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Name: momo

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I have noticed that many of these post are frustration and anger driven....While I can say I have had my fair share of frustration with my ex husband...for the most part we have a decent relationship...people actually think it is weird...We still do things as a family...we talk on a daily basis.....it is definalty over though , we are both in new relationships...and i am expecting another child....but it is nice knowing that if needed I can almost always go to my ex for support in raising our child....I guess the best thing we can all remeber is that two people will always have two diffrent views...It is important for compromise ....You can't always have it your way...So times you have to give in for the sake of your child....I have learnd after numerous times...that getting mad doesn't help....My ex is a good dad...and shile sometimes i seem to forget that because i think i am a better mom...I stop myself and say we just do things a bit different thats why we are not together....Well sorry so long....but just wanted to say that...if anyone needs anyone to talk to i am here.....feel free to email me at [email protected] ↓

Name: staceykelley | Date: Oct 13th, 2006 10:22 PM

my ex and i have a good relationship. it wasnt always like that trust me but now its smooth sailing we have always put the kids first always just cause we fell outta love should not effect the children we can talk to each other about everything we dont do family things together cause we both are in a relationship it wouldnt be fair to the others but it is good to have no stress on the childrens time i am expecting to and he is going to take the children while i am in the hospital which will help out a whole bunch im glad u and your ex get along it makes for a happy family ↑

Name: Texas_Mom | Date: Oct 13th, 2006 11:51 PM

Momo,
I have a very decent relationship with my ex-husband. We have been divorced since 1991. He was not a huge part of the boys' childhood, however, now that they are adults, they visit him quite often. He had major alcohol/drug issues when we divorced and simply walked away for close to a year. He would sporadically have visitation with the boys but it was nothing consistent. Now that they're adults, I can call him and discuss anything with him and he's actually pretty level headed. He also gives me insight into the issues that young adult males have when they're 18-20. It brings me great joy to know that I have patiently waited for their relationship to blossom and it has paid off bigtime. I've always reassured the boys that he will come around when he's healed. He did, he has. I also see what wonderful effects it has on the boys and that makes me happy. ↑

Name: momo | Date: Oct 14th, 2006 2:15 AM

Its nice to see other people on this board have good relationships with their ex....I see so much hostility here..Everyone complains about their ex saying they do something wrong...i think people need to look at the bigger picture sometimes and admit they aren't perfect either...I wish sometimes people would step aside for a moment and see that mabe the problem isn't truly that big of a deal...but it is them who make it such a big deal....Sometimes its picking and chooseing your battle...though you may not always win...you can stay sane if you let some things go ↑