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all right all you MARRIAGE QUITERS LISTEN UP!!! First off,, what couple in the universe has not had a fight,,NONE,, Well newsflash for all you divorce bound immiture weak babies. If your spouse is a drunk, drug user or gambler or just straight up dangerous or something that really cant be helped with all the therapy in the world then ya get out ,,,,after excercising all your options. What i have been reading in hear is that ,,oh we got in a fight, my spouse wont hug me ,they stay out late ,there isnt enough money, blah blah blah,,you are pathetic and you deserve to be lonely. I dont care who tells you that they are happier in there second marriage ,or even 2nd relatinship ,,they are full of sh$t and they are just buying time and pretending they are happier so they dont look wrong. I see it as you made a commitment when you got maried and why not try to fix it,, for your self ,,why rip your self off. That is all you are doing. whatever ,you people are gonna do what you want,, All I can say is ,,, 1 you are weak ,2 you are a loser, 3 you are throwing away memories that you cherished at one point in your life, 4 you are acting like a child, 5 you are gonna regret it, 6 there is no problem out there that cant be fixed,7 quit being so irrational,8 you cant afford help well ask a friend or family for help or money IT IS WORTH IT,9 you are just ignoring the problem and that never fixes anything, 10 WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED NO ONE SAID IT WAS GONNA BE EASY,,, so grow the hell up call your spouse and talk it out and save your self some pride and stop being a loser that isn even worth the time day. THINK ABOUT YOUR CHOICES HARD, best of luck to those people that are fighting hard to save there marriages ,,good for you people,, the rest of you I hope you feel sad and lonley untill you grow up. ↓
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| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 14th, 2009 8:44 PM |
| Wow, seriously? I left my husband two years ago and haven't looked back. He abused drugs, spent all of our money and opened credit cards in my name that he took cash withdraws out of almost $50,000 then defaulted on them. Even though I saw a million signs that there was something wrong and I asked him on numerous occasions about finances and what was happening to us he always said everything was fine. He was my husband and I trusted him. He only finally came to me for help when the car was repossesed and the house was almost taken from us. I was so distraught and furious that I through him out immediately. I sought no help for him or us. He could have sought help the dozens of times that I offered it to him. I even mentioned counseling six months before all of it came out. And, two years later I still no its the best choice I ever made. I don't feel like a loser at all. I'm the happiest I've ever been. There are different reasons a couple's marriage falls apart. If they can save it, good for them. But I do not appreciate your harsh words for those of us who didn't feel the marriage was worth saving. ↑ |
| Name: me | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 4:21 PM |
| WEAK?!? I loved him for 18 yrs and for 18yrs he beat up on me broke bones in my body! I was young and stupid and hoped he would change but he didn't.....the only thing I did was waste 18yrs of my life, and bring two beautiful kids into a mess of a life....I grew up and married a wonderful man that loves and respects me....you are weak if you don't understand ↑ |
| Name: big guy | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 11:19 PM |
| I said "if he is straight up DANGEROUS then ya leave him,' and good for you for trying for 18 years and you said ya you were young and stupid ,,well people do make mistakes and I really do feel for you ('ME' the lady in the 2nd post) and I think you are one of the stronger people out there. I am sure I do come off pretty negative in my post,but I give ou credit for your strength. Lisa on the other hand ,she sounds like she just expected her spouse to fix himslef and she didnt need to help so she just left him or kicked him out ,, Remember what i sais in my post from half way through line 2-4, If you have tried everything then and the spouse shows no interest in working things out then ya get yourself out. NO ONE EVER SAID MARRIAGE WAS GONNA BE EASY OR HAPPY 24/7 ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 3:25 PM |
| I'll tell you what's not easy, being married to a man for ten years who you find out is a functioning alcoholic and cocaine abuser. Who happily took my paycheck but instead of paying bills with it, spent it on drugs and booze. Who even though I caught him in lies and would confront him, he'd build more lies on top of it. Did I try? Yes! For years to get him to let me in this destructive world he built around us. It's also not easy being awakend at 3 am by the repo guy hauling your car away! And when I asked him even then what was going on he told me he didn't know why they were taking it claiming he paid the bill!! LIES! Funny how his car payment got paid though. He managed to save a little money for that. And my home! He hadn't paid taxes for five years! Now my mortgage is super inflated as I pay all the back taxes so they don't take it away. It's not like I can sell it and rent a place. My credit is ruined thanks to my lying husband who racked all those credit cards up in my name forcing me to file bankruptcy! But oh, yeah, you're so right Big Guy. What an insenstive person for me not to help him out. I mean, he helped himself to my money and any chance of me trusting him again. You're right, I don't expect marriage to be easy or happy 24/7. How about the possibility of having a single conversation that wasn't filled with lies??? Maybe my ex-husband didn't beat me down physically, but the emotional abuse that I sustained for years was abuse enough. Oh, yeah, did I forget to mention what a nightmare it is to live with someone who's already bad temperment is fueled by drugs and alcohol. You don't know what you're talking about and shouldn't judge other people. Or, why don't you tell your story so we can pass judgement on you since your such an expert on 'saving a marriage.' ↑ |
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