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I have been married for 8 years now . We have a 7 year old daughter. I am six months pregnant expecting second one. We come from a conservative background where husbands are head of household. I am stay at home mom. My husband is loving, caring man and when he is nice he is really nice. He never thinks about money and tries to provide us with everything we need. I love him and I am so confused as what to do. But When he gets angry he is so bad and he says the meanest things and even starts hitting. He is totally a different person and I think who the hell did I marry? The smallest of thing can make him angry like if me or my daughter crack a joke on him in a perfectly normal environment. Out of blue he snaps and behaves like some weird man says the most unpleasant thing which can make anybody angry. This starts the fight and ends into something very unpleasant. He tries to justify his anger blaming me that you were angry earlier for something else so I snapped now. Within half an hour he comes and says sorry to me and become extremely mellow like a cat and I forgive him. Everything is normal. He is not actually sorry of whatever he did , he just wants everything to be normal. I have been letting go thinks in the past but this time I wanted to see if he is actually sorry for what he did . So we had an argument again after 2 days on his weird outburst. And I realized he is never really sorry for whatever he does. He says things like he is nice so he accepts his mistake but I use it as an advantage. (I don't have weird outbursts like you) He again starts blaming me and says things like you don't like my parents, my brothers, etc. He uses it as a shield in argument becoz he cannot prove himself right. I don't like his parents becoz they were bad to me. But I have never said anything against his brothers. He will say things like I never come out of my comfort zone and so everybody around has to suffer because of me. He says I do not take care of my daughter even when I am staying at home which hurts me the most . I have done everything for my daughter till now... everything... with no help from anybody. He will get angry on my daughter too and say the meanest things to her as if she was a grown up. My child has to do what he says. She cannot say NO to him. He never thinks she is a child so she many not do some things right ,you have to cut her some slack. I know I have tolerated him earlier because I love him so much but it just feels too much now. I just feel like running away. But I don't have any career now, no money. So I am trapped. What should I do? I am just balancing between him and my daughter. He says something mean to my daughter when I know he is wrong , I just love her more so that she doesn't feel bad. I do cooking , all my duties properly. I cook the food the way he likes , everything is done as per his wishes. The only thing which I don't do is wake up early. Whenever there is a fight he uses it. For him everything is revenge, giving back , taking no shit from anybody , nobody should take him for granted. This may work for outside world but not in a family with your wife and kids. He is a psycho with so much restlessness in him. He doesn't have any stability in his mind and heart. ↓
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