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Name: stepmomX5
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I have 5 stepchildren, but only seem to have problems with my stepdaugher who is now 23. My husband and I have 3 daughters together as well (ages 15, 13, & 11). His oldest daughter, my stepdaughter, is jealous and vendictive, and causes a lot of havoc in the family, especially between me and my husband. There is so much I do for her and her two children only to get the "stepmom" thing thrown back in my face whenever she feels threatened. My daughters (her half sisters) always spend time with her and babysit all the time, but now she is starting to attack them as well. Although we usually babysit her children on a regular basis (almost daily) we haven't seen them since the week before Thanksgiving. She is mad because I overheard her telling her 5 year old daughter that our other granddaughter (who is only 4 years old) is a brat, and I called her on it. Well, she jerked the kids away, and has been text messaging her dad ever since, with things like she hates us; he can come see her kids without me and my daughters; she doesn't have any sisters, only 4 brothers. When her dad said that we are a packaged deal, then she said that he can cross her children off and to enjoy the other grandchildren from his boys who only come over when they need something. Let me give one example of her vendictive behavior: Years ago, when she was about 18, she came over and out of no where decided to tell us about one of her older brothers malesting her over a several year time span. Well, we were very close to this particular brother at the time (and his family) and when his dad confronted him, it caused a riff between us and we went for about 4 years without seeing them. They are now just coming back around. Now that I look back on this I know that the reason she held that card and decided to drop it at that time was because we were so close to them. She still stayed close to them even after they stopped seeing us. After that, most of our time was spent with her and her family. Well, now I believe that since we are starting to see them again, she is extremely jealous. She wants us to fancy and dote upon her and her children only, which we spend a lot of time doing as well. She admitted to getting pregnant with her second child when she found out our daughter-in-law was pregnant. She'll say things like her oldest brother said that she was his only real sister, and that he only has us babysit his daughter as a last resort. I try to take what she says with a grain of salt as I know that she says things out of context just to be spiteful, as she has done with me so many times. And, if she is mad, she'll say things to the brothers to get them mad at us as well. I told my husband this will only get worse as our daughters get older, and what will she be like when they start having babies. I know she will do everything in her power to keep our daughters from getting close to the brothers and sabotage their relationship with their father, and I hate that they have to deal with this for the rest of their lives, and it is my fault. I am the one who married into this, without even considering the family dynamics. Yes, my stepdaughter has taught me to hate "stepparenting", and it is one of the hardest things ever. I wish I could just walk away, which I have considered but not only did I feel a responsiblity to my own children but to my stepchildren and step-grandchildren as well. Although I think that would be my stepdaughter's ultimate goal.
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