My wife is a Police Officer in the U.S. Virgin Islands and she allowed her 13 years old SON to used drugs around the house when am not around. This MUST STOP! I do not want her son to use drug around baby Donna. Can anyone give me any advice in how should I handle this.
Mad Like Hell
Upset and Mad like hell in the U.S. Virgin Islands ↓
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| Name: Sara Jo | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 8:45 PM |
| umm turn him and her in.. thats what i would do! ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 5:10 PM |
| Dont get what you are on about? ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 5:55 PM |
| Since your wife IS a police officer,it could be a little more complicated to turn her in but I think you should walk into the station and go to the head of the department and that way he can't just ignore what you are telling him. He won't if he is a true officer who is on the police force for the right reasons. You could also file for divorce and request full custody of baby Donna but that could get very ugly and you could end up without her at all depending on how devious your wife wants to get. Please be careful no matter what you do because there's also the possibility that your wife could have (friends) on the force that would back her up and not you so think hard before you act on anything because you could lose everything you don't want to. Or you could just keep quiet and protect baby Donna the best you can,this way you are for sure still in her life and from the sounds of it,she needs you. It's your call but just think long and hard about the outcome,you know your wife best so think about how she would react and then decide from there how you want to handle the situation.Good luck to you and baby Donna! ↑ |
| Name: Papabear | Date: Jun 16th, 2006 10:05 PM |
| I love baby donna so much that I am afraid to get to get divorce. My wife has the U.S Virgin Islands Police Department on her side and I don't know what to do. We havn't have sex is 2 weeks which is very unusual, we used to had sex 4 or 5 times a week and now she don't give me any because she feel that I don't like her son. All I have asked her to do is to tell her son not to do drugs in the house around baby donna when I am not around. Is that to much to ask??? ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 2:32 PM |
You havent had sex in around 2 weeks,well count yourself lucky try going without for 6 months,my other half works away a lot of the time and although when he comes home it is great i have to wait a bit longer than 2 weeks.
Also i dont think that this post is real it just does not add up,If your wife is a police officer then their is no way that she would let her son use drugs around the house. ↑ |
| Name: Papabear | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 8:29 PM |
Lynne, This post is real. I swear on my father grave. Police Officers here is the U.S. Virgin Islands are and always in the news. One of them was arested and charged with rape of a 13 years old litte girl. Here is proof, Here is the link to the U.S. Virgin Islands Daily News http://www.virginislandsdailynews.c
om/index.pl/article_home?id=1759221
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| Name: Papabear | Date: Jun 17th, 2006 8:36 PM |
Sorry I gave the wrong the first time. Here is the correct link
http://www.virginislandsdailynews
.com/index.pl/article_home?id=1759221
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| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 18th, 2006 8:57 AM |
Sorry i could not find anything about this!
But if you are really worried then blow the wistle on it and get the hell out of there with the baby! ↑ |
| Name: Papa Bear | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 1:27 AM |
| There are 3 links. You will have to copy them side by side then press enter ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 7:14 AM |
| Name: stacey | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 3:58 PM |
| It is quite unfortunate for a police officer to allow her 13yrs.old son to use drug in and around your household, especially if you have a baby. My advise to you ,is both you and your wife along with her son who is experiencing a drug abuse problem need to seek family counseling and enroll the 13yrs old in drug rehabilitation institution to help him resolve this problem. He is still a minor and he needs all the support from you in order to make this work. This is not a unique situation there are many families in America that are experiencing similar problems with their teenage children.Family counseling will also help to bridge this gap. There are many programs out there that addresses substance abuse issues, please seek one in your area that will work for you to bring harmony back into your household. ↑ |
| Name: papabear | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 5:48 PM |
| stacey , thanks you very much for your advice. The 13 years old is OUT OF CONTROL and he never listen to me or his mother. His Mother baby him all of the time. How am I going to get family counseling if I Don't get the support from his Mother???? ↑ |
| Name: Girly29 | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 10:02 PM |
| Papabear....Sad to say, but if your wife is not going to work with you on trying to reastabilsh this 13yr olds out of control behaviour than your going to have to take control of this situation. If you dont like what's happening in your life only you can change it. I wouldn't let the fact that she's a police officer intimidate you, theirs higher than her and her buddy's..... Does your wife use drugs also?..And just because she is a police officer means nothing ! It's only a title...Not everyone takes their job serious, EVEN police officers. Your wife needs to grow a backbone and stand up to this kid! If she's not going to speak up then it will only get worst...and eventually your marriage WILL disintegrate......and she'll find herself being a single parent....Good luck ↑ |
| Name: papabear | Date: Jun 20th, 2006 5:31 PM |
