too feel that way. I am also a mother of three wonderful boys, one with aspergers disorder and one with autism. My husband works long hrs and all my friends and family live interstate.

I realise that it is extremely difficult sometimes, but the way I deal with everything is to tell myself that God doesn't give these special children to us, if he thought that we could not handle it. He gave us our babies because he knew that we would be the best person for the job.

I hope to hear back from you soon and we can have a chat, until then take care.

Jo 

Name: JDCOOL | Date: May 19th, 2010 3:01 AM
I also have 3 children but my midle child has autism. If you ever need to talk feel free to email me at [email protected] It is a lonely experience sometimes, but dont worry they surprise you sometimes. Take care,
Anne 

Name: Andrew | Date: May 26th, 2010 3:04 PM
I'm not a woman but I do understand the way you feel, yes i am awear that sounds weird but not only woman are fulltime parents 

Name: tomorrow10 | Date: Jul 15th, 2010 4:33 PM
I also know how you all feel! I am looking for friends too! A lot of our friends walked away from us when Autism walked into our lives, family too,as sad as that is. My son is 6. I am also a stay at home mom, there aren't many jobs out there that will let you work from 9 to 2 and give you all weekends and holidays off :) But I do enjoy being able to be home with my kids! I am also lonely, and am craving friendship with someone's who understand. If anyone wants to email me, please do! [email protected] 

Name: Robert Herbert | Date: Jul 17th, 2010 11:42 AM
I CURED MY SON OF AUTISM. HE WAS DIAGNOSED SEVERELY AUTISTIC AT AGE 2 1/2. I HAVE WRITTEN AN EBOOK EXPLAINING ALL OF THE NATURAL, ALTERNATIVE THERAPIES THAT CURED MY SON. PLEASE VISIT MY SITE www.howtocureautismnaturally.com 

Name: MOTHER M. | Date: Jul 17th, 2010 8:56 PM
I DON'T HAVE ANY FRIENDS WHO UNDERSTAND AND SOME THAT DON'T EVEN TRY . I CAN USE SOME ONE TO TALK TO AS WELL. MY SON WAS DIAGNOSED AS OF MARCH THIS YEAR. HE IS A VERY LOVELY BOY BUT A TRUE HAND FULL . HE CAN MAKE ME SMILE JUST AS FAST AS PUT ME IN TEARS . SOME TIMES I FIND MY SELF AT A LOST TO KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT . MY SONS NAME IS BLAKE AND HE IS THREE . HE BLEW THROUGH THE ACHEIVEMENT ON AGE STAGES GROWING UP. HE ROLLED OVER SET UP PULLED HIMSELF UP AND WALKED AROUND THE TABLE IN THE SAME TWO WEEKS. HE WAS SAYING HI BUY THE TIME HE WAS ONLY 6 WEEKS OLD AND MOMMA BY 8 WKS . DADDY BY 12 WKS AND SO FORTH. THEN AT 1 YRS OLD IT ALL WENT BACKWARDS HIS SPEECH BECAME BABBLE AND HIS DAZES LASTED MINUTES WITHOUT EVEN A BLINK NEVER FEARING STRANGERS OR DANGEROUS SITUATIONS ARE LIKE A RUSH TO HIM , PAIN DIDN'T EVER EVEN REGISTER LIKE IT WOULD FOR US , SMACKING HIS HEAD ON CONCRETE WAS FUNNY BUT BUMPING INTO SOME ONE HE WOULD SCREAM. HE WILL RUN DOWN THE HALLS SMACKING AND SLAMMING HIS BODY INTO THE WALLS AND LAUGH........ THE FLIP OUTS AS I CALL THEM WHEN HE TOTALLY WILL LOOSE IT OVER ANY THING DRIVES ME NUTS TO FIND WAYS TO SOOTHE HIM.. HE HAS HURT HIMSELF AND OTHERS BUT DOESN'T GRASP REALITY AT ALL LIKE WE DO .. POTTY TRAINING NOW FOR OVER A YEAR ON AND OFF .. HE'LL BE GOOD FOR MONTHS THEN ALL THE SUDDEN BACK TO THE VERY BEGINNING AGAIN . BELIEVE ME I UNDERSTAND AND WOULD LOVE TO TALK WITH YOU MY E-MAIL ADDRESS IS [email protected] AND YOU ARE MORE THEN WELCOME TO CONTACT ME AT ANY TIME...... MY OWN HUSBAND IS A SKEPTIC TO HIS BEHAVIOR AND HIS FAMILY HAS HIM CONVINCE THAT HE'S JUST SPOILED AND THROWS TEMPER TANTRUMS. THEY CAN'T EVEN BEGIN TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IT'S LIKE WHEN IT TAKES ME 30 MINS. TO AN HOUR JUST TO GET HIM TO THE CAR OR WHEN I HAVE TO GO PAY BILLS OR TO HIS DOCTORS OR EVEN MINE AND THE CONCEPT OF SITTING STILL OR BEING QUIET OR TO HAVE HIM FLIP OUT JUST BECAUSE HE'S IN A BUILDING WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND GETS TO TENSE AND JUST LOOSES IT . THE ONLY TIME I CAN SAY WAS A GOD SENT WAS WHEN I WAS AT THE SSI OFFICE AND AN AUTISTIC SPECIALIST ACTUALLY WAS THERE AS WELL AND HELPED ME WITH HIM WHEN HE FLIPPED OUT. SHE SAID SHE NEW THE SECOND HE STARTED GETTING TENSE AND HOW HE REACTED TO BEING STILL. A MIRACLE ... 

