There are about 20 million uninsured people in the US, I don't know what percentage of that number are children of married parents, yet I have never heard of a law that requires a parent to insure their children. If there is no national law that requires parents to have health insurance for their children, what gives a judge the right/authority to require a non custodial parent to supply health insurance ?
There are couples that work and can't afford to pay rent and have insurance so they rely on government assistance, there is no court order for them to buy insurance for their dependant children.
The only difference is that couples with children can use government assistance for there children, and separated/divorced noncustodial parents get ordered to buy insurance for the children.
Whats good for the goose is good for gander, Judges should hand down a court order for all parents to have insurance for their children, or not discriminate against noncustodial parents.
I don't mind having to be responsible for my child, yet want the rights and privledges that couples have when they can't afford insurance, or force them to buy insurance also.
Does anyone see the predjudicial actions at play in what I have said here. When you honestly look at it do you think there is discrimintation on this issue. ↓
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| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 2:52 PM |
| Excellent points...for which I agree...and cannot get into much of a debate...too bitter!! The only "thing" I can say to this is....it seems there's ALWAYS prejudice against the non custodial parent!! It obviously only took 1 responsible parent to have the child/children! UGH!! ↑ |
| Name: Is that so | Date: Feb 6th, 2008 7:35 PM |
| Is that so? You all are really taking discrimination to a higher level. C'mon! ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 1:12 AM |
| Name: DJ | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 3:17 AM |
| I CANT AFFORD INSURANCE FOR MY CHILDREN. I'M ON SSDISABILITY, AND MY CHILDRENS FATHER HAS MONEY, BUT NOTHING IN HIS NAME, NOT EVEN HIS CELL PHONE BILL. DRIVES A LEXUS, VIP IN ATLANTIC CITY, AND SO ON. HE SHOWS $8.00 AN HOUR ON THE BOOKS SO I GET $93.00 A WEEK FOR BOTH CHILDREN. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO LIVE AND SUPPORT MY KIDS WITH THAT. I WANT TO RELOCATE TO ANOTHER STATE WHERE MY INCOME WOULD STRETCH A LITTLE MORE TO RAISE MY KIDS, AND HE LAUGHS AND SAYS YOU MOVE AND I'LL KEEP THE KIDS. WHAT A MAN! ↑ |
| Name: Is that so | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 5:31 PM |
| Lory, I've lived the life of discirmination so I know what its all about. ↑ |
| Name: Lory | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 7:49 PM |
| Is that so----sorry to hear that...what kind of discrimination are you talking about? ↑ |
| Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 8:44 PM |
Caucajun32
I sympathize with you completely, and can relate to your discrimination.
It does not matter if the custodial parent is a fit parent or a waist of space, the courts will always favor the custodial parent more, and to hell with the non-custodial parent.
My ex was awarded custody of my kids because I had no place to live and he was living with his mother. 35 years old never had a job and still loving with mommy.
I proved him unfit 6 times and the court blamed me for him not acting like the father he should have been. His abuse, neglect, drugs, alcohol, and women. My son even threatened to run away from home because his father was so bad to him. They would say it’s my entire fault because my child support went down and he got mad at me and kept them from me for several months. They said I was not going to see my kids enough and my son was lashing out because of that, BUT HE WAS KEEPING THEM FROM ME!!! I cried myself to sleep many nights.
Now after all my work, tears, and a lot of prayers, he is finally acting like a decent father but I never did get them back with me full time. Now the kids don’t want to move in with me because he is dieing with a brain tumor. I understand why they don’t want to leave him, I am content with it, but still it's hard. So now our lives are peaceful. It took 7 years to get that way.
In the state of Texas (my state) the governor started a health care program for all middle class kids called CHIPS. It is a form of welfare but non-custodial parents can sign up their kids to get free healthcare for their kids. Your state might have a similar program. Check it out. ↑ |
| Name: caucajun32 | Date: Feb 9th, 2008 6:43 AM |
Is that so
If you belonged to a singled out group and that group was being discriminated against, I really think you would try to shed light onto the injustice. Discrimination is not only about ethnanticities, or social class's and genders. It's about unfair treatment of individuals or groups, .......... because a different group can get away with it untill it is exposed for what it is, unfair!
So for someone who says,
"I've lived the life of discirmination so I know what its all about."
you seem to be blinded with your own form of self rightous indignation., that somehow the discrimination you experienced gives you a right to make light of mine and millions of men and women's situtaion, that it just dosen't cut the discrimination definition in Your book.
Lory
Thanks for the your comments, I am so glad my daughters mother's strong conviction about life gave us a daughter that we both love very much, yet I see the emense difficulties her mother face's. I can empathise with the UGH!!
DJ
My ex and I get along very, very, very, well she knows about all of my finance's ( I get paid by her future husband).
I drive a 1995 Chevy pickup which is paid for. There are absolutely no frills in my life, none !
Hi MaryJane,
The starnge thing is my ex never went to a court to get me to pay anything, period.
This order stems from whenmy daughter was born, I didn't live with her mother yet my daughter was Insured from day one, the problem originated from my daughters mother choosing to never, not once use the insurance that I was paying over $400 dollars a month for the first three and a half years of my daughters life.
Her mother instead choose to use the medicaid so she didn't have to come up with the co-pay, and told the state that she didn't know who the father was, so she could get assistance on top of the support I was sending. After the plant close and I was laid off after 17 years, withtthe same company, I was uemployed for a 2 years. After Katrina I had a job with insurance, so I took it out on my daughter thru work, after the job ended I get this letter from Child Enforcement Services that I have been ordered to buy a policy. I am now unemployed and really can't do anything that I used to do. I barely make 200 to 250 dallars. I have to live also. Its just not right that what I pointed out in the original post up top is happening. All parents whether or not they are divorced or never married, should have too insurance on their children. Make it a law or don't ever force a person to buy it because your the (bully) the Judge and your a GOD walking the face of the earth, and can do anything you want.
It's flat out unfair to impose a requirement to purcahse insurance on one group and not all.
Your kids will pull really close to you and things will begin to heal, best wish's. ↑ |
| Name: Jonelle | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 2:02 PM |
| Yes I do! This is not fair,and makes no type of sence. Soemthing has to stop 10 to 1 if it is a court order to pay health insurance then you are also probably paying child support.It should be one or the other not both,as both are not cheap!!! ↑ |
| Name: Richard | Date: Mar 30th, 2011 3:05 AM |
In regard to caucajun32 post.
I totally agree with you, the court is out of control. As long as they can steal from the non-custodial parent and justify it by the phrase they live by " The court's ruling will be what's in the best interest of the child" they will continue to unconstitutionally impose their will, that's how they get paid. But it goes further than that in the many states. I'm in Californina, and as in many others states the courts can require the non-custodial parent to pay child support while the child attends an acredited college (MEANING UNTIL THEY'RE IN THEIR TWENTIES) while a parent in traditional marriage can open the front door on their childs 18th birthday and say, "GET OUT"
I thought we were all equal under the law? ↑ |
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