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Name: firewife
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This is the breastfeeding forum. Its where breastfeeding moms come for support and advice. If you are not or did not nurse your children please don't tell us what you think we should do. We, nursing mothers are doing whats best for our children, please do not suggest formula or weaning to us. God gave women breasts to nourish their children, just like He gave us our uterus to carry our precious cargo. Breastfeeding is not gross, unnatural or offensive. We are giving our children what is truly best we are sorry that you chose not to, so if you can not be supportive of breastfeeding don't bother posting.
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Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 6:04 PM
Hope you're not talking about my suggesting of weaning for a few weeks to the mom who started producing colostrum for her new baby. .... Besides that, I agree, although I haven't seen that on here myself. 

Name: mamaheavener | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 7:14 PM
thanks...I agree...it's hard enough dealing with the public and many come here for support. they have been doing quite a few stories about breastfeeding here lately on the news and such though...people just need to be aware and not ignorant about it all ya know 

Name: mamaheavener | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 7:28 PM
no I wasn't referring to you nicole jones...I understand....thanks for the advice anyways!! 

Name: Melissa | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 3:30 AM
i completely agree!!! if you don't agree with breastfeeding or think that others should quite breastfeeding just because they are having difficulties then go somewhere else!!! but i do THANK the women that are so supportive on here. i know that i have gotten a lot of help and support. once again THANK YOU!!!! 

Name: denise | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 10:07 PM
Thank you firewife and Nicole I do think it was bad advice to tell mamaheavener it was okay to wean at 6 months the AAP recommends breastfeeding until the child is a year, formula is not as good as breastmilk. 

Name: nicole jones | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 11:08 PM
I didn't tell her to wean for good denise... I told her to make sure that the new baby gets fed first, and that the older one is getting enough milk - which may mean weaning for a while, then added the older one back in. Milk changes in nutrition throughout infancy to meet different needs - colostrum, which she'll be producing now or soon, is not meant for older babies. 

Name: mamaheavener | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 1:17 AM
ok well I take the advice and do with it whatever...but if you haven't had the experience or even tried then I guess giving out advice is probably not the best thing...I appreciate the help and support though...so far everything is fine and I'm just letting my little one lead until the new one gets here...a week before this one's 1st birthday...I'm going to need a lot of prayer!!!! 

Name: mamaheavener | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 3:27 AM
Ok well I think that this "conversation" needs to cease. No one needs the added drama to their already crazy lives ya know. I came here for support, not to "listen" to arguing...I can do that with my husband...lol! Good Luck to all! 

Name: mum4two | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 4:56 AM
weaning should be after 2 years not 1 year or 6 months..
i weaned my first baby at 2 and i will wean my new one at 2 also
unless i died or became pregnant again..
my 2nd baby is 9 months now 

Name: mamaheavener | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 1:49 PM
When and how to wean should really be up to the mother and baby and no one should feel pressure either which way ya know...just thought that I would throw that in there. 

Name: wilsavanamom | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 3:26 PM
I guess as a mother who found it difficult to breastfeed but tried really hard to go as long as I could, I got tired of hearing from both sides that this is the "best and only" way. I actually think with alot of working moms and just plain "moms on the go" more than ever, you would find more mothers at least breastfeeding some if they were aware that it is o.k. to mix feed. I work and found my supply slowly dropping off the longer I pumped. Maybe I was doing something wrong but the sleepless nights also associated with breastfeeding also made it difficult for me to function at my job during the day. So instead of just weaning I mix fed and was able to bf longer that I think I would have lasted with exclusively breast feeding. I too agree that bf is the best and I admire those that can ebf for years, but I quite at one month with my first because all I heard from lactation consultants was that I could and should only bf. Only years later before my second did I talk to some working mothers who explained to me that it does work to mix feed and even partial breastfeeding is better than none. 

Name: Farah | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 3:57 PM
I guess it's all in the way you think too, cause with me no matter how exhausted I get, and how tempting it'd be just to give my baby a 'ready made bottle of formula" I just can't do it! She love's the breastmilk and the closeness. I just take it one day at a time, and those moments when I'm frusterated with exhaustion I just think what a wonderful thing I'm doing for my daughter. But it is just what each of us can handle, and i havne't had to go back to work yet, which I'll actually be going to school instead, but chose mainly online classes so that way I could be home more with my newborn. 

Name: firewife | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 6:25 PM
I agree with you Farah, I love the closeness and bonding breastfeding provides for us, and I do not mind the nightime feeding, I love to snuggle with my son when hes half asleep, in his jamies and so sweet smelling.

I also agree with you mamheavener that you have to take the advice and do with it what you please but I find it very offensive not to mention aggravating when someone without children or has never breasfed tries to give advice.

I do find it sad that so many women quit because they find it difficult or their supply is dropping. Support is out there, but in most cases you have to go out and look for it, I know that my ped is not supportive, thankfully my hospital has an outpatient LC. And there are many, many things to do to help your supply.

Weaning is a very personal decision although I do feel that the formula makers have made women believe that formula is just as good. 20/20 and Good Morning America did some very good pieces about BF just last month about how America is the only country where BF is taboo. Did you see the woman that said
"women should not be allowed to take off their shirt and breastfeed whereever they want"? O, that made me sooo mad, we don't take off our shirt and most of us are so discreet you never see anything. I showed more skin in my skinny college days than I do breastfeeding! 

Name: momof3 | Date: Aug 1st, 2006 6:15 PM
I would like to say congrads to you girls. I nursed my oldest daughter until she was 6 months and she weaned herself. My second daughter I tried to nurse and she didn't take to it. i was upset, because that was something only I could do for my babies. I also think that people need to be more accepting of breastfeeding. I never had the nerve to do it in public. I wish I would have and told people, if you don't like it don't look. Anyway keep up the good work. 

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