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Name: kissynoel
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Hello, I need some advice. my 7yr old son has ASD and lately he has been really acting out. Im not sure how to handle things with him at certain times. For instance tonight he got mad at me because I told him no and he starts screaming at me and trying to shut the door in my face. I put him in time out and he told me he didnt like me anymore. which of course was hurtful. I just dont know how to handle sitsuations at times. I feel like Im all alone and knowone could understand what Im going through. my husband works swing shifts so he doesnt seem him during the week. if anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them. some people tell me its his age.
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Name: mardie | Date: Nov 3rd, 2006 4:00 PM
hi kissynoel, just to let you know, you are not alone..my son is turning 3 and also tantrums, and gets physical when someone raises their voice to him or tells him no, or really for anything. he cant talk but he'll grunt back..i'm sure everyone handles the kids differently, for alot of autistic children are different, but i feel you, my boyfriend also is always working and doesn't spend to much time with my son, it's always me or my 10 yr old son that helps me alot with him..when my son starts tantruming, screaming, throwing things, my son doesn't understand time out yet, so i just go to my room for about 5 minutes i shut the door, and when my son doesn't see me, he calms down and when i come back out, he'll be settled down coloring or watching tv..sometimes i think my son just gets a little overwhelmed and yelling at him makes him more upset, so i go to my room where he cant see me and he snaps right out of it...it's been working for me so far. good luck...and hang in there... 

Name: kissynoel | Date: Nov 4th, 2006 1:16 AM
Thanks Mardie, its nice to know im not alone..my son is the same way..he throws a tantrum and thats when I have to put him in time out..it doesnt take very long for him to calm down and when he does he is fine. Thanks for writing a reply it did help. 

Name: Johnsmom | Date: Nov 10th, 2006 4:14 PM
Dear Kissy,

although his age could be a factor, first you are not going crazy and second you are far from alone. My 12 year old son is really high functioning so I could speak to him almost as I would an adult, and think he "got it" only to find out after years of frusteration (because he didn't "keep it") that he never got it at all. The first thing you need to try is to love yourself. You have a big puzzle in frount of you, your child. If you have ever sat down to work on a 1000 peice jigsaw puzzle, you know it takes sometimes years to complete if you stick with it long enough. Sometimes you may just give up and put it back in the box. With autistic children, we are putting peices to their world together everyday and sometimes one may not fit at all. When that happens, go shut the door and take a long bath. Emotionally beating yourself up is easy to do (trust me) but not productive at all. Also not fair.
If you would like, please feel free to email me at [email protected]. I would like to hear more. My ex also worked mids so he was never home. I dealt with the problem 24/7 alone only to be told that I was a bad mother. There are many things that come into play here. You may want to see if there is a parent support group in your area too. That helps more than anything.
Stay strong. Keep an open mind. Scream when you need to and lean on those you can,
Take care 

Name: auntsandy24c | Date: Nov 12th, 2006 12:41 AM
are you in a support group?. i am not a parent but work in a school. work with 6 2nd graders. they are all over the scale. i encourage you to keep looking for help.
i would say that kids say very nasty things sometimes. i know i did when i was a kid. yes mom was hurt but then we always made up. we sort of have a support group at school ask the teacher. 

Name: jacksmom | Date: Jan 28th, 2007 4:16 AM
Jack's story....

After the 12 mos. vaccines my son gradually slipped into autism. He was head-banging, hand-flapping, twirling, lost speech, lost eye contact and he just withdrew.

Now two years later.... no head-banging, no twirling, no flapping, has eye contact and is starting to verbalize again. And... he has Down Syndrome to boot. :) Yes... even kids with DS get autism. Actually they get it at a higher rate.

What helped him? First I give God praise.... our son wouldn't be here without Him and we prayed and I believe He guided us. Second... supplements. Especially cod liver oil. I recommend Green Pastures CLO with the X factor. Check out Dr. Mary Megson's work on the web. http://www.diet-studies.com/megson.html Our Jack healed gradually... but he is healing. I actually had to make myself GET USED TO him not twirling everything any more!

Also check out Dr. Amy Yasko's work. www.holistichealth.com

We give Jack alot of supps - cod liver oil, probiotic, magnesium citrate, tart cherry and recently we added cilantro. He takes some other things too but each child is unique. It helps to find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor.

Don't give up. There is hope! And... I will be frank here.... many mainstream doctors know squat about how to heal autism. Don't let that throw you. There are people who do know how to help. God bless you! Love, Jack's Mom :) 

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