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Name: Nadia

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Hi Everyone
I know this is a site for single parents... but there was no site for people like me. The new girlfriend. I am 43 and never dated a man with children before... so I dont have a clue what is normal procedure or whether the ex is being reasonable or unreasonable. So I hope you can help me. I have been seeing my man for 8 months. After 5 months I met his girls (10 & 12). The ex has demanded to meet me and asked that I not attend any sporting event before she does. Regardless of whether she is there or not. She is insisting on a sit down coffee together so she can gauge what kind of person I am. I assumed that a quick hello while dropping the girls off would be enough. Is this normal? Is her real concern for her girls or does she just want to check her ex husband's new girlfriend out? I want to do what is right... but only because it is right and not because she demands it.
I used to be a preschool teacher, I dont do drugs, the reason I never had children of my own was not by choice. So what is normal procedure here?
Thanks for your help?!
Nadia ↓

Name: ankit | Date: Jun 2nd, 2009 7:04 AM

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Name: poke | Date: Nov 23rd, 2009 5:57 PM

This is just what I think. My wife divorced me not to long ago. If I start dating anyone, I really don't feel like it's any of her bussiness who I'm with. As far as concerns with the kids? I would just tell her that the kids are fine and if she ever needs to talk to them or me that's fine, but as far as my new girlfriend goes, you don't have to and don't get to meet her at this time. When she feels like she wants to meet you then we'll talk to you. ↑