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Name: Jay Will | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 5:19 PM
Im going through the same thing, but it's a little different. My wife has already moved out for about a month in a half now. We still go to church and activities with our 5year old son. I ask her all the time to come back but she says she's not ready. What does this mean? Does it mean she's trying to meet someone else. 

Name: Roger | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 7:52 PM
Hello 

Name: Roger | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 7:54 PM
Is there anyone here 

Name: dwayne | Date: Sep 14th, 2007 3:20 PM
my wife say she want a devoice because she is not happy 

Name: alex | Date: Sep 18th, 2007 2:59 AM
I have tha same problem, my wife and I was together for over 2yers.We have 3 month old son, recently I lost my job, my wife lock me out chenge the door locks,took all my personal thinks,even my passport. She fiel child support,cleare out all joint accaunts. I steel see my son and payng her bills( some of them). And I want to get back together,becouse I love my son so much. I can't talk to my wife, avry time I try to communicate, we end up fiting. I don't know what to do 

Name: Pat | Date: Sep 21st, 2007 7:06 PM
Let her go, wish her well and find somebody else yourself. Life is too short to waste it on someone who obviously doesn't want to be with you. There are a lot more single women out there then you remember. Enjoy your freedom. 


Name: Alpha | Date: Oct 1st, 2007 6:28 PM
I am going through the same problem. I did neglect my wife. She did tell me that things were not working out but I was so busy working I never paid attention. She has now decided that she is ready to move on. She is so positive about that she does not want to talk to me. I tried for weeks to gain her back but she keeps running away. She says she loves me but not in love with. That I won't change. I care a lot about her and will let her go. I will help her in this transition and be there for her if she needs me . Everyone deserve to be happy 

Name: autumn_leaves | Date: Oct 11th, 2007 4:28 PM
You can't control her. If she doesn't want it you can't change it. I'm sorry your going thru this. Just know your worthy of love and respect and you will find that someday if things don't work out. It sounds to me like she is secretly seeing another man. 

Name: Ramos | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 1:21 AM
ok.. this is it .... i have been with my wife for 15yrs we have a 7yr. o'l dauhter ... and from my first marrage i have a 19 year o'l that my wife fly's a war flag with all the time . if his name even get's mention'd she's on the phone with 911 im tired of the cop's in front of my home because of thier war i need help with my marrage .. it's like.. falling apart and i have some serious dout our marrige lasting for the next month .. let alone the next year ..
i love my FIRST born son and i love my second wife. her .. deep down inside i know he's gonna find someone and settle down but the fact remains the same i'm groing to hate her more and more each time she call's 911 because if she even see's him at the gas station or even waiting for a public bus she call's 911 saying he's threthning her .. im tired of the war .. please help me ... Mr. Ramos 

Name: guy | Date: Oct 13th, 2007 3:41 PM
well i have the same problem maybe her love turned to hate 

Name: dethmower | Date: Oct 15th, 2007 12:18 PM
I have been with my wife for over 10 years, married for three, we have a lovely 7 year old we both work, and have a great house. For ten years i was quite dependant on pot, i smoked it regular. i never let it affect the way our son was raised though, he's a good boy well mannered, a few months ago she asked me to stop it, i never did..I did however keep a clean house and raise our boy whilst she worked nights at a casino, and ontop of working there copped all the abuse "Its your fault i lost" spat on, abused, that sort of thing, when i was out of my vice i would get a little cranky, we went out a couple of times and totally humiliated her, nothing violent or anything like that, but i never listened to her, when she asked me to stop. i dont drink, i don't like it, in turn she started taking anti depressant's, she loves her red wine but sometimes it takes it toll on her. so she quit the casino and moved on to looking after the unemployed "I want my money where is my money"?Once again she was blamed for that, i still cops abuse from these wankers to this day, i had no idea about all this till i saw it for myself, bunch of losers cueing up for there dole cheques, lazy pathetic bunch of bastards. So i'd come home get cranky, Not all the time mind you, we both have our faults, its not a screaming match between us at all. I have given up pot, i tested negative today, i'm about to go fulltime in my job, which is good, the other day she said she wanted to sell, I cannot do it as the results would cost us both, and deep down i know shewould regret it dearly, we remain under the same roof ,my sons school is 2 mins away as is my job. i have high's and lows, i plead her forgiveness, i buy her flowers, clean the whole house,Why?? you ask, i was brought up that way i guess, she works really hard, housework is like nothing to me, i don't mind coming home at 6 am after a shift, taking my son to school, cleaning up & then some sleep, i have kept a clean house for years, lately she hasn't been well, i race out get money, medicines. cook lunch and sometimes dinner. at 10pm i'm off to work, i come home for lunch bout 3am give her a kiss and cuddle my son, last week i came home at 3am gave her medicine, water told her i loved her, i get nothing!, my counsellor says i should do nothing for her,but i just can't she means to much, i cant believe i didn't listen to her, i am not a bad husband, i'd give her the world, do anything in my power to change her mind, but she just looks right though me. i will continue to do what i can for as i have always done, what can i say, i couldn't care if she had sex with someone else, love is so much stronger than sex, lately i hate everything about myself, the music i listen to, even the internet is boring me, i am really alone right now, i have all these strange dreams, i fall asleep like the drop of a hat. i'm in the spare room now which sucks more, we remain civil & happytowards each other, but deep down she knows i hurt, anything she wants, lately. I still do for her, our son is spoiled and very happy with our life so thats important, i don't know what else to do, i get high's n lows. giving up pot was hard, but i did it, but if you smoke it don't do it everyday, chasing its sucks, but drinking! I hate it, i have no idea how anyone can become an alcoholic, i hate drinking, but i have had a few wines lately, i smoked rolled tobacco thats all now, i like my clear head, i wish my wife would to, she always said to me i love your straight eyes, and absence makes the heart grow fonder, i am more fonder of her than ever, but she doesn't see it, i do it all for her as far a keeping a nice tidy house , im at the table, but she ain't coming to it, am i doing to much??what should i do. your thoughts please

