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Name: diane | Date: Jun 5th, 2008 2:48 AM
hi im 19 years old and my parents have been fighting alot latley. my mom gets mad at everything and everyone. It never seems like she is happy.BUt the other day a huge fight with the whole family blew up which included me my younger sister my dad and mom. the fight was all over how my mom always is complaining about everything. Right now my family is having a really tough time with money and managing a buisness. which we ususal survive just fine but it has been extremly slow. BUt my mom is never positive about anything she is always negative and always points out the negative. while we got in this fight my mom expressed to all of us that she no longer loves my father anymore.she said she hasnt been in love with him for over a year and she wants a divorce. hearing this it really hurt but i somewhat always knew. my mom never said i love you back to my dad EVER. also my mom sleeps in a different bed and bedroom because she says my dads snores.which is true but still. Im not saying my dad is absolutly perfect because he is not. he has made some mistakes in this marriage with my mom. which involves lying. but he always says he is sorry. My dad loves my mom so much. i couldnt tell you how many times in a day he says i love you 2 her. he is willing to make this marriage work. but my mom said she can not fall back in love. my dad does not know what to do and either do I. I want may parents together but if my mom is only staying with my dad until my sister gets out of highschool which is in 2 years. I feel that if its going to happen anyway she should just do it now. i dont want my parents living together but not being together. I dont know ,i'm really confussed. my feelings are all mixed up. if you can help me clear my thoughts and give my dad some advice. i would be forever greatful. 

Name: Wilbur | Date: Jun 6th, 2008 3:07 PM
after the loss of our 18 year old son 2Years ago, my 33 year relationship with the women I have always loved, shows little fellings for me, I continue to do my best only to be put down over and over again, it appears to be everything that she speaks of is now me me me or I I I 

Name: Jason | Date: Jun 20th, 2008 1:07 PM
hi david! i think u need to give her time to figure out what she wants. if she loves u then she wil come back to u. do not call her or contact her.just leave her to feel some of the pain. some woman are very emotional and confused. hang in there pal. 

Name: Jaime | Date: Jun 30th, 2008 2:29 PM
After seven years with my live in fiancee, which I will call Rose, she told me that she does not love me any more. I have been married twice already. After a lot of questions and analysis, we came to the conclusion that she felt this about three monbths into the relationship and never told me. She will try to remember the reason and let me know. In the meantime, I suggested her to make a list of the things I do which she does not appreciate. I will read the list to make an honest assessment if by my own effort, I can change these behaviors. Then, just like you wpould do to keep a job to, we would have weekly revisions of my performance in the areas she points out and she would give me feedback as to how I did that week. In two months she will decide if I am “fired” or if she gives me another chance. The chance can be for another two months, or for a year. The year would be a “grace” period in which she would not loeave me for those reasons. The two months would be a serious case, because if i flunk again, then I would have two more months to leave the house. I have done this in previous relations and all of my exes are still trully my friends. One of them even told a mutual friend; “The rest of my life is not going to be enough for me to get over how stupid it was of me to leave him.” I fhave found that I always learn ways to improve myself and my relations by doing this. It helps the woman also. It gives your wife a chance to experiment power and control, something most women complain they do not have enough of. it also gives you the chance to understand that when women are in control, they are not prone to abuse it, which helps you trust her more about the decisions beeing made. It shows her you really respect and care for her, and who knows, maybe this is just what she needs from you. You also learn how to “not compete” but “team up” with your woman. All the while you get time to prepare emotionally while she is still there and may even find it in her heart to comfort you. Ask her. Even if the marriage fails; and provided trust is not an issue; you can ask her. “I know you do not love me as your man; but if you could just help me as a friend I would appreciate it.” Then tell her how you feel. For example; I told my wife, and meant every word: “I feel like I am loosing my life if I loose you.” You will be surprised at a woman’s capacity to help you get over heartaches and pain if she knows she can trust you. She can even help you get over her. She may even decide to have sex with you as “friends with priviliges” until you find someone. To do all this you have to be faithful and honest with your woman. In any case, at least you learn how to be a better husband. 

Name: Pete | Date: Jul 12th, 2008 5:27 AM
Great advice! Love it. Great book to read that's along the same lines- "How to Love Your Wife" by Dr. John Buri. Changed my life like I didn't know was possible. It's a must read for anyone looking to be a better man.