| Thanks for the advice Girly29. If it wasn't for babby Donna I would have long gone, now it would be very hard to move on with out baby donna. My wife told me she use to used drugs with her ex boy frend years ago and she don't used it any more. We been together for the pat 8 years and I have never seen her use drugs, but I don't her what goes on behind my back. I really love her but she is not giving me the support I need. I work very hard everyday. ↑ |
| Name: stacey | Date: Jun 20th, 2006 5:45 PM |
| papabear is there other children in your household? If the answer is yes, what is their response to this matter? I'll will be interesting to learn more about this situation. What has your wife said when you approached her with this matter? Have you asked her to go to counseling? Maybe she is overwhelmed with her son's issues also. This is a family matter that you both need to resolve together. Marriage isn't a war or competition, her son is also part of the family and needs help. Sometimes people live with denial and defend or protect thier kids even if thier kids are wrong but remember that you have the responsibility to implement corrective meassures to retified this troubling issue. As I stated previously about family counseling, both you and your wife can find someone to talk to abot this situation. ↑ |
| Name: Papabear | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 6:54 PM |
| There are no other chirldren in the house other than me, my wife, Baby Donna and her 13 years old son. Her son refused to go back to school at the age of 13 and all he does is sleep, eat Drink and smoke Marijuana all day long. He will do virtually anything for the drug. I tried to discipline her son But I AM NOT GETTING THE SUPPORT I NEED FROM HIS MOTHER TO DO SO. She has baby him all of the time weahter he is wrong or right. I really don't want baby Donna who is 2 years old to grow up to be like her brother. ↑ |
| Name: Celestine | Date: Dec 11th, 2007 4:46 AM |
Julien Henley, Manager at Bernard K. Passman Galleries 5195 Dronningens Gade Ste. #2 is a very disrespectful guy and is a disgrace to Passman Gallerires. This guy has a woman who is married and complete whore living in Atlanta and he even have a child with her. Brenda Fahie is a no good woman who have her naked pictures all over the net and call herself thesweetestB.
Julien has a child with Brenda Fahie and they gave it to her husband while he has all these women on St. Thomas (dirty dog). ↑ |
| Name: papatiger | Date: Dec 14th, 2007 10:54 PM |
Let’s be very candid here. The U.S. Virgin Islands is full of all kind of immorality and that place is like hell. Both men and women are bad and in particular the women.
Here’s a story:
Basically I know of a friend of a friend who was in what he considered a committed relationship with a USVI woman. Unbeknown to me, my sister was dating a guy on St. Thomas and we found out that very guy is also living with another woman and kept lying to my sister about the affair. Now, the guy in question is the guy who we later found out have been in a relationship with that friend of a friend wife. His wife just can’t seem to give up on my sister’s man whom we also discovered is another woman man as well.
Luckily, my sister is not married but that woman (the friend of my friend) wife was married and has two kids and after years of marriage we found out that she divorced her husband taking him to the cleaners just so she can be with this guy on St. Thomas (my so-called sister’s man). Fortunate for her, her husband reunited with her but she still did not discontinue her relationship with this guy on St. Thomas (a manager at jewelry store).
This summer the friend of my friend wife who resides in the ATL made two visits to St. Thomas and was with this guy then my sister finally saw the light of day. This ATL woman after her last trip to St. Thomas this summer decided again to brake up with her ex-husband to be with this guy. As I said, my sister saw the light but I am concern for the friend of my friend who apparently is being lied to by his wife (who is a gold-digger and to some was a dancer at strip club in NYC at one-time). I pondered on this but eventually mentioned it to my friend so he can tell his friend what is really going on and why he is being hurt by this ATL woman (his wife).
Based on that information, the husband finally was given a clue and out of curiosity, he began to check on phone statements, the telephone, other documents, etc and realized a lot of communication between his wife and a particular St. Thomas number. Well my friend is a private investigator and I always whine and rant about the situation, so he finally decided to conduct a courtesy investigation for his friend and revealed that his ATL woman – his ex-wife and live-in woman, was indeed cheating on him with the Manager of a Jewelry place on St. Thomas and have been with him while she was in St. Thomas over the summer. The investigator left a note on that individual car about the investigation.
The husband was told about the investigation and the note but he said nothing to the wife. He began his own internal investigation as I have indicated around the house and satisfied his own curiosity and suspicions. Would you have gone back with such a woman? Can you continue to trust that woman? Is this right?
I know that the husband is full of mixed emotions right now, as he may feel that he has been taken for a ride again and have been played not once but quite a few times, even though the evidence of his wife cheating was apparent. I also heard that that guy (the Manager at the Jewelry store) may very well be the father of one of her kids. What a mess to put your husband through! Her husband must be an emotional wreck at this time.
At the end of the day, perhaps Julien should think real hard because that woman will certainly do the same thing to him one-day. Having said that, Brenda should also ponder and consider hard because her nasty life-style have cost her and no man will take her seriously but just use her. I am upset with folks in the USVI. The bottom line is some women and many at that, are making other good women look bad in the sight of men today. ↑ |
| Name: SMART GUY | Date: Jul 12th, 2008 3:48 AM |
| LISTEN UP SMART GUY 13 YRS OLD HE IS GOING TO USE DRUGS OUT SIDE OF THE HOUSE UNSUPERVISED OR IN THE HOUSE SUPERVISED YOU CHOSE WHICH WILL CONTAIN THE HIGHER RISK ↑ |
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