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I have a son who just turned 2 on the 4th, and he hasnt been diagnosed yet, but he starts therapy on mon. He does talk alot he counts to 13, says his ABCs, can identify body parts, animals and shapes. But he doesnt answer to his name or commands all the time.
Lately he has been having these horrible tantrums, it doesnt matter what it is or where we go he throws big huge tantrums if he doesnt want to leave. I dont know how to deal with it. he kicks pulls hair, slaps me. But after he is done with his big ordeal he wants to be loved and kissed, and its so hard for me to be affectionate with him after that. I feel so drained and disconnceted. I dont want to take him anywhere anymore, its just not worth it. Any suggestion?
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Name: smithalan00 | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 8:57 AM
It might be Alexia where child find difficultly which you have explain.


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Name: texasheat | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 9:47 AM
My oldest autistic son does this. I know how you feel. Now before I start, what works for me, may not work for you and while I have great results doing what I am about to tell you, it doesn't work all the time. When my boy starts to act out. I grab him, hug him and tell him it's going to be okay. I treat him like a baby in other words. I let him know I am there and I will keep him safe. If at sometimes this doesn't work, bribery works but you HAVE to live up to your part of the deal. If you promise icecream if he gets in the car then go to get icecream because if you don't he'll remember and wont bother making a deal with you. Yes, I know it does sound like giving in but these aren't "normal" children we deal with and sometimes we have to think outside of the box. 

Name: texasheat | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 9:52 AM
I also wanted to add but I forgot in my last post that sometimes when he does this at the house and I can't remedy the situation or use bribery. I just ignore him. I make sure he is safe from harm first and foremost but I do the ignore trick and I'll go around calling his name and a lot of times that will work too and then he'll stop screaming and start laughing because he thinks I have lost him. BUT be careful and don't over do it because he might decide to hide one day. This is from my personal experience in dealing with this. 

Name: Edwardliu | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 12:23 PM
I think your son is very smart. He can detect your stress and he got more stress. Just like I ask my doctor why he suddenly did so many tantrums when we wait his autism title. Don't scold him. Calm down and think. Is that real important he get autism title? Problem is there. It just need to solve the problem. But at the beginning I bet none of us want to get that title. I think your son is smart enough. Just treat him as normal child. But teach him using special skill. Remember to take him to go anywhere and it is very important for his future. After he is three years old, teach him to read by himself. Then teach him a lot of social story. With my point, he can change a lot when he grows up. He can go to normal school. Suggest you check TACA web site, help your son.
My son is four years and eight months. He is very lovely now.
He can read and write. He can do simple math. He seldom has tantrum now. He can speak everything. But he is still not very social. We keep teach him every day. I do believe he will be normal one day. Sometimes I think I just the lucky one. My son improve a lot after we do biomedical for him. He actually is a very smart boy. My husband and I want him to become engineer one day. Dream just dream, who know?
One day my son Edward told me he is sick and Jesus come to recover him. It surprises me. 

Name: wendy138 | Date: Aug 4th, 2011 10:06 PM
It's very hard my grandson is the same way and I just learned to accept carrying him out kicking and screaming. He is 4 now. If you can take sometime for yourself and if he can get into preschool it will give you a break. Hang in there. I know how you feel. 

Name: Edwardliu | Date: Aug 5th, 2011 2:14 PM
From my own option, he just likes a normal child. Lot of little kids do the same thing when they are young. It is not surprise to see a two years old child cry at the shop because they want to buy something or they want to play more time.
Autism child does this tantrum all the time when they are little. Specially I don't think they can speak when they are two years old. I think we get used to this tantrum.
Just treat your child as normal kid. Count five, four, three, two, one and go home. No kiss and hug after that. Otherwise you will encourage this bad behavior.
Go shopping more than before and practice it. He will learn fast from that. If he does well, don't forget give him a reward and kiss. 


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