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I am 23 yrs old and have been married for almost 3 years. There's a lot that has happened with us in the past couple years but that would be too long for me to type. But to sum it up, I feel like half of me don't want to be married anymore and I feel horrible for feeling that way. I have changed since my husband and I got married. I use to be quiet, shy and do whatever anyone told me. That's kind of what happened to us when we got married.. I feel we really rushed getting married; we dated for 1 1/2, he proposed to me and a month later we got married at a court house. I wanted to wait but he was impatient, so I went along with it. He's a great guy and I love him but I feel we don't connect anymore. I'm more socialable now, I love to be around ppl and I'm out going now. He is the total opposite of me. A lot of our problems got so bad last month we almost did get divorced but I got scared and figured I would try to work things out despite my confusion. Things were fine but the feelings came back. I'm gong to a Psychologist and he is helping but its driving me crazy I feel this way. I just want to live life because I didn't as a child or teenager. The therapist says my cognitive development really isn't fully complete..... has anyone felt this way or have any advice. It's like I have two sides.. one side wants to try because that is the right thing to do.. but than my other side wants to do things on my own because I always had to "please" everyone else... it makes me sad I feel this way because I'm not a bad person :( ↓
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| Name: chad | Date: Jan 14th, 2011 1:00 PM |
| all young couples go thru this, my wife is your age and im a couple yrs older but both of us have felt this. u can have both but ur hubby and u will have to compromise. when u wanna go out u have to make him feel like u can be trusted and possibly help him find something to do, or invite him, and when he wants to go out u have to let him. my wife and i have 2 kids but we take one weekend a month and go crazy together out on the town. when things get real bad we have gone on lil road trips to nearby cities, gotten cheap hotel rooms just to be spontaneous and it helps. good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Stevo | Date: Oct 17th, 2011 10:56 PM |
Friend,
You are unique in your diversity. The "ME" syndrome is a marrage killer. You are looking at a part of yourself when you look at him. So go take care of yourself! Love is patient and it's not an emotion. It's a decision that you make. With anything in life....quiting is by far the easiest thing to do. Someday this part of your life will be a 2 minute story you tell, don't do anything you would be unwilling to tell. Fight for what is right, you feel bad for a reason, because it's not who you are. Who are you, discribe yourself....you could make this the best marrage......
Read " The Love Dare" :D ↑ |
| Name: Anon | Date: Mar 15th, 2012 11:07 AM |
Get out while you can. I got married at 20, too. Ten years on, I feel like my life has passed me by. I've not done anything I wanted to do, and now I won't get the chance to. We have kids and a 'good life' so I can't leave - can't afford to, since I dropped out of university to get married in the first place. Just feel like my life is over, now.
My husband is happy because he's successful - great job, big house, nice car, wife, 2.4 children etc. ↑ |
| Name: Angie | Date: Apr 2nd, 2012 10:38 PM |
| Im in the same boat as you. I've been with my husband for 11 years. we got married as soon as i turned 18. Im now 25, and im not sure im in love with him anymore. People change, thats a fact of life. I have 2 children with him. So i have more to think about than just myself. If i were you Id give it some serious thought, maybe separate for a while and see how you feel then. You dont want to throw it away if you think one day youll regret it. best of luck. ↑ |
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