| I really don't know exactly what to say because each child is different and react differently to punishments. You might want to try a counselor/psychologist for him. A psychologist would be able to diagnose if he has ADD- attention defecit disorder. He sounds like he has trouble staying focused. Look into it and see what they may have to say. Start now before he gets completely out of hand. Keep telling him how much you love him but you won't tolerate his bad behavior. Follow through with your punishments. Example: if you say you are going to put him into a time out, make sure you keep him in a time out. I can tell you when my oldest son was a baby, he was very hyper, he was complete hands on training. He didn't stay interested in toys for very long. Plus, he didn't want to share his toys with the other children but I had to insist that he did or he was going to take a time out and not play with them. Again, after a couple of times, he learned. He was into everything. I couldn't take my eyes off of him for a second. I didn't take him to a doctor when he was little but I was always watching him. Although, when I would go to church meetings, he would try to be very disruptive. I carried a small wooden spoon in my diaper bag and everytime he wouldn't listen to me when I would tell him once, I would get up and take him into the bathroom, give him a couple of swats on the butt with the spoon. After several times of repitition, finally he learned how to sit and behave. He learned to realize that if I showed him the wooden spoon, I meant business and he straigtened up. You have to be careful not to beat him excessively. With the way the laws are today, you touch a child that's abuse. It's puzzling to me because even the Bible says, "Spare the rod, spoil the child!" Also, try to find activites that are of interest for him this may help in trying to keep his mind occupied, even if it's for a short time. Set up play dates to have other children come to your home and watch how he interacts with them. Once he starts acting up, pull him aside privately and tell him that kind of behavior is not acceptable and he will be punished, if he doesn't get along. If he does it again, then follow through with your punishment. Tell him, you are only going to give him a warning the first time and the next time you mean business. He will learn how to get along as long as you are watching and correct him when he misbehaves. I don't know if you have already tried this but this was all I could suggest from my experiences. Goodluck and stick with it! ↑ |
| Thankyou so much for the advice.I was starting to believe that i am going mad.Because my granny and father says he is just normal.They don't think that there is anything to be worried when he hurts the children and is not sorry.And unfortunately i live in developing country where there is only Pediatricians ,i mean no counsellar or others dealing with kids.I tried to be strict he cries and sleep.When he throws a temper tantrums 3 people can't hold him.But i feel better knowing i am not worrying for nothing.Thanx ↑ |
He could just need more disaplin but the behavior sound like my step son that is bipolar . Could he be tested??? Woth a try Have you primary Dr referr you to a Dr in you area that is covered by your insurance. Better yet have the Father your Dad do it. He should be handleing all of this. Are you still in school??? Talk to your Dad about all of this so he can do what is needed.
Good luck hon & May God bless you. ↑ |