John Buri's website: http://personal.stthomas.edu/jrburi/

Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Your-Wife
-John-Buri/dp/1598864858


Here's
the description of the book:
"Some people have suggested that a successful marriage requires tremendous insight to understand and super-human effort to achieve. Others contend that happy marriages are the purview of a lucky few. In this ground-breaking book, How To Love Your Wife, Dr. John Buri makes it clear he doesn't agree: thriving marriages can actually be achieved through sensible effort by reasonable people. But because the majority of marriages in this country consist of unions in which wives are more heavily invested in marital success than are their husbands, much of this sensible effort by reasonable people needs to be consistently initiated and maintained by men. In fact, men often hold the keys to bringing about the type of loving marriage they had hoped for when they first said "I do." In How To Love Your Wife, Dr. Buri makes these keys clear, understandable, and accessible."


It really changed my life! 

Name: jo | Date: Jul 27th, 2008 6:26 PM
sorry to hear that 


Name: Jake | Date: Jul 30th, 2008 4:36 AM
Don't allow your self to stay there. Please do not do what i did and let her hurt you for years. now all i do is think. i have another love but i still hurt. please leave now. so you can heal. emotional slavery will kill you and effect every part of your life. think of your self and leave she already has even if not phsyicaly. it will get worse. sorry but im not into sugar coating this stuff. 

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Name: Amy | Date: Aug 14th, 2008 4:01 AM
For your sake let her go if you can. It is hard but if she is not reciprocating your love and affection than there is not anything to hold on to. I wish you the best of luck. 

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Name: ann | Date: Aug 14th, 2008 3:06 PM
I am sooooo sorry. I will keep you in my prayers. Give her sometime and see what happens. I do know that if you pressure her you will just push her away more. I am sure there are 2 sides to every story but you cannot make someone stay that does not want to. All you can do is be a father to your little girl and LOVE her no matter what. Please keep in mind a lot of dads want to be disney dad....i know moms do the same thing too! but be a parent....be at every event and keep your child 1st....well, after God! Right now I am sure you don't relize it but there will always be someone else out there...you just need to choose more wisely next time! 

Name: TSB/LINCOLN | Date: Sep 5th, 2008 9:27 PM
DAVID;GOD BLESS YOU MY FRIEND, MY WIFE IS A SPITEFUL WITCH AND I'VE TRIED EVERYTHING, SO TRUST ME, ENJOY YOUR ONE BABY (IHAVE THREE CHILDREN 17-17 AND24) GIRLS THAT THEIR MOM HAS TURNED AGAINST ME. I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT SOMEDAY THE TRUTH WILL SHINE THRU. MY ADVICE TO YOU IS; GET THE HELL OUT AND CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY! LIKE A WALKED BATSMAN IN MLB--YOUR PAST WILL ALWAYS COME BACK TO HURT YOU AND THERES NO FORGIVENESS EVER! I KNOW ...GOD BLESS TSB 

Name: dntlmom | Date: Sep 6th, 2008 1:22 AM
sounds like she has the 5-year itch...maybe another man? 

Name: cmg | Date: Sep 9th, 2008 11:57 AM
I know how you feel right now Im going through the same thing. I have 4 children 11,3, and twins that are 2. My wife left me and has her own place now. I feel as if my whole world is falling apart. It sucks when I come home from work because I have a big house that is empty to go home to. I keep trying and trying but it seems the harder I try the more I mess things up and push her away. I think maybe the best thing to do is give her some time. You need to be there for the kids because its hard on them too.I know its hard not to call her and not to see her everyday. It really sucks and it hurts bad. You feel empty inside and dont want to eat, sleep, work, or live without them. You cant give up though to many people give up now adays. You are married and took vows. You need to try all you can to hold things together. You need to give her some time and space though. I know its hard beleive me like I said I'm going through it right now. Only time will tell brother try your best ,but dont try to be to pushy or seem to needy. Be there for her and listen and put the kids first. I hope it works for you. Heck I hope it works for both of us. Nothing in life is certain for sure, but if you love her dont give up. You dont want to be sitting around years from now wandering why you didnt try. At least if it doesnt work out you'll know you tried all you could. Be patient ....... God bless and good luck. 

Name: scott | Date: Sep 9th, 2008 7:37 PM
kill yourself you whiny pussy 

Name: clarity | Date: Sep 27th, 2008 2:58 AM
Jaime, sorry to say this, but you need a reality check. Grab some self esteem and kick that loser to the curb. 

Name: whatevs | Date: Sep 27th, 2008 3:00 AM
Jaime, maybe if you're good and change your behaviours your wife will increase your allowance too. Pathetic. 

Name: steven | Date: Oct 3rd, 2008 2:27 AM
im going tthrough the same together 14 years married for four 3 kids one 19months now she says she has missed out on other things girls do at her age i first noticed her changeing two years ago when i went offshore wenton the computer and found a male she had been telephoning him 5hrs a night for a month 

Name: Matt | Date: Oct 17th, 2008 7:54 PM
Just follow your heart it can work or not, only time will tell. 

