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I have been married for over 7 years, since I was 20. I have been with him since before I left high school. I am tierd of taking care of him-I feel like hi mom some days instead of his wife. He never touches me, we don't have sex and once when I asked him why, he said "Maybe if you did something to make yourself more attractive" UGGG! How rude! I am constantly told by people how beautiful I am-and I have high self esteem. I have tried to talk to him about our relationship but he just dismisses everything I say. He has never been with anyone else in his entire life and I think he's just afraid of the real world since I do everything for him as far as bills, etc. Why does he just dismiss my feelings? I know he's not with someone else, his other girlfriend is a guitar. He spends any available free time with his band or guitar. I can say something and he ignores me. Sometimes his friends will answer me before he does if they're there. I don't know what to do. I feel SO GUILTY for talking about leaving him. I am SO confused.
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Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jan 16th, 2007 10:43 PM
Dump Him!!!!!!!!!!!!

He's trying to shift the blame for the failure of the relationship onto you, when it sounds like HE's the one with the problem! Find yourself someone better!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd kick him in the balls for the 'attractive' comment!!!!! Show him his reflection in the mirror just after you've done it and aske him how attractive HE looks just at that moment!!!!!!!!!!!

What a dick!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: GANEWTON4 | Date: Jan 16th, 2007 10:45 PM
Wow! Thanks for the insight. Sometimes you just need to get someone elses point of view to make you realize what's going on. I tried to brush off the "attractive" comment making myself only feel worse. Thanks for listening. 

Name: UNFORTUNATEEVENTS | Date: Jan 30th, 2007 7:22 PM
don"t do any thing for him anymore it sounds like he might be looking for a mom and not a wife it sounds as though the problem is within him. lifes to short to cry over spilled milk maybe he feels insecure about not being enough of a man especially if your smarter and better looking than him he will try to make you feel insecure so you wont leave him and he can keep you where he wants you 

Name: stevie | Date: Jan 30th, 2007 9:40 PM
dont worry what he says try to make your self feel better and when you feel better you will feel attractive . then he will notice your high confidence. which sounds to me he wants to knck down. when he cant knock you down anymore . thats when you will feeel the best. thats where im at . trying to show her i can do it on my own with the boys. prove to me an the boys were ok . she will eat her words an you should make him eat his good day to you. 

Name: island222 | Date: Jan 31st, 2007 11:18 PM
Hi I don' tthink you sould feel guilty at all, if you are happy and if he dismisses your comments and doesn't appreciate you, too bad for him, I;m sure you can do better... 

Name: kdk | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 4:54 PM
I feel exactly the same Ganewton4. Back in November I decided I didn't want to live like that anymore. I couldn't move forward and had decided that I didn't want to try to resolve the 'roommate' situation so I asked him to move out.
After a lot of stress and many not so good times, he is moving at the start of March. Since then I have seen things much clearer. I am looking forward to the future and the idea of finally being able to start moving ahead again.
You are not alone in feeling this way. Sometimes life happens, best of luck. 

Name: Lizzi | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 6:26 PM
Either leave him or stay and prepare for a lifetime of misery! It's a very simple decision if you ask me! 

Name: sunflower | Date: Feb 6th, 2007 9:18 PM
My advice to you:.........Leave him! 

Name: MarilynMonroeLives | Date: Feb 6th, 2007 9:27 PM
omg that awful. I agree I would leave him, and let him take care of his own stuff. I wouldn't do a thing for him until he showed me something in return... That's crazy I don't think I would have been with him as long as you have... The Lord does say you are only allowed to take so much, and if he isn't doing his part to kick him, and his guitar to the street... That'S just what I would do ... Good luck ,and I hope the best for you. I hope you don't have any children with him? You don't need them learning his bad habits, and thinking it's ok to treat their wife this way. 

Name: Vicky | Date: Apr 18th, 2007 6:08 PM
Maybe he's trying to give you a hint that he likes the way other girls dress. I know it's a sorry way of doing it, but men are not good at comunicating their wants to women. If he's in a band he probably sees other girls looking all dressed up for the night. If you are in fact beutiful like your friends tell you,then maybe it's as simple as throwing out old clothes and getting a new wardrob. Have you ever ask him what he likes to see other women wear? Take him shoping with you. Let him pick out something he would like to see you wear. Some times you just have to grab their attention again. I have been married for 18 years and I get in a rut sometimes wearing slopy clothes, but catching him looking at someone else is a wakeup call that sends me shoping. lol .New clothes that he likes can make a big difference. Everybody gets bored with things,that doesn't make him a bad guy. 

Name: hairyman4ubb | Date: Jun 19th, 2007 9:49 PM
i'm looking for a hot woman to marry, i'm so horny hairy man 

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