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Name: john | Date: Feb 6th, 2011 7:30 AM
so there was like nothing that made you think that it was not working till she said she was spitting 

Name: billy | Date: Feb 8th, 2011 3:07 PM
my wife always acts like she hate me and i cant do anything right 

Name: Tamara | Date: Feb 9th, 2011 9:13 AM
David,
I know how you feel, as my husband recently got an apartment behind my back, and tried an unsuccessful custody grab (kidnapping) of our four year old daughter. This is so hard to hear right now, but even though this is so, so painful, I truly believe that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. Even though this possibly may seem like the absolute WORst possible thing that could have happened to you, I promise you that one day, you will look back at this and say, "Wow. I'm glad that happened, because if it didn't , "blank" wouldn't have happened."

Think back to a time that someone broke up with you in the past. If you had never parted with that person, you would never have met and then married your wife.

THe universe, God, your higher power, whatever you want to call it, works in very mysterious ways. And the language of "heaven" really works in opposites: what seems big is very small, what is small is very significant. Think of baby Jesus, whether you believe in him or not doesn't matter. The point is that the tale tells of a TINY baby being placed in a STABLE. And, that tiny baby turns out later to be a rich king, a messiah in the Christian religion.

My point is that there is a lesson in this happening for you. And there is a spiritual reason that your path is supposed to go this way-- and on some very high, spiritual level, part of you understands this and part of you actually co-created this.

Even the people who have hurt us the most, are "in the language of the heavens" here to help us on our paths. Mystic teachers such as author Caroline Myss (she has great talking CD's that you can listen to, too. ) say that If we stand back really far and look down from from a spiritual level, before we chose the path of this life time, we chose all the souls (people) that will help us accomplish our goal(s) this lifetime--- even before we were born into this body. Our goal isn't to ask WHY such and such happened, but more over, to trust that things happen for the grace of good.

I know this isn't easy to do, especially in situations that are painful and those that don't make sense. The hope is after some time the meaning will reveal itself to us.

Even though you still want to be with your wife, if she doesn't want to be in a marriage with you, that ultimately will only lead to pain and suffering for all people involved. You deserve to be loved. I'm going to repeat that because you need to hear this: YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED. Everyone does. And, you deserve to be loved for WHO YOU ARE, although it's hard to believe this now, but there is SOMEONE out there who will love you in a way that your wife is incapable of. And you have a duty to your daughter to go on about your life and be absolutely the best person and daddy you can be. You need to pick yourself up and do whatever it is necessary to heal yourself so that you can be available when that new woman comes along.

Who knows, maybe it will be your wife. Sometimes after some time apart, the person who leaves realizes that they made a big mistake. But don't bank on that happening. Turn inward and focus on you. Unless you are ok with you and you truly love yourself, you'll never be able to be available for anyone else-- and your daughter needs you.

Start by physically getting your body moving. Working out, being athletic, Bikram Yoga, all get the endorphins flowing through your physical body, and that will improve your mental and emotional self. Get a good diet and enough rest. Take this time to journal and really focus on yourself and then eventually, what you want in a new relationship and the sorts of things you need to do or change in yourself to create this life for you. We co-create our realities. You have a mission this lifetime, figure out what it is and work towards it.

Again, if your wife doesn't love you, good! Great! Thank God you found this out now instead of ten miserable years down the road. I'm not saying to not be sad or that you should blow it off. Sure, it hurts! It killed me when I found out how much my husband was lying to me, but you know what? I picked myself up and got over it and realized that I'm worth much more that what he could ever give me. And I deserve to be in a relationship with a person who loves me for me and who, in turn will help me be the best person I can be for my daughter!

You're gonna be ok. Please try to believe itů. :)

--Tamara

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Name: m.REYES | Date: Mar 9th, 2011 8:06 PM
im havin a horrible time n my marriage right now, im married for 10 years to my beautiful wife and we have a pretty daughter,3 days ago my wife told me that she want a divorce and she dont love me anymore, and she love someone already,over the past few years i wasnt the perfect husband, i have so much mistakes,i cheated to her once ( chatting ) i never saw the person in real life,THE PROBLEM IS SHE WANTS A DIVORCE BUT I DO LOVE HER TO DEATH and i cant accept that SHE IS LEAVING ME , im on a suicide mode right now havent eat or even drink a water in 3 days,the only thing that stopping me is my daughter.IS IT TOO LATE FOR ME TO SHOW MY WIFE HOW MUCH I LOVE AND CARE FOR HER ?? 

Name: lauren | Date: Mar 23rd, 2011 10:50 PM
Did you remember to get a GOOD lawyer? How are the finances these days. Do you still see your daughter? 

