Hello, guest
Name: athena
[ Original Post ]
i know u guys might think its weird but i swear to u i don't think my newborn likes me when i hold her she cries but when her dad holds her shes perfectly fine i am afraid to be alone with her because she wont stop crying but when daddy gets home shes like an angel i love her so much but i'm so scared i don't want to hurt her i want to feel that emotional bond that mothers are suppose to feel she is my first child I'm 21 and I'm married my husband is 30 life is good but he knows how I'm feeling and he tries to comfort me but its not working
how do i get her to like me
btw shes 2 months old and if you could nt tell this is my first born
Your Name


Your Reply here

Name: mamaheavener | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 10:03 PM
I'm sorry that no one has posted for you...I just saw this and thought that I could give some reassurance. Are you nursing? Sometimes with nursing I can kind of tense up (I have two other children as well so life is a little crazy) and he can sense that. Maybe that could be the case regardless if you are nursing or not. Are you a SAHM? Maybe daddy being a change of scenery so to speak is calming to her. And I know that no amount of comfort from your husband or anyone for that matter is going to help. I'm sure that your child loves you there may just be something going on with her such as daddy holds her differently or the tensing up or just the change that she likes better. Do different things with her....I know she's only 2 months but they can get bored with the same mondane thing ya know. Just stay relaxed and keep loving her like you do and all the kinks will iron out. 

Name: moshecathy | Date: Feb 15th, 2007 4:48 AM
Well .. maybe your baby is comforted by daddy's smell too. At this age, they have a very strong sense of smell and maybe she just likes it. My suggestions is take the shirt your husband slept with at night and just put it in your amrs when you carry her. See if it will comfort her a little bit. 

Name: LeshaPa | Date: Feb 15th, 2007 6:10 PM
I had those feelings with my first. Brian (husband) seemed to have a much better bond then I did. Now I think that since I spent 24 hours a day with my first and Brian only spent 4-5 hours a day around him, the baby just liked a change. I also think that the baby knew that I was frustrated. It is hard....but it will get easier. Just focus on the things that you can do to make the baby happy. I use to take Caleb to the mall or Target almost everyday even if I needed nothing because he loved looking at the lights and colors.

Be strong....hope it helps. 

Copyright 2019© babycrowd.com. All rights reserved.
Contact Us | About Us | Browse Journals | Forums | Advertise With Us