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Name: tiredand fedip
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Hi I been married for almost 6 years we been together for 11 years we have one child together lately all we do is argue about money and bills he is a very hard person to get along with Im serously thinking about divorce I cant take this anymore we walk around here not speaking for weeks Im ready to call it quitsis there someone out there that is feeling the way I am if so please email me
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Name: Becky | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 5:07 AM
I have been married for 11 yrs. We have recently seperated and I feel like a failure but I tried everything I could to keep our marriage together. We fought all the time about money and bills. We have three kids and he wasn't there for us and didn't go any where with us. It got to where he would sleep on the sofa all the time. I felt as though something was wrong with me. That he didn't love me anymore. I had even went to church and prayed for our marriage.
I feel now that we made the right decision about seperating. I have filed for a divorce.
I am very lonely but I feel as though the kids are happier now.
I am afraid of the road ahead but I know god is with me and will help me get through this.
I know how you feel and I have thought about seperating so many times and felt like giving up but I hung in there for as long as I could until I knew that it was only hurting the kids with us arguing and yelling at each other.
Whatever decision you make just know that you did give it your best and you're not alone. 

Name: hurting and frustrated | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 4:27 AM
i am thinking about seperation as well..have 17 month old all of my family is far away...i am torn about leaving my marriage and taking my daughter far away from her father and his family but we are in a very unhappy place right now, i think we are going to give counciling a try but i am not sure how much longer I can live in this situation and I am sure even though we are trying to be careful around my daughter she is affected by our fights and distance
so hard to know what the right thing is 

Name: Jen | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 4:49 PM
I have been married for 10 years and have 2 children. My marriage has been failing for about 4 years now. My husband has lost all motivation and constantly naps. The issue with this is that he wants to start a business and we are in the process of doing some work to our house that needs to be done. He gets very stressed out around our children and always asks if I can take them somewhere so he can get some things done. The problem is that I will leave for several hours and come home to have nothing accomplished. He has excuses for everything. I too have gone to church to pray for my marriage. I am really getting close to finally making the move and filing for divorce but I'm really worried about how it will affect my kids. I just wish there was an easy answer to all of these problems. 

Name: pj754 to jen | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 4:19 PM
My ex did the some of the same things. His naps drove me nuts. There was so much to do around the house, yet, he wouldn't take the time to get anything done. Then, I would be labeled as a constant nag. Always, it was a constant struggle to get him motivated. Always, he was looking to get rich quick. He wouldn't help to take care of the kids, etc..... Finally, I left. I couldn't take it anymore. If I was going to be broke, I was going to be broke without him. I knew it would be a struggle but we were already struggling. Since, I left, I have been much happier and two of my three children are happier. They have stated so. No matter how hard you try, you can't get them moving. It really stinks. Making the step towards divorce is a scarry step but it gets better once things are under way. 

Name: sally | Date: Jul 17th, 2006 7:20 AM
My husband and I are so close to seperating, the only thing keeping us together at the moment is the house and kids. what happens if we seperate with the house? its is in both of our names and our kids would be so devestated, but we are so distant from each other and were both miserable. 

Name: pj754 to Sally | Date: Jul 17th, 2006 12:22 PM
Which one of you is willing to leave the home? In my case, my ex put up a fight over our home. My first order of protection against him made him leave the house, he was only allowed to get some clothes. However, my second order of protection, I left the home with the kids. Granted, I had no other place to go but I ended up working things out. While going through our divorce, I had the house appraised and he was force to give me some of the equity out of the home. I knew I couldn't afford the house payment on my own, so I let it go. Plus I didn't get half of the equity like I thought I was going to. Although, we had just purchased the house, so there wasn't much equity. I will suggest this to you, if you have some personal belongings that are very dear to you, get them out of the house while you can. Knick knacks, jewelry, some clothes, pictures, etc.... Because you will never know exactly how ignorant your husband maybe if you decide to divorce. I only took a few clothes when I left. Yet, when I wanted to come back to get some of things that was dear to me, he removed them from the house and he was never forced to produce them. I had to let the stuff go. Although, since the house was in my name, too, and even though, he had the locks changed, I broke into the house to get some of things I needed. Like cooking utensils, pans, bowls, cookbooks, etc... because I lived on my own before I married him, so the items I took were pre-marital items. I was trying to be as nice and fair as I could when I split things up. Example, I left all the furniture, kids toys, microwave, blender, toaster, things like that. Yet, he still fought me for some of the things I had on a list during our divorce and he gave some of things to the children which I didn't ask back. He hide things like my sewing machine, carpet shampooer, silly stuff. I didn't care because I knew they could be replaced if I needed them bad enough. Yet, he wouldn't give me the kids winter clothes when it was time for them. In his eyes, he felt because he was the bread winner and even though we aquired these things during my marriage, he felt I was not entitled to anything. I had a rubber stamp collection (things that you make cards with or scrapbooking materials). When I asked him repeatedly if I could have those things, he wouldn't give them to me. I know he took an heirloom ring that was my mothers which her grandmother gave to her. I will probably never see it again. He got mad because I took the kids playstation which I purchased with my own money. I never thought he would ever be like this but now I know. He won't let me have the kids baby books. So, I don't have any pictures of the kids when they were little babies. If I was to do it all over again, I would have taken SOME of those things. I can only hope one day, he will give them to the kids. I am dealing with a very irresponsible man, however, your husband might not be this way. You have to do what's best for you and your children. Keep in mind, material things can be replaced, people can't. Good luck, I do hope things work out for the best for you and your children. 


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