Name: tasha1011 | Date: Jul 20th, 2010 11:21 PM
For those of you feeling alone, I promise you are not. My son is now 9 years of age and he is performing wonderfully in school, involved in clubs and socializes with friends. And yes, he has autism. I have been giveng tips and suggestions to parents at my blog http://raisingsucautistic.blogspot.com/

Read it. Hopefully it will help. I also happen to be a school psychologist. 

Name: Robert Herbert | Date: Aug 6th, 2010 3:57 PM
My son was diagnosed severely autistic when he was 2. My son eliminated all of his symptoms and learning disabilities through a series of non-invasive, completely natural treatments that I did with him. He is now 13 years old and he is completely mainstream. His recovery was only because of the various cutting edge therapies that he did. I have put everything that I have learned in 11 years about healing autism into an ebook that can change your child's life forever. I urge you to go howtocureautismnaturally.com and start healing your child today. I know it may sound too good to be true but every child will benifit from the therapies described in my book. Just because the medical community doesn't have a pill to cure autism they say it is incurable. That is not the case and my son is living proof. When he was diagnosed the doctor told my I would have to take care of him his entire life. I refused to accept that fate for my son and you don't have to accept it for your child either. Please read my book and start healing your child today. 

Name: kmahon04 | Date: Aug 9th, 2010 6:15 PM
sometimes just getting out of the house with your daughter helps to get your mind off your situation also finding a support group in your area that meets the needs of yourself and your child 

Name: MichelleWalker | Date: Aug 14th, 2010 10:30 PM
Hi lori, my names michelle i have 2 boys age 2 and 10 my oldest pj has autism hes a very strong big lad for his age and is non verbal which can lead to the worst tantrums which u think will never end but hes also very loving and happy lad he understands most things but cant communicate back i no how lonely u must feel im the same even tho i have lots of friends and family i just dont think anyone understands as much has us parents who live with r kids 24/7 its hard but to keep positive i always think thank god hes got a disability and not an illness were lucky really to lots of parents so ur not alone lori plz contact me if u want my e-mail is [email protected] 

Name: angee0327 | Date: Aug 16th, 2010 7:52 PM
Hi Lori,
I feel for ya! I am a mother of twin boys that are 8yrs old, and both autistic. I often would love to have another mom that knows how it feels to talk to . I'm here for ya. My email is [email protected]
Angie 

Name: heuly | Date: Aug 16th, 2010 8:34 PM
Hi Lori i know exactly how you feel i live in the uk I am a mother of 3 my youngest daughter is 6 and turns 7 soon she has autism.The older children one is living a bit away from me and i dont get to see often and the other one is off to university.My partner passed away so i am struggling to bring my daughter up on my own.Its been so difficult this summer holiday they have 6 weeks off school here and Ive had to find things for her to do from 7 am till very late at night.I understand completely what you're saying about feeling alone.I havent really mixed in with people so dont have any friends probably thats my own fault as ive sort of secluded myself from everyone in a way of protecting my daughter. I would love to swap ideas with you sometime. Take care 

Name: tasha1011 | Date: Aug 20th, 2010 5:09 PM
I have posted an article on controlling temper tantrums (anger outbursts). You can read it at http://www.associatedcontent.com/
article/5700064/autism_controllin
g_anger_outbursts.html?cat=25


It
gives tips and suggestions to parents (like myself) who have children on the spectrum. Read it and tell me what you think. 