regards

steve

perth wa 

Name: Amanda | Date: Oct 17th, 2007 10:47 PM
I think u should just let her go and start your life over [3 i kno [[how u feel]] =[[ 

Name: stephen jameson | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 6:00 AM
Pain and suffering are a part of life we learn. I can't drink or type away my payne. My life is only what i can make it. I bet your life is defined by a small room with no windows. 

Name: stephen | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 6:07 AM
i can't win a race when it comes to meeting the wright girl. 

Name: stephen jameson | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 6:10 AM
I loved and got hurt butt i still belive in love. 

Name: ayeshwarya | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 1:33 PM
ayeshwarya wants to chatt 

Name: Mitchell | Date: Nov 12th, 2007 2:13 AM
You see I love God with all my heart but my wife does not. I just want to know what to do because its seperating us. 

Name: close to home | Date: Nov 17th, 2007 3:22 AM
Dave,
I am currently living your nightmare. We have 3 wonderful childrenwho are being so destroied by my wife's actions although none of them know what is really going on(she doesn't want then to know until it is too late)between us.I refuse to give up hope even after she moves out(just after the holidays she says[with our kids]).I will still be kind and loving to her and make her understand that I understand that I disappointed her but she is now the center of my universe.(I never cheated or abused her,I just didn't know what she wanted/needed when she needed it and she never acted as if there was a problem)I will assure her that she is always welcome back in my life without judgement as she has never been out of my heart.I made a vow to her at our wedding that I will keep until my dying day (even if she does not do the same).I will be happy around her,fun spontanious.I will invite her to do all of the things that she wanted me to do with her that I didn't do then.If she turns me down I will do them alone and share the feeling with her and I am sure that when she sees the very real chane in me and that I am not going to go back to the idiot I was before at least she will consider giving me another look.Dave,do not not not beg her for anything and don't talk about your priblems or your relationship,just become her best friend . DO NOT JUDGE HER.Don't let yourself fall into a depression,it could kill you.I lost almost 30 pounds and became physically ill whenever I even tried to eat,that was bad,it was also when I decided to really change.FOR ME not just for her.then I realized what needed to be done and I am doing it(she almost kissed me by accident tonight)maybe it will work or maybe not but at least I will be happy knowing that i did all that I could and I will enjoy my life s much as I can in spite of my truely broken heart.
If you really love her do not say "I LOVE YOU" because she will think that you want her to say it back,treat her the way you should have treated her before and do not give up no matter what(even if she finds someone else).eventually she will be the one waiting for you to say "I LOVE YOU" back.Don't tell her what she is letting go prove it to her every day with loving actions. 

Name: Ron | Date: Dec 1st, 2007 8:47 AM
my wife says she loves me but does not show it with either affection, kind words or shows no compassion and wont start any act of making love 

Name: JB | Date: Dec 3rd, 2007 4:22 PM
I have the exact same problem. My wife and I have been married for 5 years and have two beautiful children 4 and 2. She started hanging out with another woman and it seems that everything changed overnight she tells me she never loved me and wants a divorce. I have cried many nght nights since she told me this. She tells me that she can't stand to be around me thus she stays out till 1,2,3 or even 6 a.m. I am feeling lost. 

