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Name: HC

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Well let me start off saying this is an awesome forum!!
I'll try not to ramble on, so here I go. Basically I have been w/ my fiance for 4 years and he has 2 boys 6 & 8, I am really close with them and everything is just great but of course w/ the x-wife. Well the 1st year we were together I helped the boys make a gift for their mom for x-mas. She ended up confronting me to tell me never to do that again unless the father did it w/ the boys. At that time she was trying to recindle the family thing and wanted to work things out. Finally she got a b/f and it got a little better. Now she does not have a b/f and fathers day is on sunday and I asked the boys what we should get him (we have them until sunday night) they told me their mom was "baking him cookied and empanathas". Well I thought that was just disrespect the boys aren't even with her this weekend and she is going to bring him a basket of baked cookies and empanathas (which was his faviorte thing when they were married) to me food is on a personal level and to top it off it's what she would make him all the time when they ere married. I am sorry maybe i'm over reacting but I don't want to have to feel i'm competing w/ her and she knows exactly what she's doing!!!!! I just have this sick feeling in my stomach and I want to tell her something like she needs to get a b/f and bake for him!! ↓

Name: f17rc010 | Date: Jun 14th, 2007 4:21 PM

I don't think you are over reacting at all. I also don't think you are the one to confront her with this problem. Your fiance needs to politely remind her that they are no longer married and if she wants to get cards for the kids to give him then that would be sufficient but she does not need to give or get anything that would confuse the boys into thinking they are still a family. ↑

Name: HC | Date: Jun 14th, 2007 4:29 PM

Well he just informed me that she called I guess to pick the boys up today (which they are supposed to be w/ him until sunday night) and he told her he doesn't think it's a good idea to do that. She stated it's so the boys a appreciate their father which is BS and everyone know that. But I told him to avoid anything that to stick to the plan and not hvae her pick them up today ( I was supposed to take them shopping for him today cause it's fathers day and his b-day on sat). So they are going to stay w/ him and she won't be able to make him anything and the boys will still give their dad a gift. ↑

Name: Lory | Date: Jun 14th, 2007 9:53 PM

To put it bluntly...he** no are you going to bake cookies for MY hubby! It's ok , IMO if she wants to take the kids to get a card or some gifts...but, your right. Food, to me or baking goods for my DH....is my job...period! I can see what she is trying...I hope things work out for you! Good Luck! ↑

Name: HC | Date: Jun 15th, 2007 12:56 PM

Yea, I walked in the door yesterday after work and the boys yelled at me saying "I reuined the surprise for things he likes to eat and it's all my fault" I said what, who told you that? Of course they said mommy told us you told dad and reuined it!!!
So she is going even to a lower level now becauses shes mad she didn't get to spend 2 hrs making the food she used to when they were married. ↑

Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 17th, 2007 1:28 AM

NO T!!!! SHe should not do that ! My hubbys x bought him mens cologne NOpe that is too personal too!I mean get real!
I hope you told the kids not to worry that you are all gona do some thing fun for fathers Day & nothing is reuined!
Just make sure you nevrer EVER say anything bad about the Mother when the kids are with you ...They have bug actuallyu huge ears!
Much luck and hope you hae a great day! ↑

Name: mskaitlynn | Date: Jul 11th, 2007 9:47 PM

well first of all, it's pretty messed up that she got mad at you for helping the boys with an xmas present and second of all ...you have every right to feel the way you do. ↑