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Name: Dawn | Date: Jul 21st, 2010 5:52 PM
Your children will be much happier if Mom is happy arguing parents are not good for children. Look for what makes you happy and your children will be fine. 

Name: Wesley | Date: Jul 26th, 2010 4:16 PM
Give the marriage another try. To me, nothing more important than having your child live in a two parent household 

Name: Marian | Date: Jul 28th, 2010 7:42 PM
I've another problem. After 9 years of separation I want to divorce and I am looking for a good attorney, not a postman of documents. I talked to couple of them and they calculate only the split of money, don't lessen to real facts of seperation. My wife calls me for giving money to my original family. 

Name: Christine | Date: Aug 2nd, 2010 12:48 PM
Going thru a divorce right now, two small kids 8 & 5. Staying together for the sake of the children will not work. Don't bother. If you decide to divorce it is the best thing for both you and your child. It is hard but you will be better in the long run. Best of luck with everything! 

Name: d brown | Date: Aug 3rd, 2010 3:15 PM
i am thinking about a divorce i've been married for 28 years but the last few years has been the hardest i do most of my sleeping on the couch weeks at a time we will go by days without talking to each other most of the times i seem to care more than him for years i've been the one wanting to talk our problems out and all he can do is blame the problems on me he gets me in front of people and calls me names tells me to shut my da-- mouth and go in the house but don't get me wrong i give it right back to him just really unsatisfied even when we do have sex he only satisifies himself so i've got where i hate sex i feel really unattractive and i find him unattractive so what else can i do? 

Name: nicole | Date: Aug 13th, 2010 5:58 AM
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? This boyfriend is no man-at-all. How could he be so cruel to you...you deserve so much more. He's abusive and take syou for granted. This will never change, in fact, it will more than likely progress as the years go on. Is that realy what you want you'r child to see, to be around, and worse of all, learn to accept...I don't think so. Right? You need to build you'r self up again, place ALL of you'r attntion and enrgy into ur work ,ur child, and you'rself... You can do this on you'r own, with God by you'rside you will b just fine. 

Name: mary | Date: Aug 15th, 2010 12:51 AM
Worried if I get a divorce that it would hurt the kids. But how can i not be true to myself, I am miserable in this marriage my husband is emotionally/verbally abusive. I am in counseling but, he doesn't want to go. He blames me for everything. My mother tells me that I should be the one to pay for my mistakes not my kids in other words I have to stay in this marriage, because I chose this. If I didn't have kids with him it would have been a different story.
Any advice very confused. 

Name: mary | Date: Aug 15th, 2010 1:11 AM
i went through a trial separation and he was going out a lot and was drinking a lot and ended up with a dui. I was also drinking but i knew i had to stop to make it work. I dont depend on alcohol anymore to have a good time. We got back together and separated a few times. He liked the freedom and would do this to leave and come back as he pleased. Jealousy got worst since we were both separated. Eventually, I got tired of it kicked him out for the last time so i thought, he went to live with his parents and now his family hates me because they don't know who he really is and does not want me to tell them. We are together but I stopped talking to this family completely all year. This has also caused problems with him. My little one is going to be a year next week and i feel bad for the kids because i threw him out again, but i am tired of his abuse. I cannot change him I can only change myself.
Have you tried going to co-dependents anonymous meetings? 

Name: always depressed | Date: Aug 25th, 2010 1:38 AM
I have been married for almost 12 years I had 3 children within 6 years gained weight and all i ever get from my husband is rude remarks comments about my weight he looks at porn all the time ive caught him putting adds online for other sexual partners he said its to help our marriage he wants to try 3 somes and crap like that but i dont his comments about the porn when i asked him why he said its because they actually have a figure and are pretty ur fat and ugly. All i do is cry he only shows love when he wants to have sex i really dont know what to do i dont have a job im not near my family i would have no support help someone., 

Name: What do I do? | Date: Aug 30th, 2010 6:59 AM
I have been married for 10 years now & my husband & I don't make love anymore. I don't think he is cheating on me, but I have caught him masturbating 3 times now while I was at home. Does he still love me? Does he still want me? I'm not the one refusing his advances, & it gets soo frustrating! What should I do? 