Name: nate | Date: Oct 18th, 2008 8:43 AM
i just got back from military training about a month ago. Before i left me and my wife had just got back together from a long separation. while i was gone she wrote me on a regular basis and always said she loved me which is something she never did until i left. then i came back i wasn't back for even a month then things went back to the way they were before. I know she loves me she is a strong willed person who speaks her mind. Im doing somthing wrong i just cant figure out what. I just want her to love me. 

Name: davit | Date: Oct 19th, 2008 4:36 AM
she was my first sex parters ''i remember her first work i love u baaaabby 

Name: tripp | Date: Oct 25th, 2008 1:29 PM
my wife says she doesnt love me anymore we have gotten physiccally abussive before what do i do 

Name: Dr Blunt | Date: Oct 25th, 2008 3:10 PM
David:

This is always a tough call. Some of us just do not realize there are problems in the marriage until it is almost too late or it already is...

1. You will want to consider counseling for yourself regardless of the outcome. Counseling helps one learn to recognize the value one brings into a relationship, the problems that can occur along the way, and more.

2. Acknowledge the situation is bad and that it may at this point be beyond the repair.

3. At some point you may end up mad as heck, counseling is going to help you develop coping skills to deal with this emotion partly due to you recognizing you are helpless in a sense to change her feelings.

4. Feelings -- her's are different than yours. Men and women are wired differently and that is not bad. In a relationship communication plays a vital role in maintaining the value of marriage. At some point when the communication breaks down the value of the marriage begins to suffer.

5. It does take two...regardless of "your" effort she still has to kick into the pot.

I am not to fond of just handing a person a book and say read it. But let's be real here for a minute. Under normal (I cannot stand that word) circumstances problems in your marriage have been on the go for quite some time. None of the recommendations we offer will "save" your marriage unless someone can grabbed her back the hand and lead her back.

IF that were possible -- The question is what will she come back too? 

Name: Singleguy | Date: Nov 13th, 2008 2:38 AM
Women are bitchy. I am single and i am darn happy about it. seriously men shud stop marrying, rent a girl for sex. Trust me, its a lot cheaper than going through the selfish BS of I love you but i am not in love with you. Given the individualistic culture and the dozen for a dime divorce mentality, america has a 50% divorce rate.

buddy leave the bitch, ask her to take the kids, try to avoid the payments, and find another woman. and yes!! give the next one 90% of your love but hold 10 back just in case 

Name: sxc jay | Date: Nov 19th, 2008 1:55 PM
divorce her mate she is a slapper she probs fukin sum1else 

Name: joey | Date: Nov 23rd, 2008 11:25 AM
my wife left me after i4 years we lost everything due to drugs she never waants to go back to that life again but i no she is pushing herslf to extremes even though she has hurt our innocent 3 girls i persistant for months and i think i stuffed up she only needed time 

Name: Steve | Date: Dec 3rd, 2008 9:33 PM
Hello all my name is Steve me and my wife are currently separated on a voluntary basis. We have married for ten years and together for 12 years. Approximately 6 years ago i engaged in an extra marital affair and through the guilt finally confessed it to my wife. We worked through the affair but problems and arguments continued to escalate. I became increasingly abusive to her only on a verbal basis even sometimes in public. Last year i became involved in an emotional affair with a women which led to a one time sexual encounter. My wife found some explicit text messages concerning the affair and said we needed to separate. She is sending me mixed signals about reconciliation but i don't know how to read her. I am currently in counseling and seeking psychological for numerous disorders one of which is ADHA and anger management. She says she dosnt wanna be with me but dosnt wanna hurt me. I wanna save my marriage so bad is there any help or is it over. 

Name: mansouri | Date: Jan 4th, 2009 2:24 PM
hi there how are you??
doing today.happy new year.
would you please help me 

Name: GORDON BROWN | Date: Jan 19th, 2009 1:55 AM
GITS CUNT 

Name: jon | Date: Jan 27th, 2009 1:17 AM
guy woman leave because there they think with there cunts. they just want a cock . these woman are all the same just pigs and whores. 

Name: dab | Date: Jan 29th, 2009 5:17 PM
My wife and I known each other for 15 years and have been married 7. Our relationship has slowly eroded over the years. First, it was the sex, and now she is emotionally 'checked out'.
She said last Sunday that she just doesn't love me the way she used to. I can see her leaving at anytime, like a freight train ready to run me over, and there is nothing I can do. I'm just overwhelmed by all this and is hard to process. I checked the Web browser history and it is full of aparment searches and dating service searches. I have to let he go, but it is very hard. 

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