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I have joint legal/physical custody of my two oldest with my ex-husband. I live in Massachusetts and wondering if anyone knows if support amount is different if you have joint custody. He only pays 50 dollars a week for two kids and everyone says I am getting scewed by him... I am afraid of a long drawn out court procedure to only find out that 50 dollars is all i'm untitled to. Does anyone share joint custody and how does your support work.? please help. ↓
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| Name: dawndawn | Date: Nov 22nd, 2005 4:15 PM |
Hi getting screwed? :O)
I think you might be getting screwed. You can talk to a lawyer in your state or even inquire with a paralegal for a lot less. Paralegal's can draw up legal papers and help you in a situation like this. If your ex is making a lot more money then you, you could be entitled to alot more support. Check with a paralegal in your area. Good luck.
dawn at: finallyfamilytime.com ↑ |
| Name: getting screwed? | Date: Nov 22nd, 2005 5:01 PM |
| ty for the advice i will look into it ↑ |
| Name: J | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 4:13 PM |
Can you make it on your own without additional child support? If you let go of fighting for a check would your ex be willing to buy school clothes, school supplies, medical insurance, those kind of things? maybe it would be worth it to find a friendlier solution. depends on what kind of terms you are on. Don't worry about what other people say. it depends on how you see your situation.
I share custody and I didn't think it was worth it to go after him for every dime. Once he realized I wasn't going to try to take him for everything, he let his guard down and since then we've been able to negotiate really fair deals. neither one of us feels screwed in the end.
I understand it may not work in every situation. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: getting screwed? | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:32 PM |
| ty for your response J. Actually my ex and I are on really horrible terms. He wont give me a dime extra for school clothes or winter clothes anything like that because he says that he has them 50% of the time and he takes care of that when they are with him. I feel kinda bad becaue the man I am with now pays for all their needs and he sometimes voices that he doesnt think its fair. I agree. but I am so worried about going back to court. I do not work. I am a stay at home mom. I have two children with this other man and its so hard a times. See, its not like the dad of my first two has them only on weekends. He has them for four days then i have them for four days. I am so confused and just hate the thought of court and me looking like a fool. He will not let them wear anything to my house that he has bought for them. clothes , jackets shoes, etc. they come back with the same clothes on that I send them with, unwashed. He provides health insurance through his new wife. I know he makes a hell of alot more money than me., considering I dont work. lol. I've had a lawyer tell me he wouldnt take my case because he said that i screwed myself by agreeing to joint custody. dont know what to do!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: mkrusty | Date: Dec 4th, 2005 10:58 PM |
| it all depends on how much he gets paid a week. i am paying 400.00 a month, and my ex wife calls and tells me how much her and her new boyfriend loves spending my child support money on them selfs. it seems to me that we have a lot of father bashers out there ↑ |
| Name: to mkrusty | Date: Dec 5th, 2005 1:23 PM |
| thats just plain rude of your ex wife to do that to you. I wouldnt do that partly because I only get 200.00 a month lol. but even still I wouldnt do that. How often do you have you kids? I think that matters when determine child support. Does your ex wife work? and how many kids do you have together? My ex husband is a complete jerk (so is his new wife) and he actually intimidates me and makes me afraid to take him back to court.(not fear for my safety)its hard to expalin to people who dint get the situation. like my new fiance. Your ex is a complete ass if she is actually spending that money on her and her bf isnt of those kids. Maybe you should try to get custody. good luck. ↑ |
| Name: Rosie | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 4:57 AM |
| Name: tushy | Date: Jan 7th, 2006 10:55 AM |
| Name: MAGE | Date: Jan 8th, 2006 7:37 AM |
| talk to a social worker, they can help. TRUST ME!! I've been dealing with a divorce from my husband and he is paying $228/month/kid. Or contact your state Child Support Enforcment Division. All my luck to you. ↑ |
| Name: laurie | Date: Jan 13th, 2006 7:06 PM |
| you're entitled to a lot more than that. The state has a set amount that you're entitled to. You should look into it. ↑ |
| Name: Kelly | Date: Jan 13th, 2006 11:02 PM |
| Is the amount the same if you have joint custody though? And is it really true that if you dont work they put you down as having a minimum wage job anyways? I am recently remarried and we have two children together so I stay home to raise them for now rather than pay for daycare for all four. (counting my oldest two from first marriage)It wouldnt be worth me to work in that case. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks ↑ |
| Name: ????/ | Date: Jan 17th, 2006 3:16 PM |
| Name: Jahmir | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 10:11 PM |
| Name: the boss of sex | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 6:57 PM |
| iam the boss of bad things ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 7:53 PM |
Call the court and find out if you can get acourt apointed attorney. His ex has full coustody but we have them every weekend. He pays 25% of his paycheck for both kids. I may have to do with how much he makes. Try checking online too. Sometimes it just has to do with what your divorce decree states but that canbe changed depending on his pay. I hope I helpped some??