Name: Michelle | Date: Sep 3rd, 2010 6:15 PM
My husband after losing4 jobs and moving me and my sons around for2 years finally got a highpaying job with the feds and nowhe wants divorce. He has bipolar 1 disorder and has stuggled. Hebhas been violent, abusive, cruel, and leaves me with little money. I have stood by him but have been so angry about moving I have lashed out and yelled and nagged. No he wants out of the marriage. I have not worked but have a smallonline business for extra money. He is coldtome and my sons. He has not seen his 3 year old for 3 days coming home late. I can't handle it. He I believe is a sociopath as most people who knowhim have told me it is not just bipolar. I called our bishop after my husband took 3000.00 in help from them. 3 weeks later he wants a divorce. the bishop was not happy and my husband won't return his calls. My husband has not family and he is about to lose everything. Stupid guy. He has been on a "dreammarriage website for hot russian mail order brides. My parents want me out of the situation for good. I want to work it out but he cares nothing for me and my kids. He told me last year that he is tired of my whiny voice and I pushed him away for good. Yet I am not the one movingmy family around the country because I can't keep a job. He needs serious help. 

Name: wish i had | Date: Sep 19th, 2010 10:01 PM

Name: remetti | Date: Sep 22nd, 2010 6:16 PM
hello to all unhappy married mums. if u can get devorce just do it and live ur rest of ur life happy. i never been married?sorry for women who them husbands treat them awfull, woman should be treat nice, 

Name: Apples1976 | Date: Sep 29th, 2010 5:46 PM
I fear the same for my girls.15,14,& 8. I wish I had the answers for u but I'm still searching for them myself. 

Name: Robert | Date: Oct 12th, 2010 9:44 PM
i dont have any advice but i am in the same boat we just cannot seem to stop fighting if its not one thing its another but i dont want to make a decision mad 

Name: mina | Date: Oct 15th, 2010 3:12 PM
hi everybody 

Name: corey | Date: Nov 10th, 2010 5:48 PM
I have been married for 7 years and we have two beautiful children...I love my wife for the miracles of life but I'm not sure and don't feel like i'm in love anymore. We argue, and what not....but it seems like the smallest things are blown into something major...anybody got any input? Thnx 

Name: sherri | Date: Nov 11th, 2010 9:27 AM
dont want to stop my divorce somebody talk to me for free without registering or bull crap now 

Name: sherri lund | Date: Nov 11th, 2010 9:29 AM
want to talk to people who are going thru a divorce that have been married for a long time like me 

Name: deceived25 | Date: Nov 13th, 2010 2:00 AM
My husband has been having an affair with a woman for 10 years. He used to work with her husband. He thinks I do not know. Deidre, the woman, got pregnant. He took a paternity test, the baby was not his. He asked her to have a baby for him. I have been collecting evidence and keeping it for years. My baby graduates from college in 2 years. I know everyone thinks I should leave. I am learning to love me and getting stronger. I am ready to leave and am taking steps to move on once my son graduates. 29 years wasted!! It is a really really hard life. 

Name: Can't take it | Date: Nov 29th, 2010 2:12 AM
Hi i was just wondering, i need some questions answered. I am thinking about divoring my husband. But i have no job or money, I really have to do this soon. I have already been told by lawyers that who ever is the better fit parent gets to keep the house, By rights the home is the childs, and its up to the courts to decide who stays and who don't. My question is, Would i be able to get a statement from A judge where i can receive food stamps and Utility help while i go back to school and get an education? I have already checked in on a school where i would like to go It would be only an 8 month course of medical assisting at everst college. I want to be able to make sure my 5 year old son has a roof over his head and food. I need to know this before i make the next move. Thank You Deb M 

