| Name: Laila | Date: Jun 15th, 2008 3:05 AM |
| My husband constantly tells me that he loves me but he doesnt want to be with me... that he doesnt want to be around me. He kicks me out of his car if we have a disagreement and he is very cold. What is wrong with me. ↑ |
| Name: Minnie | Date: Jun 29th, 2008 7:08 PM |
| If your not happy your child will be unhappy also. ↑ |
| Name: Minnie | Date: Jun 29th, 2008 7:19 PM |
| I have been married to the same man for 42 years now and the lsast 10 years have been hell he tearts me like I,m his child like scolding me in front of friends telling me to shut up and let him talk, He is always telling me how to do everything all though he wont do any of it himself , he dosnt show any love for me except when he he,s around other people and thats geting to where thts not much he critzes everyone I know his 70 but I know other men who are as old and dont act like that. I would divorce him but I,m 63 years old and I disabbled and I would loose my insurance if I did Ijust tring to hold on for two more years when I,M 65 AND GET Medicade ↑ |
| Name: michael | Date: Jul 18th, 2008 6:12 AM |
| Name: Lovingdad500 | Date: Jul 25th, 2008 1:39 AM |
| So, it has been good for you. But you have the child, I might loose mine well it is almost a for sure bet. It seems more and more that the children are the only reason I stay in the marragie. I just want to become a weekend dad. I feel bad about myself but maybe I can hold out until they are ready to move out only 13 years to go right or worng. I am just so lonely here and well I fell like I can't make my wife happy and she always mad at me and she makes me feel really bad all of the time. I think for me the best thing is to leave but for the children I am not sure, I know that need me in thier lives. I just dont' know what to do need some one to talk too. ↑ |
| Name: Ann | Date: Jul 26th, 2008 12:34 AM |
| You know I'm going through the same thing right now. Except my husband still lives with me and Im considering seperation or divorce. I honestly don't think that your child is going to miss out on having a dad as long as he wants to be an active part of the childs life. I came from a divorced family and I turned out ok. I think today too many people look at the fact of comming from a broken home as a reason/excuse for peoples behavior. I don't think it affects the kids as much as they say. I've seen the worst kids come from the best parents, and vise versa. As long as he's still in the childs life they wont be missing out of him, he just wont be living with them. ↑ |
| Name: lisasing | Date: Jul 28th, 2008 1:16 AM |
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| Name: Anand | Date: Aug 12th, 2008 12:50 PM |
| Name: Tera | Date: Aug 13th, 2008 6:27 AM |
| in order for your child to be happy, you have to be able to give your child a happy mother! ↑ |
| Name: Angel | Date: Aug 27th, 2008 12:49 PM |
| Hi I have been married for 10 years and I have been with my husband for 18 years. I started dating him when I was 14. He has been my one and only my whole life ( i am 32 now). We have 2 beautilfu daughter together one is 7 the other is 9. My problem is I really don't want to be married anymore. My husband i such a wonderful man. He cooks, cleans, he is an active parent in the kids lifes. He always tells me how much he loves me and how beautiful i am. But I cant stand him coming anywhere near me. The thought of having sex with him makes me cringe. I don't know why and i feel horrible about it. I think i want a divorce but i feel that I would ruin his life. His family is not the best. He really only has me, the kids and my family. I dont want to mess my children up for life either, They ADORE their dad and he is a great father . PLease give me some adivce ↑ |
| Name: idumpedhim | Date: Sep 6th, 2008 4:28 PM |
| Your child deserves both of you. If you can both co-parent and let the child spend ample time between the both of you.... and in some cases, you do things together. That is great... although trying to salvage your marriage is most ideal. Afterall, doesn't sound like you two are just bored with one another.... rather than real character and moral flaws. ↑ |
| Name: Robert | Date: Sep 11th, 2008 5:01 AM |
| I think what both of you need is to get back to basics. Everyone who gets divorced focuses on the problems and issues that they don't like. Start finding who you were when things were good. Don't go tit-for-tat on matters, and most of all don't let pride get in the way of saying you were wrong if you were. As far as I am concerned, it doesn't matter what anyone elses experiences were, what matters is what you want them to be. I think the only true reasons for divorce are cheating, domestic violence, rape, or child abuse. Outside of that, perhaps he needs to see what he's missing to get to where you want him to be. I would try to salvage what you have. If not, you're likely to repeat the same cycle. ↑ |
| Name: daniel | Date: Sep 21st, 2008 1:51 AM |
I met a woman with a four year old daughter and have helped raised her until now. Now she is 18!
