| Hi John, I feel for you mate, and comend you for all the effort you have obviously put in to try and make your marriage work. I live in the UK and I was with my husband for 10 years and gave him 2 wonderful children a girl and a boy. I too felt like a single parent and was more or less left to do everything myself. He only joined in if it was a family do which involved alcohol!!! Otherwise he wouldnt bother. He never bothered to show me any affection, and our sex life was none existent!. I stuck it out and tried everything to get him interested, I even lost 50lbs cos I thought he was ashamed of me. I would have stayed with him for the sake of the children, but I suddenly realised he was ignoring them aswell as me. My little boy was 2 at the time and was a nightmare he was truly naughty and my health visitor sent him to a pshcologist (soz if spelling bad) she told me that because of the atmosphere at home he was being naughty to draw attention to himself and hopefully difuse the situation. We wernt really rowin in front of him but it was having a affect on the kids. So I left my husband and took the kids to a horried house on a horried council estate and I can honestly say it was the best thing I ever did. My sons behaviour changed overnight and I went on to meet another man and now have 2 girls to him aswell. My ex has remarried and sees his kids on a regular basis and amazingly we all get on now. My sons 11 now and plays football and weve even all been on a holiday together with his team. I know its hard for you but in my opinion you only get one go at this life so why be miserable? seek legal advise and find out where you stand as regards to the kids, but if your wife wants to go then you cant really stop her. I see lots of my friends like you stuck in a loveless one sided relationship and its annoying to watch. Good luck and keep your chin up. Hope this helps??? Sarah ↑ |
