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Name: Delicateflower

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Hi all. This is my first post. I have a 21 year old son with Aspergers. I also have a son that will be 2 in December. I am very concerned about my toddler. He hardly talks and just doesn't seem engaged the way he should be. I have an uneasy feeling about him that I remember too well.

They have different fathers, and I have not immunized my toddler because of my fear of autism/aspergers for him.

A few months ago, my husband and I were visiting a therapist. She has a 5 year old autistic son and does evaluations for children. We were there for 1/2 hour or so, and she assured me that my baby was normal, but I'm still so worried.

Can anyone give me advice on what to do/what to look out for? ↓

Name: elphick family | Date: Dec 22nd, 2006 12:08 PM

hello!!
i can so understand how worried you must feel. I hope my notions will help.... my son was diagnosed only 12 months ago, but as a mum ( i have 3 others ) you know when something is not right with your child.

i started to notice small things at the begining, like constantly walking on his toes, flapping his hands a lot, and no real eye contact. He never spoke until he started kindergarten, and to this day he still has a lot of speach problems even though he is improving slowly. he is now 5 1/2 yrs old and not fully toilet trained, i have tried everything to get him to go!! it is very frustrating on all of us. But i must say out of all the autistic traits that are out there , my son will give me a hug and kiss but only when he feels like it!! he won't do it if i ask, which can be very sad.

all i can say is to trust your own judgement, after all you know him best!!!

take care Lela ↑

Name: Lise111 | Date: Jan 6th, 2007 5:21 AM

Here is a great website I found when trying to decide if my "feeling" was right about my son. It is a great site that goes into a lot of detail, and the woman who runs it also has a book called "Could It Be Autism?" that is SO wonderful & helpful I wish I could give everyone a copy, lol. The website is www.firstsigns.org You can buy the book there, or go on Amazon and get it for a little less maybe. I can almost guarantee that halfway into the book you'll know if your child is autistic or not (some of the actual checklists doctors use to diagnose are included in the book so you can do them on your own).
I personally don't think vaccinations are truly to blame, and it seems unwise to not get them based on a suspicion when its a proven fact that the vaccine will keep your child from catching dangerous illnesses. Just my thoughts, I struggled with that decision too. Hope this helps! ↑

Name: angelagarvis | Date: Jan 13th, 2007 4:46 PM

I too have the same fears. I have a 7 year old wih autism and a two year old whom is starting to show sings. I am having her looked at is this ASD or is it learned behavior. My family Dr. told me when my first child was found to have ASD that i should bring her to as many dr. as it takes untill i found one i could trust and one who was a fit for my family. Maybe it is real and maybe it's just fear. As a mother i feel that pain too. with my oldest i was told for 5 years she was fine, untill she went to school.
My advice is listen to your heart. ↑