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My 6 yr old points with his hands, leads us to what he wants, or throws tantrums as a means of communicating. That's great but I'm trying for more... Today I'm playing dumb. For instance I took my sons pjs off but didn't get him dressed. An hour later he came to me and pointed to his closet. I cheerfully named things around the closet... You want the curtains closed, you want to water the plants, etc. He just laughed and said brrr as he pointed to the closet. He's never done that before. He let me know he was cold and needed clothing on... I'm surprised how fast this method has been working all day to encourage communication and reduce tantrum. Give it a try and let me know what you think... ↓
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| Name: meantruck1 | Date: Jan 23rd, 2010 5:50 AM |
sort of animalistic but effective. instinct will kick in. its called fight or flight syndrome.bad thing is they know what they want. they know what they need. it not a matter of intellagance. its a matter of communication. try PECS. picture exchange communication system. your children wont have to go naked and be cold for an hour before their body will do the actions their brain know it needs to do but cant figure out how to make the body do it.
mike. father of a 6yo severly autistic and communitive daughter. ↑ |
| Name: m6688k | Date: Jan 29th, 2010 8:59 PM |
lol. Hi father of a 6 yr old. Animalistic, as you called it, would be me not teaching my child anything. The method above is straight out of the son rise program. A proven method indeed. It definitely isn't a fight or flight response. Don't confuse people. My child can communicate. I'm just guiding him to a more appropriate way to do so. And lets not take him being cold as if he would freeze to death. Don't under estimate these kids. My son is very good at knowing what he wants as well as what he needs.
PECs on the other hand are a temporary teaching tool. We have 1000's of them and they are inconvenient for many reasons. In a recent seminar involving parents and children when asked who used PECs nearly the entire audience raised their hands. When asked who had the PEC books with them less than a dozen people carried these around. It would be cruel to only teach these kids to communicate at home or at school. That's why they created the dynavox because PECs as a permanent communication devise is not effective... ↑ |
| Name: amy120705 | Date: Feb 21st, 2010 12:13 AM |
| m6688k.. i am actualy gna giv this a try so thnx ↑ |
| Name: rettsmom | Date: Mar 22nd, 2010 3:21 AM |
| i think i'll try this, i did it the other day and it did work, so i'm going to try it in other situations now too! thanks! ↑ |
| Name: Hil | Date: Apr 17th, 2010 11:37 AM |
| Will give this a go - thanks! ↑ |
| Name: Redvelvetcake58 | Date: Jul 24th, 2012 5:26 PM |
| I am a grandparent and when I started watching and observing more, I came to the same conclusion...this method works. At first you think you have to run and do everything for them. Parents are just like that and can't help it, but after a while you realize that the more you do, the less they learn. Although my granddaughter started out not walking, not talking, not using the bathroom, not dressing, not asking for food in sentences, now....she can dress herself, go to the bathroom herself, talk and ask for what she wants, make request with pointing and talking and all of that started when i would ignore all those tantrums and meltdowns because she could not get her way and just tried patience. Works every time. ↑ |
| Name: apsklx | Date: Aug 27th, 2012 3:32 PM |
| I am going to tell my mother to try this. My soncCAn ask for everything fine at home but at grandma he doesn't say a word.. Its so frustrating when its got to be done and not everyone is helping. ↑ |
| Name: johnnywantsme | Date: Oct 4th, 2012 4:24 AM |
| PECS have their place, and are a good first step in getting kids to communicate, but they aren't practical for adulthood, and that's what we are supposed to be focused on, I think, preparing our children to be happy, loving, responsible and successful adults in the short 18 yrs we have to work in.. This method you are presenting is similar to some "floor time" techniques that we have found work and I like your approach a lot. I will try it tomorrow. Thank you. As for it being a "fight or flight syndrome", Mike, I think that's a bit of a stretch of the concept. Everyone has needs, both animals and humans, and those needs inspire us to seek them out. If a child finds that one form of communication that has always worked is no longer working, he will use his mind to come up with a new form. period. It's not a desperate survival method to speak in lieu of pointing, it's just unfamiliar to him, just as driving a car was to us, once. Sometimes, we have to use a child's basic needs like food, physical praise and entertainment to inspire him to become more. It's incentive, not abuse/neglect. ↑ |
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