Name: katie l | Date: Sep 16th, 2010 10:00 AM
hi lori,my name is katie. i am a mother of 2. both of my sons have autism one is 5 and one is 2. my husband also works 12 hour shifts,and it does feel like nobody ever could understand what we as mothers of autistic children face in a day. it its like i dont have any friends anymore excepy for the 6 therapists that come in my house for 25 hrs a week! other than that its just me dealing with everything you could imagine on the autism specturm. so i know what its like. if you want to talk i will try to come back and check this at about 9:30 am 

Name: ForAbby | Date: Sep 23rd, 2010 8:07 PM
I am 24, and a stay at home STEP mom of 2 girls age 4 and 3. The 3 year old is going through the test stage for Autism. I am very new to this, but taking every step I can to become a better person for these little girls. My boyfriend of 2 years just got custody of his children in Jan of 2010, so they have been a part of my life since then. Like I said, I am very new to everything! I would love to find a good email buddy to chit chat with, exchange stories, concerns, successes and ideas. If you are interested, please email me at [email protected]

Name: Bexcity1 | Date: Oct 7th, 2010 1:49 PM
My email is [email protected] if you want to talk I feel the same x 

Name: sean8 | Date: Oct 15th, 2010 2:27 AM
I am also a stay at home mom with a child with autisim, he is 8. I just really need someone else to talk to that knows what i am going through. 

Name: dolphinlover | Date: Aug 6th, 2011 5:50 PM
i am the same way with my 4 year old son


if u want to talk to me email me at [email protected] 

Name: alfies mummy | Date: Nov 2nd, 2011 2:50 PM
hey lori my names charlotte your not alone! i know what you mean when i first found out son had autism i felt so lonely luckily enough there is so much support in my area i go to a lot of groups with mums in who totally understand but if you area has nothimg like that there seems to be a lot of mums on here ready 2 listen and help (im one of them) xx 

Name: Finnish444 | Date: Nov 3rd, 2011 5:41 AM
Hi Lori. My name is Sara and I just recently learned that my 2 yr old son is autistic. I feel more than alone right now. I will be forced to quit my job as I am a single parent and my son will require 30 plus hours of therapy a week. I am starting to believe that unless you are a parent of an autistic child, others do not relate. I am sorry that this has happened to your child and anyone else who ha to sacrafic and deal with the tiring demands. Just remeber your baby love you, you are her world. xo 

Name: mrobleslarios | Date: Nov 11th, 2011 3:39 AM
Hi Lori,
I can only imagine how you feel. I don't have a child with autism but I have a good friend whose brother has autism so I know what autism looks like. I want to share a piece of information that I found very useful and my friend's brother found liberating, i'm sure.
This is an article that I wrote. I hope you find it useful and informative. :)
When Autism strikes a family it is normal to seek out whatever help is available to assist the child in growing and developing as well as he or she possibly can. Over the years there have been various different treatments and therapies, each with their own degree of success. It has only been in more recent years though that the antioxidant, glutathione, has been brought up as a possible treatment to assist children with autism spectrum disorders (ASD).

So is there any truth to the stories and information out there about Glutathione and its effect on autism? There are documented case studies of multiple children with autism spectrum disorders who after a few treatments with Glutathione showed profound improvement. They became less combative, calmer and more cooperative. Some of the children were able to speak for the very first time in their lives. One mother reports that, after 4 glutathione treatments, her eight-year-old son was able to dress himself for the first time ever.

Glutathione is known as the master antioxidant and is, in fact, the most prevalent and powerful of all antioxidants in the human body. All other antioxidants, including vitamins A, C and E, require the correct levels of glutathione in order to perform their tasks within the body properly. Every cell in the body requires glutathione to function as they were created, but when glutathione levels are low or depleted, then they become vulnerable to damage by free radicals and oxidative stress. The brain is especially susceptible to oxidative stress and damage by free radicals. When healthy levels of glutathione are maintained then oxidative stress and its implications are greatly reduced. Hence the importance of maintaining the correct levels of this important antioxidant at all times.

