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Name: Tia
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Hi everybody. I am 7 weeks pregnant and very nervous. My autistic son is 30 months old. When he turns 3 we no longer have Early Intervention in our home. I've been told a bus will come to our home to pick my son up and continue therapy in a pre kindergarden setting. I wasn't going to do this, but with a new baby coming I'm wondering if I should. Did anyone else have difficulty letting someone else take their child? I don't know how he'll function without me and it really scares me.

I'm also concerned on how my son will react with a new baby. Is there anything I should be doing to prepare him? Are there any precautions I need to take? I am a stay at home mom and I've never spent more then 3 hours a week away from my son. I'm worried how he's going to react when he has to share my attention. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Name: frecklejuice | Date: Aug 15th, 2005 3:36 AM
My son is 3 and will attend a public school preschool in Sept. I had to fight to get him in there. There is no program or protocal for addressing autism in our area. So I researched and asked lots of questions over and over again so that I could make an informed decision about how to help my son.

Having said that, my advice to you is to meet your son's teacher, ask questions, and be heard. If anyone says 'the teacher is on vacation...wait for the teacher to call you.....blah blah blah,' just ignore it and restate your request.

My son needs to go to preschool b/c he has to get used to other children, he needs more than I can give him and he needs special instruction.

I have LOTS of difficulty letting go of my children. So I ask lots of questions to the folks that take care of my children. When I realize I did not get the answer I wanted I call back and ask more questions, calmly, most of the time.

I think the new baby could be a very good influence on your son. He may LOVE the baby. My son is loving and affectionate and will willingly and gently give babies kisses. I would never leave him alone with one. You could give him a baby doll and teach him how to be gentle with it. Then tell him as your belly grows that you have a baby growing etc..

I am reading "Siblings of Children with Austim" by Sandra Harris and ...Glasberg. So far the book suggested that the closer in age the siblings are, the closer emotionally they will be.

God Bless and Take Care 

Name: Stefanie | Date: Sep 1st, 2005 7:58 PM
Hello Tia! I have a 2 and a half year old son with PDD and a 6 and a half month old daughter. We just informed our son that there was a baby on the way and just tell him as you would a child without autism. They understand more than we think. The day we brought the baby home my son was very curious! He said "baby" very enthusiastically the second we got home. We had never heard him say it before! The whole time I was pregnant we encouraged him to say "baby" we did'nt until he saw her for the first time! I was thrilled! Every morning she is the first person he wants to see. He runs up to her and talks to her in his own little language and they both giggle and carry on together. I had the same concerns you do. I knew by my sons personality though that there would be no jealousy. Now that she is crawling and sitting up I do have to watch him with her more because he likes to play rough with her and sit on her and stuff and if he gets angry and she's around he might swat at her or pop her softly in the back of the head so to eliminate that I just put her in her playpen until his anger gets under control. In general, I think they will be very close. He has never hurt her. But you will just need to be able to seperate them at times to give eachother a break. I hope this is informative. I can try to answer any other questions you may have on this matter to. [email protected]

As far as the schooling.... my son will start that soon as well and I am all for it. It will give him a chance to learn more about social intervention and they also offer potty training in some of those programs. For my son they are going to help potty train him. He will learn more about sharing and how to sit and follow some instruction. It will be great for him and it will give you a great break for when you are tired and need your rest after the baby comes! I would go for it girl! If you dont like it after a couple of months then take him out. At least you can say you tried it and that's all you can do. 

Name: michelle | Date: Sep 29th, 2005 4:51 PM
my son has been in prek for 2yrs.and just stared kinder.its helped him so much seeing his friends and having that routine in his daily life.I asked alot of questions before he stared school.and i got all the anwers i need.i made lots appts. with diffent prek. classes to see what was best for my son.My prayers are with you and son,family. 

Name: Lynda | Date: Nov 22nd, 2005 10:38 PM
I know it's been a few monthssince you posted this. I hope you decided to let your son go. Not only would it be good for him, but it will be good for you and the new baby. My son was almost three when he started school, and the home visits were wonderful. It was hard to believe that he'd be able to get on the bus, but he did &, as they say, early intervention is an absolute must. At first he didn't like his new sister, but then they became best friends, actually for quite some time she was his only friend. I think you'll see that the new baby will help him in many ways. Good Luck to you and your family. 

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