Name: ShockedHusband | Date: Nov 30th, 2010 11:06 PM
Looking for advice, but maybe not in the right forum. I just found out that my wife has been cheating on me with a woman. She says she's not a lesbian, but she got emotionally very close to a lesbian friend of hers and they started having sex. I don't know that it matters now, but she swears she's not a lesbian and just made some bad choices. I don't think I can ever be the kind of person to forgive and move on. She would consider reconciliation, but I don't think I can ever get over this. The complicated part is that we have three young kids, ages 7, 4 and 2. I'm very scared to leave and screw them up. I would spend as much time as I could with them, but i know it won't be the same if they don't live with me. Has anyone on this board survived a marriage with infidelity? Is it worth trying? I don't even have the motivation to open my heart to the possibility. 

Name: wendyandvivian | Date: Dec 15th, 2010 7:01 PM
Very heartbroken and devastated. I dated my husband nearly 14 years since we were teens and got married about 2 1/2 years ago and now he walked out on me and my daughter who is his step daughter who she looked up to. he says it is the finances that he could no longer afford which he pretty much paid for was overwhelming, not to mention my bickering at him. he made some poor choices too financially like buying a car and not paying the mortgage which in the end hurt me financially. I even helped him to get debt management that he thanked me for, but one day i just blew up because i had so much anger against him for all the dumb things that he had done. he once said that i treated him like a child and that i was not his mother. it was hard for me to not get on his case because he would just let his bills pile up and that drove me nuts. well, he left about 1 week ago, but he still comes and showers at the house when i am at work. he is a teacher too and what is weird is that he sleeps in his classroom or car and acts like he doesnt because he obviously showers in the home still since his job is literraly 1 minute away from the house. he said he is willing to go to therapy and that is all he could promise. he said he will be involved in my daughters life because he pretty much raised her since she was born. He said that he wants me to stay put in the home but has not transferred fullly the mortgage payment this month. he said he does not want me or my daughter to be homeless, but they why has he not transferred all the money. In fact, we talked about it and he said money is a major factor to us falling apart so I guess i will find out tonight if he does go to therapy what his true intentions are. my daugther is devasted as well. she is 13 years old and is hurt that he just run away without dealing with the problems at home and feels lonely without him being in the home. I don't know what in the world he is thinking. I am 31 and he is 33. 

Name: mark | Date: Dec 21st, 2010 5:19 AM
I am a child of split parents, at the age of 15 my perfect mom and dad began fighting a lot and ended in a divorce. It still affects me 3 years later although dose not seem to bug my brother that was 20 at the time. I age is a big part of it, also if you do get a divorce be careful not to vent to your kid or tell them to much about the divorce only answer the questions they have, also do not forget to remind them every day that you love them and its not their fault. 

Name: J | Date: Dec 31st, 2010 8:30 AM

I am in the same boat with 3 young children. Not sure what I should do, but the longer I am in the situation, the better I feel for the kids about divorcing. Don't worry about you...if its best for the kids, it will be best for you 

Name: Shelb | Date: Jan 2nd, 2011 2:41 AM
my parents decided to stay together for an extra 10 years and there is 5 kids in this house. everyone of us wished they just got the divorve then because it made things hard for us since they never saw a happy couple or healthy relationship. 

Name: paula Tuck | Date: Jan 11th, 2011 3:48 AM
do not divorce, work it out, your child WILL suffer, and you will to in a year or so. you will regret it so much your soul will feel raped down to the core. 

Name: B Paul | Date: Jan 14th, 2011 1:51 AM
My wife is ready to divorce me and I have a four year old and two year old. I want to be single to find a normal relationship some day, but cant live with my self letting down the kids. 

Name: leila | Date: Jan 14th, 2011 8:33 PM
if I get divorse, I'll never ever remarry 

Name: priya | Date: Mar 30th, 2011 1:13 PM
if there is nothing wrong in ur side... just move away from him.... ur child will grow up and he himself will understand... dont worry 

Name: mfh | Date: Apr 27th, 2011 3:41 AM
thank you 

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