Name: celestine | Date: Dec 11th, 2007 5:38 AM
My friend wife did the same to him on three occasions for one Julien Henley, Manager at Bernard K. Passman Galleries on 5195 Dronningens Gade Ste. #2 on St. Thomas. 

Name: Lost in Oklahoma | Date: Dec 15th, 2007 10:52 AM
David,

I am going through a similar situation, my husband told me recently that he no longer had feelings for me. I pushed him away though and it is my own fault. We have been together 11 years and married 9. I would do anything for him to love me again, but I know it is to late. We have to know when to go on and put it behind us, no matter how hard it is. The more we dwell, the harder it is. 

Name: Debra | Date: Dec 16th, 2007 2:51 AM
What was the last straw? My husband and I have been married going on 10 years. We've always had a great relationship, but since the birth of our 9 month old, we fight constantly. He always blames me for the fighting. He takes no responsibility. I honestly don't know what I'm doing. He makes me feel like I can't do anything right lately. Today he told me the only reason he doesn't leave is because of our daughter. I'm feeling very depressed and unloved. I don't know what to do! 

Name: Russ | Date: Dec 20th, 2007 2:22 AM
It's very sad in this day and age that marriage has become so expendable. Noone feels the need to water their own lawn if the grass looks greener on the other side. Remember, LOVE IS AN ACT OF THE WILL. A marriage takes work and intestinal fortitude. If you feel like the love is gone maybe the problem lies within your morals. Both spouses make vows and both spouses should keep them. Its time for couples to make marriage a serious commitment once again. Enter into it with both eyes open and cherish each other for life. 

Name: Byron | Date: Dec 31st, 2007 1:37 PM
Hello David. I'm Byron, a 14 year old and i am in the same situation you are in. I have a girlfriend (not married of course) and she has left me. We see each other and stuff but i, have not given up. Lately she has shown more signs of beginning to like me again. I think that you should keep going for her. You never know, luck might strike.
Sincerely,
Byron 

Name: terryd | Date: Jan 10th, 2008 12:49 AM
My wife is doing the same thing. She seems to have her mind made up about leaving me after 8 years of marriage. We have a 4 year old son thats going to get caught in the middle of it. I too want the marriage to last, but it seems that I have no choice in the matter. I will tell you David, I have cried, and I am not your tipical cry sort of guy. I was able to get her to join me for marriage counseling. I feel that she is just going thru the motions until the end of the marriage. We still talk like good friends, she laughs at my jokes, and she even hugs me from time to time. I have to begg for sex, and even when she agrees, it is very mechanical. She says that she stays out late at night to avoid being intimate with me. I really feel that our marriage is ending and I somtimes don't know if I should continue the counseling or hire a lawer. Good luck to you David, just remember that you are not alone... 

Name: rachele | Date: Jan 16th, 2008 11:44 AM
Hi David
I am going through the same issues with my hubby. I done the wrong thing and hounded him to come back to me. Now I have pushed him away away and he has told me its over. Just give it a little time and she will realise what she is missing out on mabye when its to late and she will be kicking herself 

Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Jan 17th, 2008 7:41 PM
I went through this except I was where your wife is. In my case there was nothing my ex could do to get me back. I simply didnít love him anymore and I felt that I was keeping him from being loved by someone like he deserved. Plus it was not fare for our kids to continue to see us fight.
My advice to you is to help your kid through this and make it as painless as possible for that child, and never use the child against her mother, as that will only make the child resent you in the long run. Never speak against her mother to her or around her.
After the divorce you need to occupy your time as much as possible to keep your mind off your broken heart.
Iím so sorry you are going thru this because I seen how it hurt my ex but she has to be true to you, herself, and especially that child. Clearly she is not the one for you, this will open up windows for you to find the lady that is the one for you.
I hope this helps, and God bless! 

Name: mel | Date: Jan 18th, 2008 9:35 PM
my husband left 2 weeks ago, he says he can't live with me right now, he needs time. i don't know what to do. I still love him very much but he does not feel the same 

Name: Melissa | Date: Jan 18th, 2008 9:39 PM
My husband just left me as well a few weeks ago. we have a 2 year old son together. He says he needs time and that he can not live with me. I want him to come home so bad b/c I miss and love him very much but he wont budge. I'm at the same point. I don't know what to do. We will be married 5 years this Aug. 

Name: Hope10 | Date: Jan 21st, 2008 6:37 PM
my wife and i were thinking of getting seperation, we have been together 13 yrs . my ? is how or when do u know when its time to give up , we do have kids. together and both of us love them dearly i think we are caution about a divorce for the sake of the kids , we believe divorce is to extrem rite now.my wife and i cud get along together but i believe both of us have out grown each other 

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