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Name: leah m
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I have a 4 year old daughter with autism who has no verbal skill and few receptive language kills but we seemed to be doing okay. Some days are challenging but she is a non agressive loving child and we count ourselves lucky. But the other day we went to the mall to a play area that she absolutely loves. She never bothers the other children and just jumps on the structures, and even though it says no candy or food other parents disregard this and I constantly have to watch her from grabbing drinks, cookies, candies. Yesterday she took a little boys gum ball and I thought he was going to hit her. I rushed over made her spit it out and gave the crying boy another quarter so that he could buy a new gum ball. And then apologized to the parents. I was embarassed but let it go. Next thing I know a lady eating cookies comes in and Emma snatches her cookies. I apologize but don't explain she is autistic and decide I have had enough, we leave. I really hate that I feel like we can't go to places like that anymore, My husband and I watch her like a hawk but she is fast and will grab things before we can get to her. I just feel lost today and want to hear other parents experiences that have dealt with the same things. I just need to get out this pain that I feel. I guess I still haven't come to terms that Emma is not going to have a normal life. I hate that I am cliche enough to say "Its not fair" and "Why Me!" This is my first time posting on a forum, but I needed just to get it out.
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Name: Giveherwings | Date: Jan 5th, 2011 4:36 AM
My daughter did the same thing when she was that age. She is now 12 and it has been years since she has done it. It really just seemed to be a phase and it did past. Many things that Brayden did when she was younger she did simply out grow, I know it's hard for you to believe now but things do get better with age ,they tend to refocus on other things. Now she takes little characters everywhere with her, that's her thing, not age appropriate but dosn't hurt anyone and no more grabbing things from people. For now you will find most people are kind and understanding so keep taking her out it's the best way for her to learn even if it does get hard at times. Another huge help for our family and overall the best thing we have ever done for her was to get her a autism service dog. I can't begin to explain what the dog has done for our family, a huge help in public situations. May be worth looking into. Try not to worry about the people around you just explain when you need to and most people will understand and the ones that don't just forget about. And you wouldn't be normal if you didn't ask why me? I often ask why her? As I have gotten older I have realized just how lucky I am I have a special relationship with my daughter one like no other we are part of each other she is my purpose in life and I'm her only friend her everything, she is the one person in this world who I know loves me with all her heart and that will never change. Times get hard real hard but there are so many more good times than bad, the kisses,the words and the daily accomplishments that you think will never come but do----good times. Enjoy the good times 

Name: erachael | Date: Feb 9th, 2011 6:22 PM
My son is 6 and my son is super quick about getting into all sorts of things. I've come to the conclusion that, yes, it is not the norm and therefor makes it pretty fun or funny at times.

Think of it this way: parents with "normal" children will not have the numerous funny, out of the ordinary, didn't think they could possibly do that kind of stories.

Yes it is frustrating at times but for the most part I enjoy the crazy scenarios my son gets us into. Or at least I can find the humor in it.

The normal life bit is over rated and I am content with enjoying my son and seeing him happy.

I was in the beginning crying every 3 months it seemed. Then I realized feeling sorry for my son would not help anything. I had to keep pushing him to make those baby steps and holding him accountable for his actions.

In public I do explain from time to time that my son is autistic. Most of the time I just don't mind saying things that sound weird.

I like my life and my son contributes to my life. It is wonderfully comical at times. If anything they make you not care as much what other people think. When that is discovered you will enjoy your life a lot more and your child.

I look back at the first years after his diagnosis and they were dark times that still pull at my soul when I think about it. I am so happy to have moved on and I wished that we didn't have to go through the dark years but they certainly change you. I personally like the change.

I know that there will be more behaviors to figure out in the future but that will only add to the stories that make our life interesting and humorous.

The "normal" family and children looks to be no fun at all. 

Name: theworm 08 | Date: Feb 10th, 2011 7:54 PM
my 2 yr old son was diagnosed today with autism,even thi i knew,it was still a shock.
i know how u feel,ethan will grab something in any shop we go to,i am allways so anxious and stressed,and forever taking things back to pay for them,if he cant reach something he will have a tantrum,and throw his head bk and forth,and has sometimes almost knocked himself out!
me and the boys dad split last june,but he has been brilliant.but dont understand and dont have to deal with half the stuff he does.if we go to a friends house he can be so destructive i have to move things out of reach from him.i too feel like "why him"it isnt fair,but i remind myself everyday it could be a lot worse,there are some very poorly children out there,and atleast i can show him everyday how much i love him,and will help him everyday of his life if i have too,cause thats wat were here for...it is hard but you only get 1 life,and i have to be positive,if i start thinking any other way i think i would fall to peices! 

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