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Name: jaime
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i have a 5 week old baby girl who is exclusivly bf i do feel pressure by my husband to breastfeed i love breastfeeding but even if i didnt it wouldnt matter because he makes me feel guilty by calling formula crap and saying she hates b ottles
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Name: Toshia | Date: Sep 20th, 2005 8:28 AM
Your lucky to have the support. Not one person in either of our families was supportive of me breastfeeding especially my husband. He always told me it was preverted and disgusting. My mother in law actually sat me down and told me I was humiliating myself, in her day it was considered degrating, and formula is actually healthier. Anytime I would breast feed everyone would leave the room gagging. It was because of their ignorance that encouraged me to keep going early on when it was painful. When it all comes down to it I believe it is your decision. I would encourage breast feeding. I know what it is like to constantly be ridiculed but for right now he is supporting your decision in an ackward kind of way. If you would decide to pump or change to formula he'll just have to live with it much like my family did. There will be a lot of decisions you will make for your child that people will disagree on. No matter what decision you make hold your head up high and be proud reguardless of what anyone else thinks. You could always ask your hubby to be supportive but that only made things worse for me. If anything my family now knows I stand firm by my decisions and not to give their opinions unless asked. 

Name: heather | Date: Sep 20th, 2005 6:46 PM
guys have their opinions on things and wants whats best for the child. i think he just expresses the way he feels. my fiance does that alot and it bothers me. i am 5 months pregnant but when i baby sit my nephew, hes always telling me how to handle him and what and what not to do with him. i know how to take care of a baby, ive been doing it since i was 12. my mother used to go out all the time and we had to watch the kids and since then ive always been around babies. my mom usually gives my little sister medicine because shes always sick and my stepdad hates it and always tells her shes druging their child. is this your husbands first baby? this one that i am pregnant with is my first and my fiance has always, since we found out, told me i better breastfeed. and at first i didnt want to but i started thinking about it and i am going to. not for my fiance though, for all of us. your husband just wants a healthy child and wants to get it through your head what he wants and sometimes they can take it too far but you just have to know whats right and if hes talking about things that make sense, block it out. 

Name: Mommy2 | Date: Sep 22nd, 2005 3:21 AM
You need to do what feels right....if he is pressuring you and you truly don't want to breastfeed then don't. You should tell him how his comments makes you feel.......especially only having a 5 week old your emotions are a little out of wack still, so letting him know is important. Overall, just like Toshia said you need to do what you feel is right for YOU and your baby. Good luck. 

Name: On Your Side | Date: Oct 1st, 2005 11:04 PM
Tell him he's hurting your feelings by criticizing you. Remind him parenting and child rearing is a team project that has just begun. The team has to stay supportive of each other for each member to do their best. But congratulations on breast feeding. My kid was very blessed by this experience, emotionally and physically. No ear infections; no colds until I stopped nursing; and fantastic growth after the first two months. Just make sure to get your liquids in and some rest for you. 

Name: bri lyles | Date: Oct 9th, 2005 4:32 PM
my husband hates our child. 

Name: ???/ | Date: Oct 9th, 2005 5:46 PM
bri lyes.....what does hating your child have to do with anything??? Is he jealous of the baby?? 

Name: JadeAngel | Date: Nov 20th, 2009 6:29 PM
my husband was very supportive of me... told me he agreed we should breastfeed but when i was having a really hard time of it and she was only on bottles for the first couple of weeks he said its ok, sometimes you just cant. (that he never breastfed bcuz he was a premie helps, lol)

tell your husband ''thanks hun.. i appreciate your support in my breastfeeding... but i hope if i cant do it later or choose not to your supportive, because you make me feel like i have no choice, and as a mother i want that choice to be mine'' or something to that effect in your own words. men hate being told what they're saying wrong. but if you start it out with a ''thanks'' it helps :) 

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