Name: swathi | Date: Mar 31st, 2011 9:22 AM
how much he is loving on me 


Name: Harry | Date: Apr 28th, 2011 1:19 AM
David, I don't know, if you are religious, then you are probably praying all the time for her and your daughter, I don't know...I am no marriage counsellor, but suggest if you are of a traditional church to talk with a priest whom you feel comfortable with. If you are not at all religious, try to think of all the things that make you happy together and focus on those, what ever keeps you in that positive mood, keep your mind there, your thoughts and way of thinking will probably affect your behaviour and it may transmit to her and your baby. I am not married, i am single and have not had a relationship, if it is any consolation I will pray.
I cannot promise any false hope but whatever trial you are experiencing internally, for the sake of your daughter and at the very least your own well being, find ways to convert your thinking to positive thoughts that help you show kindness to others.
If you are christian, and possibly one who believes in saints then ask your friends who are in heaven together with them to help you, personally I would ask the Mother of God, forgive me if this mention of saints and Mother of God offends you. I mean no harm 

Name: Harry | Date: Apr 28th, 2011 1:29 AM
I just want to say I don't want to pretend I know the answers, I have found it quite easy in life and don't want to pretend that what I say will help in all cases... I understand my naivety is what I am saying so sorry if what I have said puts pain rather than balsam on someone's sorrow.

I just realised this is where lots of others have replied. I sorrow for your sufferings, all of you, what and all i seem to think is I wish to help but no knowledge of how or what to say. (I don't want to pretend I completely know what you are experiencing like a knowitall)

My being suffers with you all.

Name: Bob | Date: Jun 15th, 2011 8:46 PM
Doug's post on the previous page is exactly what I'm going through (when i read the post, i was shaking) at this very moment. I took his advise on all fronts with what he posted. The amazing thing is, it's working for me. I read his post on Monday, and said to hell with it, i'm giving this a go. She has been more responsive since my "change" and sometimes looking puzzled of whats happening.

At 47, i never thought this would happen to me. making the changes & counseling will hopefully give us the time and therapy that apparently we both need. Wait and see. The best to all of you, life is a one time chance at anything...make the best of it. 

Name: james | Date: Jun 24th, 2011 7:41 PM
Sometimes you have to move on because if you don't you may never be happy. They way you love here why not let someone else love you that way feelings should never be hurt because you did your part by loving her she is the one that left not you. Its time to live your life never put your life on hold do all the things that you always wanted to do because a women will go back to school better her life why your working hard in the sun or any kind of job but when it comes to a man a women will tell you that you don't have time school or to better your self. So live your life do big things over come all the things you wanted to do with your life than she will look back and feel like the ass and always remember a broken harden man can do many things when he has money and a life but a broken harden man with no money can't do anything but sit and cry and wish no move on my brother 

Name: chris | Date: Jul 9th, 2011 6:14 PM
my gf and i have been going out for 6 yrs i had 2 previous boys from another gf and full custody we have a 3 yr old daughter together and we have broken up a few times and although i made some changes not enough of them .the past 10 months i have made alot though . she says she cant get past the past and memories.we have been apart for almost 2 months.2 and a half months ago she was talking to my mom and telling her how much she loved me and wanted this to work.we went to one councelling appointment together i had graet hope then the next day she went to one on her own and then 2 days later on my birthday she told me she doesent love me anymore.i have been absolutely devestated.i didnt give her the space she needed at first then i went 35 days without seeing or talking to her.I was picking up my daughter through her sister and communicating with her. she hadnt seen my boys in 40 days and we all finally met together at the park.I was very emotional and pushing for information.I did see some emotion and some hope in my eyes but she is so negative about our whole relationship it seems.The next day i had to move all my daughters and her stuff out of the house it killed me and dropped it off.Then pushed her more that day which wasnt good and she was colder and told me im sorry i dont know what to say but i dont feel that way anymore.i am crushed and tomorrow when i dropp my daughter off we are all supposed to have a movie night together i dont think shes really wants to but i know im not going to pester her tomorrow and just see how the night goes.I am not wanting her to just come back to me or move back in all i want is a chance again with some help and a new fresh start . We have lived close to my boys mother and there has been many issues interfering with us to really have a chance i amm making all the changes and can only pray and hope becusae i totally know in myself how good it could be and how much i love her and my family and she knows that as well i just hpe she gives it another try one day but she says weve already tried . 

Name: Joyce silva | Date: Aug 27th, 2011 4:24 AM
she does not love me anymore 

Name: Alan | Date: Aug 28th, 2011 3:46 PM
I have found it very disappointing that men and women have lost touch with what "for better or for worse" really means. Folks, speak of their faith, and make commitments for the rest of their life, but then arbitrarily disregard that commitment for their own selfish needs and wants. Fact is, sometimes, things are better, and other times, things are worse. We all naturally experience change as we grow older and go through change, but the point is to grow together... Marriage is about the journey.

