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my son is 8yrs his teacher (an ESE teacher at a school for special needs children) is always sending home notes telling me how bad my child is at school. He writes that my son is disrespectful bc he dosnt say yes sir/no sir & he asks" why" when he is told to do something.He has also wrote that my child is whiney when its time to get on the bus & that he talksback . Ok so is it just me or isnt that kinda why my kid is there & not at public schl w/ his sister? I mean im happy that he answers questions & responds to pple i dont really care if he uses sir or mam. i dont think he is being disrespectful though i dont think he understands what respect is so how can he be disrespectful? And whiney!!!! well at least hes not throwing himself on the floor screaming!! I can deal with whiney.All last year they were teaching who,what,where,why,& how , now hes bad for asking why? We ask him why all the time (why did you do that, why are you crying, why are you mad) why wouldent he catch on to that?I expect these kinds of things from pple who dont know my child & that he is Autistic but not his teacher. I dont want to sound like someone who thinks there child can do no wrong bc hes Autistic but i want to stand up for him when i think he needs it. Im just not sure of the best way to go about it. What do you think? ↓
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| Name: robototres | Date: Oct 17th, 2011 5:02 AM |
Hi there,
My name is Rob Thompson. I am 22 years old and I have Autism like your son.
Well, I guess I would like to know what the relationship between the teacher and your son is like (you don't need to give any information you feel uncomfortable about sending). The reason I ask this is because my mother is an elementary school teacher in a public school, and she is always learning on how to make the best learning experiences for her students with Autism. One thing she has learned to incorporate for the entire classroom is schedule. She believes that schedule and routine is, in virtually all situations, the best way for kids with Autism to function in their daily lives. In many cases, if not all, the best kinds of schedules for those with Autism are those with images. If it is reading time you show him a picture of a book or a child reading a book, whatever picture he can understand best.
I remember when I was 8, in second and third grade, I struggled in the classroom in many ways. I suppose I never got any notes sent home, but I always did feel uneasy and panicky when any interuptions came about or if I saw other students excelling at a certain task better or faster than me.
Anyway, about him asking questions. At that age, even today, I would feel uneasy about asking too many "why" questions for fear of the person's reaction. I can tell that he determined to know exactly what is going at the moment and why. At my workplace, not only do I ask my superior exactly what she wants done, but also why she wants it done that way. That way, I can have a much better picture of what she wants and how I can perform the best I possibly can. If I don't have these questions answered, I will definitly feel anxiety coming on.
Id love to hear more from you about your son! Please tell me how I can help. :)
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| Name: mandi81 | Date: Oct 18th, 2011 2:30 PM |
Hi Rob, thanks for your comments its intresting to hear from someone with Autism how things are different for you. My son isnt able to tell me how he feels about things or how some things affect him.He can talk but his words are limited & he uses a-lot of things he hears from movies he likes. I am happy with his progress,i see more & more everyday!
I dont really know why his teacher has a hard time with him, he his not a difficult child. He understands very well, but he asks why he has to do things. His teacher takes this as disrespect, i take it that he wants to know why he has to do it. So if he asks my why just i tell him. Not only am i happy that he asked me a question but it gives me another chance to show him how a conversation works! The more we talk the better i think.
Ozzy (thats my sons nickname) is in a school for special needs children so all around him are children with some kind of issues they have to face. Im glad that i dont really have to worrie that all the other kids will always do things faster or easer than him. On the other hand i dont want a teacher that will punish him for things that he cant help its not like he asked to be Autistic! Ozzy seems to be a happy boy to me.Hes verry loveing & cheerful ready to play or snuggle (he asks me to snuggel) :) there are times when he wants to be alone or times when certain things aggervate him, like me singing "his songs" lol or his sister going into the room while he's watching TV. but for the most part he's a ez kid to be around. O well im going to have a meeting with the teacher and see if we can come to an agreement about things.I hope it works out id hate to have to change schools but i will do whatever i have to for my child to get the most out of school he will not do well if he is always on edge or if he thinks he can't ask questions.How can you even teach like that? Maybe it's just me maybe i dont understand or maybe I think Ozzy is so ez to deal with because thats what im use to. what i do know is that Ozzy, Punk ( thats ozzy's big sister) daddy & myself are a team and we will make the best of all this!!!!! We are happy with ozzy just the way he is even if he is kind of grumpy sometimes! He's the best little boy ever!!! :) ↑ |
| Name: KarissaJones | Date: Nov 1st, 2011 4:12 PM |
| I am so happy to hear that you are willing to stand up for your son at school and I think you should!! Have a meeting with the teacher and the principal, voice your concerns and frustrations!! My son just started kindergarden in a public school enrolled with special education assistance and I have already had to do the same thing. I let them know what I expect from them as teachers and asked what they expected from me and my son. Told them that children with Autism have VERY high anxiety which presents in many forms (whinning, yelling, screaming, crying) and was to be helped to cope with these emotions not punished for them!! The problem may be they don't understand the needs of an autistic child and need to LEARN about them as was the case with my son's teachers!!! I suggest you do the same, have a meeting and put all cards on the table!!!!!!!! ↑ |
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