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Name: DB

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I need help or resources to turn to. My ex-husband and his girlfriend(the person he had an affair with) life together and have custody of my Son 50% of the time. He calls her Mommy and this kills me. How can I get past this? ↓

Name: jennifer | Date: Oct 30th, 2005 5:01 AM

hi DB
not long ago i was in the same boat as you. my ex has weekend custody of our two daughters 5 and 6.
he has a new g/f and they call her mum aswell. it was a big blow to my heart when i found this out, but then i thought about it and slowly accepted that they live together and may well be together for a long time and i explained to my girls that i was their real mom and she was their step mom. now they get excited when they yell friends etc that they have 2 moms. slowly you will come to terms with it. i know it took me a long time. ↑

Name: tcperryswife | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 4:53 PM

I know from the same experience that this is difficult. What I did is accept the new woman, get to know her and ensure she is treating my child with respect. We have become friends and I am thankful my daughter has a mother figure to rely on while staying at her father's house. This took many years, but it will payoff and your child will appreciate the friendship between all parental figures. ↑