There are men out there who will take on the responsibilities, but it can be more challenging. That man will need to love children in the first place. We are out there - hang in there. Be honest about you having a child. ↑ |
| Name: A ngelina | Date: Oct 5th, 2008 2:31 PM |
Hello
I have been in your shoes. My children are now 10 and 7. My advice to to leave now!!! It is much easier on your child, and you will be able to move on. I thought for years my husband was cheating, but I stayed "for the children" and it was THE WORST thing I have ever done!! ↑ |
| Name: jenney131 | Date: Oct 8th, 2008 9:25 AM |
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| Name: Myra | Date: Oct 9th, 2008 12:20 PM |
| Have you really thought the whole process through? This will be a lifelong decision. Do you still love him and are you in love with him? If your answer is yes than fight for it. There are too many programs out there that can offer help to couples that are having trouble in their marriage. If you even have second thoughts, then seek some help, it's worth it. ↑ |
| Name: prikee | Date: Oct 14th, 2008 4:39 AM |
| Name: voivod | Date: Nov 1st, 2008 8:18 AM |
| this thread started out with singlemom34 "arguing alot" and being "happier without him." i can't believe the amount of "leave him" replies there were. the line of thinking is "if you're happier without him, be without him." why/ she's unhappy, she's miserable, she's gonna be miserable regardless. the women who are waiting with baited breath to tell the next forlorn gal to leave her husband disgust me. sorry, my opinion ↑ |
| Name: tim | Date: Nov 11th, 2008 4:49 AM |
| Name: broken | Date: Nov 12th, 2008 7:09 AM |
| can only remember one good christmas in 7 years ↑ |
| Name: ingrid | Date: Nov 12th, 2008 5:49 PM |
| my huband left 8 months ago how can i go about getting a drivorce without him? ↑ |
| Name: mark | Date: Nov 16th, 2008 10:42 PM |
| Name: Mark | Date: Dec 12th, 2008 4:07 AM |
| I too, am possibly going to have a divorce. I don't want this at all and have done some studying. What I found is that if your marriage is a low conflict you should stay together because this is usually better for the child than a divorce. Divorce is as traumatic or viewed the same as loosing one of the parents (death). The last thing I want to say is your problems are the smallest right now and are easiest to fix. Don't talk to "everybody else" and do like them and divorce, Kids will bounce back, just need to reassure them it's not their fault and love them - THATS A LIE!!! My buddy is saying that and divorcing his wife and my wife wants a divorce as well listening and talking to him frequently, believing these lies. This affects kids, period. Do you love him? Does he love you? How bad is he and how bad are you? You made a committment and then made a bigger commitment having a child together. Have you ever tried to do anything that would make your husband happy for a week, (your goal = thinking about what you can do to make him happy), then in that same week he does the same, your happiness is his #1 goal. With honestly trying to do everything to make each other happy, how and why could you fight during this time. Then try again and extend it for 2 wks and etc.... I wanted to try this with my wife but she wouldn't. I hope you both are willing to try to save something and not develop a bad habits of being quitters on something so important! Good luck and God bless!!! ↑ |
| Name: Jersey72 | Date: Jan 7th, 2009 12:43 AM |
| I want to divorce my husband but am worried about the affect it will have on my children age 7 & 3 yrs. I'm also in a bit of a bind because our youngest is a type 1 diabetic and we are the only ones who do his insulin injections and care. Yet I feel our relationship has reached a point of inability to be repaired and I don't even know if I's want to repair it at this point if I could. ↑ |
| Name: Mel | Date: Jan 8th, 2009 4:01 AM |
| I am 40 and i have been with my husband for 10 yrs. i have 3 children and he has 3 children. i thought it would get better after the children went off to college. although we only have two children left at home it has not gotten any better ↑ |
| Name: Strongwilled | Date: Jan 12th, 2009 8:17 AM |
| I've been married for five years. My husband and I hv been to he'll and back,but latley theres no sex and I feel like his love for me is sometimes not there. He says he wants to change and yet nothing. To add insult to injury, I am 29 weeks pregnant. I an zoo unhappy what should i do? ↑ |
| Name: enes | Date: Mar 15th, 2009 12:04 AM |
| hello woman ım msn [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Rich | Date: Apr 4th, 2009 10:05 AM |
| Name: Rich | Date: Apr 4th, 2009 10:15 AM |
| A loving mum and an environment that is not full of bad blood, to me is the best option. I grew up with an alcaholic fairly aggressive father and a mother who put up with that for us, thinking she could'nt raise her kids alone. I myself am seperated and luckily don't have any kids, and would hate to put a child through what we went through. My thought? hang in there and be cautious of who you bring into the family. (sooooo easy to say, Is'nt it) i wish you the best of luck :-) ↑ |
| Name: jimmy | Date: Apr 7th, 2009 12:32 AM |
| DIVORCE IS THE DUMBEST ASNSWER! come on all people fight no matter how perfect they are,, no wonder there is a 65%divorce rate in north america, easy fix right get a divorce,, be open minded get mariage councelling ,do whatever it takes,,dont kid yourself you are not happier with out him,, if he beats you ,if hes a drunk or drugged out loser, ya then leave him,but if you are saying you guys just argue alot ,then come on grow up and deal with it ,,anyone of these other people tell you that divorce is a good solution,,they are lying there asses off to you,, especially when you have a little kid together,, final words GROW UP GO SEE A THERAPIST AND THROW THE DIVORCE IDEA OUT THE F%$&IN window,,,dumbest idea evr trust me,,, all arguments can be solved,,, you made a commitment remember " for better or for worse" ↑ |
| Name: bug | Date: Apr 14th, 2009 12:58 AM |
| He's full of it . It's half and half fight for it ↑ |
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