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Name: gemmdenn
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I have a 2 and half yr old autistic son and a normal(whatever that is!) 5 yr old daughter and I would love to have another baby but I am concerned that it will put added stress/pressure on our family. I am interested to find out how it has been for other people.Has it been a struggle? My son is still in nappies and takes most of my attention,I am worried that he would not respond well to a baby taking the attention away from him.I am also concerned that I could never leave him alone with baby as he would probably hurt it. I would love to hear your opinions on how it has affected the family also what are the chances of having another child with autism?
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Name: Fran | Date: Jan 9th, 2007 10:03 PM
I am also in the same situation as you. I have a 4 year old autistic son and a 2 year old typical son. I had always wanted 3 children and especially wanted the chance to try for a daughter. My husband and I go back and forth all the time about whether or not to have another child. I guess I'm not as concerned about having another autistic child as I am about whether I can handle 3 children. My autistic son takes so much of my time as well and it is a struggle to balance my attention between both of my boys all the time. I also worry about how my autistic son would respond to another new sibling. I don't know if that would cause a set back for him with that change in the house. I guess to answer your question.....I will probably have another child because I love children and even though I do have the same worries as you, I need to do what my heart is telling me otherwise I might someday regret not taking that chance. Good luck to you with your decision. 

Name: gemmdenn | Date: Jan 9th, 2007 11:00 PM
Fran what was it like when you had your now 2 yr old? How did your then 2 yr old autistic son respond to having a baby around? Was it more difficult having an older child with autism and a baby around? My daughter is older than my son so for me it was easy because she was such a bright the 2 yr old and understood me quite easily. Do your boys have a good sibling relationship? Thanks for your advice Fran what you said about doing what is your heart really hit home,I think if I didn't try for another baby I would regret it later on. It is good to get another persons view on things to help put things into perspective. 

Name: mondo | Date: Jan 9th, 2007 11:53 PM
why would you worry about having another child? You probably would never have thought you could handle Autism until it fell into your life unexpectdly. I say that one can handle anything if one accepts it. Another child is another gift, just like the one before! i have a 19yr old son with Autism, a 21 yr college daughter and a 16 mos old boy- they all get along great, each putting forth their unique contributions to our family, and for the record, my two boys hang out without a problem, my 19 yr old is kind and gentle with him, its a beauty to watch them interact. Much they will learn from one another. As we all do. 

Name: Fran | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 12:52 AM
gemmdenn, I have to admit that my autistic son had a hard time when his brother was born. However, we did not know he was autistic at that time and just thought it was all jealousy. They now have a love-hate relationship. They tease eachother, they fight, they play together and they want to be around eachother all the time. I have a harder time keeping them separated when needed:) My younger son picks up a lot of bad habits from his brother, but as he gets older he should start understanding a little better about what's acceptable behavior. So you may have a rough time for awhile after the baby is born, but it does get better!!! Let me know if you have anymore questions......I come on this site a lot. 

Name: rachtwins | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 3:32 AM
I have almost three year old autistic twins and a 5 month old baby. I found that the twins didn't even acknowledge there new brother. If I put the baby down on the ground for a kick I had to be careful the boys didn't just walk over the top of him it was like he wasn't even there. Only now they are acknowleding him more and will put his dummy in if it falls out.
If you want another baby do it, don't look back in life and regret your decision, its hard work but worth it. 

Name: Overson5 | Date: Jan 17th, 2007 11:07 PM
I have a 4 year old HFA girl (we just recently discovered she if autistic). When she was 20 months old, we had a boy. She usually ignored him, but was also very jealous of him (she hated having pictures taken with him since she had to be in close proximity to him). Now, they get along really well and we have a 9 month old boy. She loves him....even gives him kisses. It seems like time took care of her jealousy issues. We are even expecting another baby this August [probably our last :)], and I am sure she will love him/her as well. Best of luck!!! 


Name: jacksmom | Date: Jan 28th, 2007 3:23 AM
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Cod liver oil really helps heal the autistic brain. The healing is gradual. My son, has been healing gradually from ASD with CLO and other supps. There;s more Dr. Megson info on the web. Also check out Dr. Yasko at www.holistichealth.com. Love, Jack's Mom 

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