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Name: Kris
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WOW! I have been married for almost 21 years. I married my first love - the only guy I have ever "done it" with. Over the past few months when we get into one of our arguments, he tells me he "has a plan". We have a daughter headed to college and a 14 year old son at home. Tonight - basically out of nowhere, he told me he is only here for 4 more years until our son is out. He told me not to touch him - NOTHING! Now, he has said things like this before but tonight I was devastated. SHould I make a plan?
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Name: pj754 | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 1:29 AM
Yes, definitely. I would start planning to secure yourself before he goes. This is sad and I'm sorry to hear this. You should start preparing yourself financially for what's in store. I'm not talking about some drastic changes but if you can start hiding some money somewhere. Perhaps if you go grocery shopping and write a check for the groceries, write the check $20-$50 over the total amount. Make some cash withdrawls, not a lot, maybe a $100 at a time. Then, give this money to your mom, dad, someone you trust for them to hold on to it. Have them put it in a savings deposit box or a fire safe box stashed at their house. If you put it into a bank or savings account in your name, you will have to claim it as an asset, if and when your husband decides to file for divorce. Plus, if he says he has a plan sounds like he is up to no good. After all of your efforts you have done over the years for him and your family is very selfish and rude. You have certainly been hit with a terrible bombshell. I'm sorry if I couldn't offer you much advice, this is something I've never experienced. I would speak with a lawyer and just find out exactly where you stand financially. If the house is in your name together, you have other assets in both your names, you will be entitled to half. If you have been a stay at home mom, he will have to pay you allomony(sp???). Saving up some cash to help you with your legal expenses in the future is something you should start doing now. He might be thinking that you won't be able to get a dime once he does decide to leave. Unfortunately, you need to use a dual personality and becareful at what you do. Since, he let you know he has a plan, he will be watching and monitoring what you do. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I have helped. 

Name: CutsBruises | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 7:32 PM
yes Kris..
Get a plan..
Save money..if ya cxan steal some of his..and get him into credit card deubt 

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