Often blood tests from children with autism show a low level of glutathione. This means that oxidative stress is likely to be causing further damage to cells within the body, especially the brain, and also that toxin levels within the body will be higher than they should be. Both of these situations are improved greatly by increasing the glutathione levels in the body.

When a child is treated with glutathione their levels of this antioxidant greatly increase, thus assisting the body in fighting off the free radicals and reducing the impact of oxidative stress. The effect is holistic in that the glutathione works in three different ways: to detoxify the body, at a cell level; enhance and strengthen the immune system and act as an antioxidant to protect the body from the dangerous effects of oxidative stress. It is important to remember that this is not a cure, but rather a treatment that is helping many families that have a child with ASD.

Each case is individual and the results for each child are unique, but the improvements in many of the autistic children receiving glutathione treatments are truly promising. Parents are able to hear their child speak and see them interacting with others, which was certainly not the case before their glutathione interventions. It is also important to have a holistic view of autism and to ensure a healthy diet that reduces the effects of ASD. Behavioral coaching may also be something that benefits the child. When the combination of diet, behavioral intervention and glutathione treatments are combined then it definitely appears, from documented cases, that there may be drastic improvements in the child's socialization skills, interaction and verbalization.

love and light,
Michelle

www.themasterantioxidant.com 

Name: nicmcleod1981 | Date: Nov 15th, 2011 8:30 PM
Hi Lori,

I am a full time worker, full time student, but I do have help from my husband.
I know exactly how you feel. I only have one child Jacob who is 4 and we have done all the evaluation and he is now in special ed taking speech therapy, OT and PT. In the beginning I felt really alone, I still do most of the time. I use to get tired of hearing people say "Oh yeah my son does that too" and Im thinking you have no idea. It is evem hard for me to talk about because it makes me cry.
My son is very smart they say he is high functioning like Aspergers. I struggle so much with the discipling, the screaming is hard to deal with and the mood swings. I love my son so so much and it hurts because there are a lot of times when I dont know what to do. I cry when Im alone and I try to hold it together when I am around my son.
My friends and co-workers try to offer advice but its not the same.
My biggest problem is having patience with him. Sometimes I am so tired and its hard to do. Well if you need to talk my email is [email protected].

Good Luck 

Name: Ele | Date: Nov 28th, 2011 9:41 PM
Hi Lori,

I also am feeling very alone today. My son just started a new mainstream classroom today. He is having a very hard time with transitions and is acting out due to fear and anxiety.
I know it will get better but I have a hard time looking at the other parent as I know they do not understand what is going on with my kid. I feel pretty isolated.

I would love to chat with other parents too. 

Name: nana to joel | Date: Dec 1st, 2011 8:27 PM
HI IM CAROL IM NEW TO THIS, MY GRANDSON IS SHOWING SIGNS OF AUTISM, HES 18 MONTHS OLD AND I HAVE NO IDEA WOT TO DO FOR HIM , IM FEELING VERY HELPLESS RIGHT NOW, WAS WONDERING IF ANYONE COULD HELP, MY E MAIL ADDRESS IS, [email protected]
WOULD BE VERY GREATFULL FOR ANY HELP OR ADVICE AS IM VERY DISTRESSED RIGHT NOW X 

Name: justshe | Date: Dec 15th, 2011 6:52 AM
Now she is watching her favorite cartoon. after 30 min , she started to take off DVD and kiking the DVD player. Dad is shouting at her !I get nervos, why her Dad does not undrestand this little 2 year and 8 months. She is diagnosed moderate autism at the age of 2 years . She does not have eye contact with us and others at all or just 5% of times. she undrestand everything but she does not talk to us and others. some small words is her language all. such as dady car, book , it is a house, car , animal names,... it is a train ... totally around 40 words. she ask us anything by dragging our hands and showing or screeming . it is hard to me all the day but I love her a lot . I do not accept some body help me because I do not like be away of her. I read all comnments here. I got realy worry if she never start speaking. pls, let me know about your children talking age. thank you 

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