Good LUCK!!! ↑ |
| Name: Elaina | Date: Jun 24th, 2006 5:08 PM |
| Name: pj754 | Date: Jun 25th, 2006 1:44 PM |
| I have joint custody with my ex as well. $50 a week seems very low for 2 children. You do need to check your state's statues regarding child support. I have 3 kids and my ex is suppose to pay 32% of his income but when he is unemployed he is still suppose to pay $131 a week. They based it off of his W2's. Yet, my ex doesn't pay in a timely manner, so I never know when I will receive a payment. I have gone months without any payments from him. When I took him back to court, the judge ordered him to get current or he was going to jail. Yet, a different judge just slapped his hand and made me withdrawal my case. My ex had a good job until I left him. Conveniently after I filed for divorce, he gets laid off, can't find work, and his work becomes sporatic. I truly believe it's all about him not wanting to pay child support. The legal system doesn't always work in your favor. Now, my ex is taking me back to court for custody of my 13 year old, who would rather live with him than me. My 13 year old is doing this because he is at a rebellious age and can get away with whatever he wants while at his dads and doesn't like the rules in my home. I have been trying to teach him how to be very responsible but he listens to his father's word that is like gold to him. If the change of custody goes through, my ex will have to pay me 29% of his income for two children. I am a stay at home mom and have been for 13 years. Now, I have a 7 month old and don't plan to go back to work until she goes to school. I want to give her the same benefits of mommy care like I did for my other three. If you want more money, you have no choice but to take him back to court. However, do your research first. Make sure you try to find a very aggressive attorney, one that will get things done. Although, they are hard to come by. In my case, the Child Support Enforcement Unit, doesn't work fast enough. The ex can go 90 days without making any payments before they will do anything. I have been battling with my ex for 3 years and realize that I will always battle with him until our youngest is 18 yeras old. My fiance is a good man and has covered all the expenses on my children ever since I filed for my divorce. Yes, he gets upset at times because he's always the one paying. Especially, when my ex gets into his face and tells him they are not his kids, he needs to stay out of it. Also, my ex is suppose to pay for half of the extra cirricular activities and medical/dental bills. He's suppose to carry full coverage insurance which he doesn't. When ever it comes to money, it's a constant fight with him. My ex's personal life style is more important than his children. When I do get the child support, I spend it on the children and keep all the receipts to prove it--just in case he ever drags me back into court for me to prove just so. I'm like you, I dread the idea of having to go back to court but I'm fighting for what is right and for my children's sake. Especially the other two children, who don't want to spend the time with their father. My ex gets 2 nights during the week, 2 full weekends out of the month and 1/2 of another weekend. I only get them 1 full weekend out of the month. Plus, he gets 4 weeks of uninterrupted co-parenting time in the summer months and I only get 3. I would love nothing more to change his visitation but I can only do what the judge says. The judge punished me and gave my ex more visitiation time because I made the mistake of not letting my ex see the children for a whole month because at the time, I had nothing in writing through the courts regarding visitation. I was afraid, he wouldn't bring the kids back home like he treated. The judge felt that the children needed to establish their relationship with their father. To date, their father is so irresponsible and yet they do nothing about it. This is a frustrating racket but I keep fighting for the kid's sake. So hang in there and do your research in your state. Also, if you can't afford an attorney, you can get a public defender to represent you at no cost. You might want to check that option out. It think it's very said, when the other parent isn't willing to help provide for their children. They deserve a chance at a good life. These deadbeats should be punished to the fullest extent of the law. Hang in there and good luck, I hope this helps. ↑ |
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