Perhaps, wedding vows should be changed to "do you solemnly swear to love and cherish (name) during the good times, until greener pastures do you part?" 

Name: willow | Date: Aug 30th, 2011 8:50 AM
I think you should let her go. who knows, she just may miss you 

Name: tony | Date: Sep 7th, 2011 8:05 AM
my wife and i have been 2gather for 7 years and went to city hall to get married 2 years ago then she moved in with me and my family, i live in the basment and now my wife says she dont want to live in the basment no more so she moved in with her sister and her dad, i keep telling her to come back home but she wont and its been 3 months, for 7 years we have been togather every single day and never ben apart, but now thats shes moved out and i work from 5pm to 2am 5 days a week i only get to see her on my days off and thats on sunday but monday im off too but i realy dont see her and we talk on the phone everyday 2 to 3 times 2 min then she got to go. i only her from here when shes calls and says baby im going to sleep ill talk to you tommorow. i told her yesterday if she wont come back home then this realationship its over so she said give me 1 day to think so i said ok, then the next day she told me i dont wanna come back home so i told her then you are ending the realationship and she said no u are, now she wants to take a brake for 1 week to she if she can be without me and her birthday is in 2 DAYS and i cant see her, i dont know why she wants a brake cuz she has been gone for 3 months and she sees me once a week and does not realy talk to me that much, she wants not to hear my voice for 1 week and see how it feels, shes tells me she loves me and that my love for her is so strong that no other guy can take that away from me cuz i keep telling her its another guy but she keeps telling me no, shes always with her family, i ask her why do you spend so much time with your family and not me, i love her and i think this brake will kill this realationship, we just toke this brake abouut 2 hours ago so that means i have to want for 1 week. can someone please tell me whats going on when someoone goes from being with you everyday for 7 years and live with you for 2 years to seeing you once a week and does not wanna come back home. she is telling me to get an apparment and we can move in togather. please help 

Name: a | Date: Sep 7th, 2011 8:07 AM
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Name: dave | Date: Oct 1st, 2011 6:36 AM
i had almost the same thing happen, i was married 21yrs and my desided, she loved me but wasnt in love with me ,she said it was nothing that i did ,never cheeted on her never beet her or got drunk and done anything stupid ,i wash dishes,wash clothes,i tell her shes beutiful at least once a day,baught her a house ,sapport her in every way,forgave her for cheeting on me told her we could work it out ,she came back for one week and i tried to touch her shoulder and she moved away,at that moment i got upset and told her if she wouldnt except my attention , than there was no need for us to keep this up ,she made it clear it was only me that was still in love .i told her i loved her and would sapport her in any way ,and she walked out the door my heart is broken,but i still hope to find someone who will love me as much as i love them,ware her love whent i dont know but ,ill be confused about this forever. 

Name: Jimboo | Date: Oct 31st, 2011 11:33 AM
hello 

Name: Gordon | Date: Jan 21st, 2012 4:19 PM
I know how you feel. My wife seems to be heading that same direction. She says that she's always felt this way since we first married some twenty years ago. I know I maynot have been the most perfect husband but, I've always respected my wife and family. I 've always worked hard to give them everything. I think she sees others and think she has missed out on something. 

Name: dayna | Date: Feb 16th, 2012 3:23 AM
i think that if she says leave me alone u should leave her alone becuse wat if she puch u out u would not like that. 

Name: Mike | Date: Apr 13th, 2012 8:16 AM
Talk with her. Listen. Give her time to make up her mind. Be yourself. Cannot make someone love you. Let her know how you feel. 

Name: falcon | Date: May 25th, 2012 8:35 AM
I am in a similar situation, and I decided to let the things to calm down... 

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Name: corey | Date: Jul 10th, 2012 12:33 AM
my wife says she loves me but not in love with me then says she crys about leaving me and miss's me and miss's the companionship we did not have a abusive marriage she just got depressed 

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Name: Trix | Date: Nov 8th, 2012 8:31 AM
I say let her go. Like the proverbial love. If she loves you she will come back. However, it sounds like it would be better if you tried to move on. Perhaps take on a new hobbly to give you somthing else to focus on. Painting, playing guitar, poetry....She might be intrigued with your new interests....But.....as they say, once a whore pretty much always a whore. 

Name: mike maxwell | Date: Nov 16th, 2012 12:59 PM
i have been married for 25 yrs and my wife has said she needs her space and she dont tell me that she loves me at all we are still married and she left me 30 days ago she said that it might be a month it might be next yr 

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