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Name: sleepyalittlenuts

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So my husband and i separated a few months after our daughter was born. ( as a result of him assulting me while we were trying to work through the affair he had theough out my pregnancy) we later divorced and have custoday arrangments laid out for him to see her accuple hrs through the week and full day sunday. For the last 4 years all he has ever done is take her on days that there are family functions birthdays, reunions ect. I think that his new years resolution is to actually utalize his custody time. How does one cope where does one go for advice on how to deal with shared custody? ↓

Name: sleepyalittlenuts | Date: Jan 11th, 2010 3:00 AM

Really the problem is that i just resent the fact that hes going to walk in when she is 5 and will remember and start to build this relationship and gain no punishment for his poor choice all this time. I have planned my whole life around this girl and the time when she is gone...i find my self missing her so much and worrying. I know it will be good for her to have her father in her life (if hes honestly not using drugs ect) Is there anyone else out there that feels this way? and how do you cope ↑

Name: caramel coffee | Date: Jan 27th, 2010 2:23 AM

I understand it's like they do the wrong, ruin the marriage and your life and don't seem to pay for it. My son is older but doesn't like to spend time because of the way his dad behaved with me. His dad spends all holidays with the woman he had an affair with and her children and only gives his own children what time is left over and now he doesn't even do that. I cope by just trying to get a life of my own. I don't respond to remarks or questions. I am just praying and asking for prayers. ↑