Here's a brief rundown of my situation.......got married at 18, had my beautiful daughter when i was 21, seperated from her father when i was 24 (he was a chronic cheater and wanted us to be swingers), divorce was final when i was 27, remarried to a WONDERFUL man when i was 28. Her father and i have joint custody but I am the primary caregiver. I live in NC and he lives in SC. For the last few years he has had her every other weekend, we meet halfway. Its four hours round trip. During the summer he has her two weeks to every one week that I have her.
Anyway, here is my problem........although i'm sure he loves our daughter, he does not provide a stable life for her. I don't think so, anyway. He just got fired from his job for inappropriate conduct toward a female co-worker. He says he didn't do anything wrong, but I don't believe him. He has been basically a sex addict as long as I have known him. Now, I don't think he would ever do anything to his child, but I know he likes to have sex with as many women as he can. Maybe he has changed, I don't know, but that is how it was when I was married to him. And my other issue is that there hasn 't been a stable home environment since we were divorced. What I mean by that is, they have moved several times, usually there is somebody living with him and his wife, might be a family member, might not be, they might be living with somebody, or most recently they were living in a hotel. His most recent brilliant idea was to join the Navy. Now, keep in mind that this man is 33 years old. Well, that didn't work out.....they found out that he depends on medication to keep his anxiety attacks under control. He just got back home yesterday and he expects to have our daughter this weekend.
I think I have just about reached my breaking point.....i'm tired of letting my daughter go down there into who knows what kind of situation. I know that no one else can tell me what to do............but I just want some advice.
I am by no means perfect.........but I have a great job, have been there for 3 years, have my own home...nobody lives here except me and my husband and my daughter. I know her daddy loves her, but I feel like I should keep her here with me until he gets his life straightened out. I have no problem with him coming here to visit here, but I don't want her going there. Am i wrong?? Am i mean?? Am i a bitch? Becuase I know that is what her dad is going to think. ↓
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