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Back in jan. she told me she wanted divorce, so naturally I said oh I'll change and all that. I was kicked form the home and sent to my parents 400 miles away like a kid. I am 38. It was just to separate to give us some space that turned into what it is. To be fair to her, I had some issues. I had major back surgery 2 summers ago and had some problems. After some soul searching and other things I realized I was severly depressed to the point were I did not even realize it, because of the pain. I was not paying attention to her like I should have.She wants a divorce because she does not love me anymore.So I have come to terms with that and have a 13 year old with her and a 17 year old in Germany that is coming to live with me in june. So I have my girls to keep me sane, or insane. Here is the confusing part. She keeps calling me everyday. Usually 3 or 4 times a day. I love her very much and she knows this. Is this normal of her to call like that. I am hoping it means she has figured out that she still loves me, but part of me does not want it. Heres why. Supposedly after we were separated, she and an friend from back in high school decided to have a relationship, but keep it non-physical until the divorce. I just don't know. Its all fishy. Why would she be calling? I'm lost so I'm hoping for suggestions. Thanks ↓
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| Name: Lory | Date: May 2nd, 2008 1:58 PM |
IMO...she probably does still have feelings for you....14 yrs. is a long time. Maybe she's afraid you'll go back to how you made her feel before the separation.
BUT...look out b/c sometimes..they like to string you along...I have found tho they may not want to be with you..."they" like to keep that door open..."just in case." I would suggest you just come out and ask her why she continues to call everyday? Good Luck! ↑ |
| Name: sam | Date: Dec 8th, 2009 10:01 AM |
| Name: Bowl of Cherries | Date: Dec 8th, 2009 10:02 PM |
She dumped you for another man, then that didn't work out so she is crawling back to you... I have been dealing with this crap from my b/f;s ex wife who divorced him for another man, that relationship fell apart while my b/f' and her home was in escrow selling, and she tried to come back around then before I was in the picture. Fast forward several months, when she found out I met her kids and his family, she came crawling back to him wanting to reconcile and has done everything in her power to get him back. Nothing worked, so now she is taking him to court to get spouse support, majority custody and whatever she can get from him.
JMO, she wants him to support her! Sickening... While all the time she claims she loves and cares about him and even says "I'm not trying to hurt you in the same sentence as "A motion is ready to be filed in court". ACK ACK ACK!!!! She figures, "if he won't take me back, I will make him pay and ruin him and his new relationship financially... BARF! Thank God, whatever happens, it will not be a forever thing... ↑ |
| Name: Chris | Date: May 28th, 2010 1:09 PM |
| My wife is an active alcoholic and I am a recovering sex addict. We were together for 12 years. She wants the divorce, which is in progress. I want to reconcile, but it appears impossible. I prayed and agonized over this and things are not changing. We have five kids. I love her, but my therapist thinks I idealized her. I agree with my therapist, but pray for God to intervene. I had a problem with the internet and emotional affairs and this hurt her deeply. I try to detach, but then she becomes intimate with me on spiritual, emotional, and intellectual levels. I then become physically intimate only to find out shortly after she still wants a divorce. This breaks my heart each time. I keep thinking that by giving her my love she will feel the same. She has told me she still loves me, which confuses me. I am getting tired of being hurt by her, but also afraid of letting her go. ↑ |
| Name: Smart Loser | Date: Jun 22nd, 2010 6:39 AM |
she loves you
you need her as really your not that gr8 urself
hang on to her. do whats really needed.
it will iron it'self out after that over time.
don't allow 14 yrs to crumble away.
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